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RE: The use of "dear" - 5/29/2009 3:00:51 AM   
KateyCaine


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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

Other than "Pet", she receives a variety of names: Sweetie, Toots, Little One, Slavegirl, Girly, My Pet, Toy, a large number of terms not fitting for polite company, Sweetheart...

I can't recall using "dear" but I likely have. My grandfather used to call waitresses "Dear".

As per the why, I assume most of the dominants calling their submissives "Dear" (and other cute pet names) are not the one night stand sort. When a relationship exists (especially a 24/7 dynamic) it's not "Listen up, Cum Bucket!" all the time. Sometimes it's "Sweetie, take my boots off." or "Gimme a kiss, Toots."




Whenever He calls me "dear", I feel very warm inside and very secure and loved. I know that anything He calls me comes from a place of love and is done in love.


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RE: The use of "dear" - 5/29/2009 6:17:46 AM   
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RE: The use of "dear" - 5/29/2009 9:26:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterM32N

cos they are guy hahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 


Basically an unintelligible response. One could take it you were saying that the males I referred to are gay however no matter.

Welcome to the boards, I'm sure as a number of the ladies here when they read your profile and I quote:
quote:

in my eyes females are lower then the male in every way  if she is submissive or not. females are on earth to birth babys and to please the man
you make many friends who will just love you.


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RE: The use of "dear" - 5/29/2009 10:24:55 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Master calls me his.girl.  It rocks.  But then, I call him my.Boy.  He doesn't balk and he loves it as a term of affection.
Master IronBear has addressed me as lass before.  Gives me warm fuzzies.
Master Ravenmuse address' me as sweetie at times.  I get warm fuzzies then also.
But if someone called me anything like that without knowing me, then I would find it presumptuous and uncomfortable.
 
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RE: The use of "dear" - 5/29/2009 10:33:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Intent. If it is meant kindly then it is fine with me. If it is meant as a futile means of putting me in 'my place' from an unknown dom then it is not so fine.
If it comes from a complete stranger that I happen to briefly interact with in real life, again that is fine by me.

I do not like 'ma'am'! I'm finding myself constantly cringing now that I live in da south and get  ma'am'd at every turn. Sigh.

In general I like gentle words and dear is one of those to me. I like pet words that have meaning when the relationship has meaning.


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RE: The use of "dear" - 5/29/2009 10:48:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Master calls me his.girl.  It rocks.  But then, I call him my.Boy.  He doesn't balk and he loves it as a term of affection.
Master IronBear has addressed me as lass before.  Gives me warm fuzzies.
Master Ravenmuse address' me as sweetie at times.  I get warm fuzzies then also.
But if someone called me anything like that without knowing me, then I would find it presumptuous and uncomfortable.
 
the.dark.


Thank you lass. It is, always has and always been a term of friendliness and affection and aye respect to both you and your Master too. You are a bonnie lass too.


< Message edited by IronBear -- 5/29/2009 10:49:59 AM >

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RE: The use of "dear" - 5/31/2009 4:37:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterM32N
cos they are guy hahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 
Why sir, your witticism is almost Swiftian in its rapier like subtlety.






(On the subject of the thread, even something as widely accepted as "sir" can be patronising if you want it to).


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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/1/2009 8:06:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		I can only think if one person with whom I am on intimate terms calling me "dear" and I like it because it's an intimate term but dislike it because it's a term he also uses for his wife. 
My soon-to-be-ex-father-in-law called me dear on occasion.  Always felt it was somehow condescending. 
Pet names happen.  I find it distressing when they're used generically. 
  Davan

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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/2/2009 11:24:42 AM   
MasterM32N


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Status: offline 		ok  haha         ...   who says dear to his slave ???  please get me the newspaper dear  . oh dear  oh dear  i now will tie  you   ..... ok if you are married for like 200 years  or  if you talk to your boy or gf .. but please                

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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/2/2009 5:58:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sirrah, your lack of experience with others outside your circle shows. 

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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/2/2009 7:31:56 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		Hi, IronBear,
As usual, well stated and on the mark.  Hope you're having a wonderful day!  :>
  Davan

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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/4/2009 9:43:11 AM   
BamaD


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Status: offline 		My first wife used to call me dear, always in a condesending tone.
I finally told her to say stupid, it was more honest.
This was (no surprise) shortly before the divorce.

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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/4/2009 6:51:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		He calls me My Dear and My Love as well as things like 'that's my good girl. But of course his oldest is about the same age as the troll so we see things differently.

Concerning IB's example of reading lit saying "what a dear man", that is solely British literature. I've never encountered it in American literature. Miss Marple said it, the Continental Op didn't.

But yes business letters do still open with Dear Sir or Dear Ms Jones. Don't however write dear sir or madam as the case may be, it shows laziness. Pick up the phone, call the company and ask the receptionist to spell the name of the VP of customer service or whatever department you need. Takes two minutes and gets a much better response. Still trying to hammer this into the head of my stepson, sigh.

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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/4/2009 10:19:21 PM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Concerning IB's example of reading lit saying "what a dear man", that is solely British literature. I've never encountered it in American literature. Miss Marple said it, the Continental Op didn't.



Just as a point of interest, I wasn't just referring to literature, just that such an expression is still used both here and in England within possibly more refined conversations and by those who still value the more polite turns of phrase.. I have also heard it used in society conversations in the USA too as a matter of interest. It does crop up with admttadly a minority of folk but my arguments are still valid.


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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/5/2009 2:52:43 AM   
DesFIP


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ORIGINAL: IronBear

I have also heard it used in society conversations in the USA too as a matter of interest. It does crop up with admttadly a minority of folk but my arguments are still valid.



Southern U.S. I'd wager a guess, certainly not old New England society

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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/5/2009 6:44:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear
Just as a point of interest, I wasn't just referring to literature, just that such an expression is still used both here and in England within possibly more refined conversations and by those who still value the more polite turns of phrase..
On this slight tangent, "dear heart" is still used frequently as a term of endearment in by theatre people in England.


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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/7/2009 8:05:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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Depends on who is saying it and, more importantly, how they are saying it. I'm not too familiar with "dear" much beyond that word you begin correspondence with, but I have been called sweetie, darling, baby, honey, babygirl, good girl, slut, bitch, whore, and any number of other endearments by plenty of Doms, some of whom I have never even "spoken to" via cmail/ email before, lol. I can say that "bitch" or "slut" from the right person is taken in a much more positive manner than "girl" or "little one" from the wrong person. "Babygirl" from the right person, however...

The Ds who use generic nicknames in introduction emails to me tend to get ignored, mostly due to the fact that calling someone you have never spoken to before "little one", "girl", or some such nearly always comes across as condescending and is, in any case, presumptuous.

[Edit]- OsideGirl beat me to it, lol



I think I called you almost all of these
*checks list*
Yes dearie, yes I have... :P

I had to break the habit of using sweetie and dearie a lot, My grandpa used to use those all the times for practically any female he met that he found attractive, so I picked it up subconciously

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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/7/2009 9:11:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		To be called Dear is something I dread... it is always used in a really sarky tone when I have gotten something wrong (and usually made myself look stupid).
On the plus point it is never used when I am REALLY in trouble... usually I am then ignored... and that is the worst thing in the world, to know I have made him so disappointed in me.

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RE: The use of "dear" - 6/7/2009 5:00:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think dear is an older generation word. I have been called that by older folks in my life and it is nice.

Any of those sorts of words used to be affectionate is okay by me.

Personally I dont use the word, dear, but I use darlin, darling, sweetheart, sweetie, gorgeous with my friends, family and co-workers, or even service people in the stores and things.

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