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Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 8:44:00 AM   
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Every time I come on this site there always seams to be at least one board asking this question or a variation on it, have slaves not discovered the answer yet? Do they think that by asking this question they are going to appeal to the better judgment of lady dominants everywhere? I could be wrong though I think the reason why a reasonable proportion of female dominants ask for money is because they want it? If slaves do not want to give them it to them that seams to be the slaves problem and not the dommes. I can understand and appreciate that some of these poor guys are getting frustrated though do they really think that asking the question is going to change anything, particularly when they usually do it in such a derogatory way?
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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 8:45:21 AM   
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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 8:47:34 AM   
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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 8:53:16 AM   
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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 9:00:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		My experience as a domina is that a large majority of submissive men want; and they want, and they want, and they want.  And they want it all for free.  And by free, I mean not spending a penny.  Not even taking you out for dinner, yet they expect you to have an apartment that is equipped like a dungeon, a fetish wardrobe that has the selection of Madame S, and to be available whenever they are in the mood for instant domination.

Then they come to the boards to whine about how they can't get it for free.  How they are expected to show up for a date, rather than immediate playtime, and how they are expected to provide *something*: either their time or their money.  Because, you know, it's just all so unfair.  Why shouldn't they get what they want when they want it?  What is all this rubbish about having to please the domina in order to get what they want? 

Believe me, the subs that give of themselves really stand out, and they aren't the ones on the boards complaining about why some women charge for their time.

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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 9:52:51 AM   
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My experience as a domina is that a large majority of submissive men want; and they want, and they want, and they want. And they want it all for free. And by free, I mean not spending a penny. Not even taking you out for dinner, yet they expect you to have an apartment that is equipped like a dungeon, a fetish wardrobe that has the selection of Madame S, and to be available whenever they are in the mood for instant domination.

Then they come to the boards to whine about how they can't get it for free. How they are expected to show up for a date, rather than immediate playtime, and how they are expected to provide *something*: either their time or their money. Because, you know, it's just all so unfair. Why shouldn't they get what they want when they want it? What is all this rubbish about having to please the domina in order to get what they want?

Believe me, the subs that give of themselves really stand out, and they aren't the ones on the boards complaining about why some women charge for their time.



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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 10:06:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		*laughs* Thank you so much for saying this MstrTiger. I'm not even directly involved in that whole dynamic and it seems just about that obvious to me. You know, money is neat. You can buy stuff with it. It's pretty much the other person's choice whether they feel like paying or not -- both paths lead to different but viable outcomes. So what's the big deal?

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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 10:09:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		To be fair, I think a lot of them are total newbies, just being to look for what they have only dared dream of and been ashamed of the dreams they have. Sub frenzy seems to take away what little common sense people have.

But I don't think they are slaves. You have to have some experience with a power relationship to know what being a slave is or isn't, and newbies don't usually dream of being commanded to fetch a chicken salad sandwich. Like the rest of us, they dream about bottoming.

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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 10:15:33 AM   
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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 10:40:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MstrTiger


I can understand and appreciate that some of these poor guys are getting frustrated though do they really think that asking the question is going to change anything, particularly when they usually do it in such a derogatory way?


Surrendering money can be one of the most difficult and selfless sacrifices a slave/submisisve can decide to make. As a pissed off outsider looking in, if the slave's level of devotion extends that deeply, you don't have to like it, you just have to learn to live with it without it threatening you or making you feel helpless. You can not change other people's behavior, you can only change yours. Quit thinking about it or you'll give it more power than you intended.


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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 11:18:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: leadership527

So what's the big deal?



The big deal of course isn't money but plain old jiggy jiggy - they're not getting any jiggy jiggy apart from what Madame Five Fingers provides. They can't get any through being who they are, and they either can't afford to pay (the wife controls the money) or they're too tight-fisted.

It's the classic case of poor old John Thomas being neglected.


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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 11:23:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Q: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money?

A: Because they can't find a suitable poker game to loose they money in. (Look me up and I'll save you the time and effort lol)


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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 12:03:02 PM   
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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 12:28:18 PM   
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Because 99% of male subs are idiots. 


May be the case where you come from but not true for everywhere else. I can assure you that it is certainly not true here.. That's the problem when making global statements, makes you look like a jolly jackass.

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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 12:34:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are a lot of extremely repetative posts, and most of them honestly think they are the FIRST ones to bring up the point. There is no answer to be gained, and sometimes it is put up as a challenge. The dominants that do not ask are supposed to step up to defend their "honor" and announce themselves to redeem our gender in the eyes of the poster. A little passive aggressive for my tastes.

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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 12:45:18 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

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ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky

Because 99% of male subs are idiots. 


May be the case where you come from but not true for everywhere else. I can assure you that it is certainly not true here.. That's the problem when making global statements, makes you look like a jolly jackass.


First of all, I am a jolly jackass, so mission accomplished, secondly, my 99% statement was in relation to the posters on this message board.


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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 12:51:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Fat pro-dommes: y do they want my money ?????????

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Two types of threads are bound to be consistantly reincarnated.

Pro-domme

Fat

Both get viperous and drag on forfuckin ever. Usually because there are so many clueless people willing to make such fools of themselves by spouting off their negativity.


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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 12:56:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I had a dozen different replies, but not one would have translated with the humour of intent via type.

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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 1:20:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky

quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky

Because 99% of male subs are idiots. 


May be the case where you come from but not true for everywhere else. I can assure you that it is certainly not true here.. That's the problem when making global statements, makes you look like a jolly jackass.


First of all, I am a jolly jackass, so mission accomplished, secondly, my 99% statement was in relation to the posters on this message board.



Touché. ~ chuckles ~ I now have to ponder if Jolly Jackasses should join with Jolly Jack Tars and dance a Hornpipe to entertain us less gifted souls...


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RE: Why do slaves keep asking about dommes wanting money? - 5/20/2009 1:59:05 PM   
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