Jeptha
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Actually Jeptha, what happens when they distinguish themselves in writing means that they are good at writing.
Technically, you're right. But for our purposes, to be good at writing would be to be capable of conveying something in writing: some sense of who they are or what they want. The formality (spelling, punctuation) isn't as important as the content. The problem that the guys here are bitching about (as I see it) is not only minimal form, but lack of content.
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...It doesn't mean they are good at relationship skills, or face to face. True, but what else do you have to go on? Hopefully they can give you at least a rough sketch of their goals, values, etc., ... something!
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It may mean they are only good if they have a day to consider their answer to everything. Sure. But I'm turtle-slow at most things, so a day turn-around time might be a time frame I'd be comfortable with.
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The Man's an engineer by education. He isn't good at writing. I was still in my being polite to everyone phrase and responded to his one liner with a two liner. It just sort of grew from there. He still isn't good at the written word. But he's great hands on. He's detail oriented so he watched and studied me and knows how to handle me. But when he writes letters, part of my job is to proof read and fix them. Still - just as an engineer strives for an accurate schematic, I'd wager he put something in terms of relevent content into his short messages.
-That the map reflected the territory to some degree, even if only a rough sketch.
Being concise is one thing - good, as long as content and meaning and intention aren't completely sacrificed. I should strive for more brevity, myself.
Maybe part of my problem is that I sorta suck at flirting via short online messages. After one or two exchanges of humorous, flirty one-liners, I'm about done. Other people seem to work that a lot better, though, I've noticed.
Another problem: I've probably been spoiled in that I've had one partner who I met via e-mails first, and we really connected through writing.
I don't want to compare others to her...but in someway, I think that experience gave me an inflated notion of the practical potential of making a connection via writing. My subsequent experience has shown me that that was probably a pretty rare thing, though.quote:
He won't ever write the great American novel, but he's put on a new roof. And that's something of much more concrete importance when it rains.
As someone who's struggled with old, dilapidated roofing almost where-ever I've gone in my adult life, I can appreciate that!
< Message edited by Jeptha -- 5/24/2009 11:22:35 AM >
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