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need help - 5/14/2009 1:37:31 AM   
psychomex


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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 1:41:06 AM   
darklight17


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Status: offline 		Don't be absurd. Absolutely! Although if you married on other premises, it probably isn't wise to abandon all of the things that led you down the marriage path. Just make sure that you are both okay with everything you do, and think twice, thrice, and four times before every adding other people. That seems to be a killer for some.

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 1:53:09 AM   
Fadingthought


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Status: offline 		Why not? There are different levels of involvement for all parties, maybe it is a kink, maybe it is a 24/7 deal.  But don't be ashamed of getting the person you love off.
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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 1:54:34 AM   
GabrielleSlave


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Status: offline 		For me, marriage is an extension of ownership, a sign that the submissive is openly owned in vanilla and kinky life equally.....especially as the word 'obey' would be left in.  i know that marriage is not for everyone, but if Master every wanted to marry me, my answer would be a huge YES!!!!!  *goes back to dreaming..... Him "You will marry Me!" me "Yes Sir!"*

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 2:39:18 AM   
ranja


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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 2:48:49 AM   
IronBear


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Why not? My wife, Lady Neets and I share a Master/Mistress relationship, I.E. we are both Dominant. It does tend to greatly reduce the chances of collaring slaves or even finding subs for play partners though because so many female sub/slaves really appear to want ultimately a life partner. Still them's the breaks and we just move on. Thank the Gods that out lifestyle is dependent on neither owning slaves or practising BDSM. Good communications and no secrets is just the ticket for a continuing relationship generally unless outside things like job losses etc interfere.


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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 3:58:20 AM   
breatheasone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: psychomex

can marriage and this life mix.

From what i hear, yes.


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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 4:43:53 AM   
janiebelle


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Status: offline 		Very much so.
It worked well for me and my LH anyway.
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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 4:45:20 AM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: GabrielleSlave

Him "You will marry Me!" me "Yes Sir!"*


Ha. That was cute.

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 5:20:59 AM   
Mikalsheart


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Status: offline 		Yes, yes, yes, Master and i met on line in a BDSM chat room and have been married for 8 years now. i agreed to "love, honor, and OBEY"....W/we shared a knowing smile at that word.....

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 5:23:35 AM   
sirsholly


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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 5:25:06 AM   
marie2


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quote:

ORIGINAL: psychomex

can marriage and this life mix.


For many people, it has, but I wonder if the ds aspect has a shelf-life.  I tend to think it would, though I've never lived it for years on end, so I don't know.

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 6:34:33 AM   
smilezz


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Status: offline 		Yes! and quite well actually....

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 6:38:10 AM   
silvermuse


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Yes, Master and I have been married for ten years this August.

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 6:41:37 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		works for me and my husband :) 

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 7:08:51 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Depends.Which comes first, the marriage or the D/s?

It's pretty easy for kinksters to simply take their existing relationship into marriage.

It is NOT so easy for marrieds to adopt D/s.  If both partners are kinky, it can work, although there are big issues when they're both on the same side of the kneel.

What's your situation, OP?


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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 7:11:19 AM   
Fitznicely


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quote:

ORIGINAL: psychomex

can marriage and this life mix.


Need.....more.....info

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 8:36:55 AM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		Yes, especially if you marry the D/s partner.

Not so much, if you decide your existing marriage needs D/s added. That's unfair to your partner (unless they come to the same conclusion- without pressure from you) because then you're trying to change the terms of your original agreement.

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 8:47:19 AM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		Im so glad you asked me that question.  Marriage and Nothing mixes.  I hope that clears up any misconceptions that you may have had. 

BadOne

< Message edited by SailingBum -- 5/14/2009 9:08:37 AM >

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RE: need help - 5/14/2009 11:43:30 AM   
sirsholly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Im so glad you asked me that question.  Marriage and Nothing mixes.  I hope that clears up any misconceptions that you may have had. 

BadOne
you mean...i am really NOT happily married to my Master and just never knew it?
*sob*

Thanks for wizzing on my parade


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