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question to submisives - 5/14/2009 1:43:33 AM   
psychomex


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Status: offline 		how did u know u were one and how long did it take to be ready
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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 1:56:18 AM   
GabrielleSlave


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Status: offline 		Always been this way.  Just took meeting Master to be ready.

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 2:28:20 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		i've always been me but not always brave enough to be honest about it to partners....and i still find things scary...i hope i always will

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 3:08:14 AM   
CollaredLisa


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From: Germany
Status: offline 		I'd say always, though it surfaced when I started puberty. I realised I was "ready" when I met my Master and we first met in real life - I never really intended this to move into real life, but it did and I am happy about it.
Once we had met it took me quite a while to really be ready to accept who I am, but that was mostly because I am incredibly shy.

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 4:12:32 AM   
wonderwhyicant


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Status: offline 		I was thirteen, when I started have an ongoing fantasy about the lifestyle, with me being kidnapped and sold as a sex slave. Since I was raised in a very religious house and very much protected from the outside world I was always embarassed about them.  When I grew up and went through my divorce I found out that this type of lifestyle was real I was extremely surprised. 

As for being ready, I have been ready to learn for 5  years now, I have just never found the right person yet.  I try and keep my head up and be positive, but it can be very hard and emotionally draining.

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 4:27:33 AM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		Being ready for a successful relationship? My whole life led up to that point. I had to figure out what I needed in a relationship and what I could not tolerate. My hard limits and must haves. This is a list of what I need in a partner, and very little on that list is about kinky sex.

Didn't come across the definition of submissive and dominant until about 7 years ago but recognized myself in it as soon as I saw it.

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 8:51:35 AM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		Age two.  As soon as I saw Catwoman whipping and being worshipped by her minions.  I knew then that I wanted to be one of those men.  I jumped into my fantasies in real life in my teens.  That was long ago.

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 8:55:01 AM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		I just knew, that's all. I was just always that way, from my earliest memories.

I was ready way too soon: it didn't take long because I identified so young.

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 9:18:35 AM   
janiebelle


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Status: offline 		I fancied myself to be the strong, independent, modern woman.
I was in my early 20s when my first Dom snatched me up and turned me over his knee (totally deserved for hissy fit in airport).
I had NEVER been physically disciplined before, not even as a child.
Mindblowing. 
Anyway, I had two D/s LTRs since- this is my true nature.
j

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 9:52:29 AM   
babyjessica


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Status: offline 		to all dominant women, i am babyjessica please look up my profile know that i am serious looking to be taken all the way, tired of all the bullshitters!

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 10:41:57 AM   
littleone35


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Joined: 2/17/2005
Status: offline 		I was born submissive. When i met my Mentor i was ready and i embraced that side of me.

Matt's littleone

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 3:06:16 PM   
NyDaddysGirl


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Status: offline 		Always.  My earliest fantasies involved my submission.  I dabbled with being tied to the bed when I was 17 but I didn't know how to pursue that.  After my vanilla marriage ended I found myself in a relationship with a Dom and everything just came naturally.  I was always ready, just didn't have the right partner until after my divorce.

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 3:13:59 PM   
velvetvixen


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Status: offline 		Like Collared Lisa, I always knew what I wanted, it was the acceptance part that was difficult. Fortunately, early on I was looked after by those much smarter about things than I was and I got it all together. I was 18 when I had my first experience and that was many years ago, long before internet and all things virtual. I think that was a good thing, everything was very public and people knew who was new and who was known. Psychomex, don't rush and keep a good head on your shoulders. If it feels wrong, it most likely isn't right. Much happiness--vv

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 3:40:51 PM   
WestBaySlave


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Status: offline 		 It was a gradual process. I first felt the instinct age twelve, but didn't fully understand what that meant for me until age fifteen. Age nineteen, I met a friend in the BDSM scene incidentally - I met her in another context - and got to know her and her dom, both who guided me in my initial forays into D/s a year later. The last year has meant a lot of discovery about who I am and what I want and need in a relationship, and my priorities have shifted considerably over time.

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 9:08:28 PM   
whis31


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Status: offline 		I've always wanted to please everone. So I would say always, but took a bad marriage and a divorce for me to accpet myself as a submissive. Then when i meet Master after about a year later i took the step to become his slave.

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RE: question to submisives - 5/14/2009 9:13:33 PM   
greenearth21


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Status: offline 		around 5. I found a "movie" at my house that I had no business seeing. It all finally made sense when I found out there was a name for what I liked/wanted when I was 16.
Is there really a definitive time where one is "ready" though?

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RE: question to submisives - 5/15/2009 12:12:07 AM   
makemeworthy


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Status: offline 		I started getting erections whenever I viewed depictions of people being tortured when I was still in grammar school. I would constantly daydream about myself having those things done to me. My first wet dream was about the nuns who taught at that school. They were crucifying
me.
How did I know I was ready? Quite frankly I found the notion of suffering for the sexual gratification of others so stimulating for myself that I couldn't jump into the deep end of the pool soon enough!!!!!!!!!!
 

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RE: question to submisives - 5/15/2009 12:43:10 AM   
malloves69


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Status: offline 		first time she started playing with my ass i knew i was ready  see what a few innocent female fingers up a guys ass can do ?  once she found my prostate i was hers ....and she knew it .....and boy its been fun  mal ...she is a amazing lady ...love our times together

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RE: question to submisives - 5/15/2009 6:32:53 AM   
oceanwinds


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Status: offline 		I believed that i always knew, but i resisted that part of me for the majority of my life. Now i am open to discovering it, and have been for 3 years, and still struggle with permitting the submissive side in me come out. Through my life, i had learned to control everything within me so i would not shatter and break again, like i did when my brother died. All that controling didnt solve a thing, we fall and shatter in life. Best be who i am so i can fly instead of being afraid of my self.

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RE: question to submisives - 5/15/2009 9:54:42 AM   
kitastrophe33


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Status: offline 		Well, I have enjoyed being tied up or confined since I was a little kid. When I got older and started dating, my mother labeled me as "boy crazy." (She also accused me of being a slut like it's a bad thing). And I always was a sucker for a certain kind of guy... I started playing with D/s with my very first boyfriend and continued to do so with every boyfriend except for my ex husband (hmm...).

During college and for a few years after that, I tried so hard to find career ambition like everyone else had, but really, I always was ambitious. I just had a different primary goal. I love being owned...serving and pleasing my partner. I get more joy from that than any job could ever give me. It took until I was about 25 to accept that as an aspiration though. It was pretty hard for me to reject society's idea of how the modern woman should be...If it was hard for me, I can only imagine how ego dystonic (how much it goes against one's idealized self) it must be for male subs...





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