DemonKia
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From: Chico, Nor-Cali
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FR, after read thru
I change my profiles around -- a lot -- but I notice most others don't. Well, mostly I muck about with just the main profile, DemonKia . . . . . I finally rationalized all 3 into something that makes sense to me. I set this DemonKia one to 'switch', & the other two are my 'topping' & 'bottoming' interests, respectively . . . . At least for now, lol . . . . & I had two other profiles before these; took me awhile to find nicks I was content with, lol . .. . .
I have discovered that I quite like the process of constructing profiles . . .. . Amongst other things, for me it has unfolded as a tool for self-love . .. . . lol . . . . . The more I muck about with my profiles, the more I like me . . . . . lol . . . . Which means that I change them around whenever I feel the need . . . . . .
I've also found these profile tools to be useful for continuing to think / feel / discover who I am & how I fit into the wider universe & the BDSM world . . . . . Sort of amplified & codified journaling experience, with interactive peer review feedback built into it, if one is so inclined . . . . .
Technically I've given up on 'looking', I'm mostly just here to amuse & edify myself . . . . . . If I was in seeking-out-mating-material mode, I'd tend to see my profiles, & journal & message board entries, as my 'dating curriculum vitae', the resume for my love life, in a sense . . . . ..
I think I might be a leading contender for having the wordiest profile on CM; it's so weird that DarkSteven should bring this up, & the discussion should encompass 'lengthy versus concise' topics -- yesterday, on the spur of whatever, I dumped my DemonKia profile text into a word-processing document to get a word count: a hair over 3,600 words, which works out to roughly 14+ pages of text. (The 'standard' in the publishing industry is that a 'page' of text with 1 inch margins on 8 1/2 x 11 paper & using an ordinary 10 or 12 point font should have somewhere in the neighborhood of 250 words, FYI . . . . ) The other two profiles have far fewer words, only a coupla pages apiece, lol . . . . . .
There's a purpose to my madness, & it's another one of those oddities of timing that I just came up with this (a few days ago) to augment the delineations of what I seek (from my DK profile):
Additional amplification on stuff I'm looking for in relationship -- could be plural people, too -- (extra points if you 'get' these references without google, hehehe):
The 'Virginia' to my 'Robert Heinlein';
The 'Walter Burns' to my 'Hildy Johnson', tho' more Hawks' version than Varley's;
The intellectual 'Friday' to my literary 'Crusoe';
See, that's a big chunk of why reading my writing is so important to me, I'm looking for my 'partner(s) in crime', those who want to help me be the best me I can be, & my writing is my life. I've been writing since the first flickers of adult consciousness, & I'll write 'til the day I die, it's all I've ever really wanted to do with my life, to be a 'great writer'. To influence & inspire minds for centuries to come. To entertain, educate, & edify.
I feel pretty comfortable that all my text gives a pretty decent taste of what I'm like as a person, & that it serves as an effective filter for those who aren't well-matched . . . .. . Ya know, I'm the kinda person who (rather inadvertently) makes up jokes & puns about deconstructionism & post-modernism & other intellectual esoterica; reading profile text is sorta the minimal 'entrance fee', & anyone who wades thru all that is probably actually interested in me as a person, as best as can be determined online . .. . . (Hell, I read thru my own profiles at least once a week, on average. Part of my self-love thing, hehehehe -- I love the way I write, what I have to say, my interests, & etc, lol, I'm enjoying me even if no one else does, so .. . . *shrugs* . . . . . )
& those expectations have worked pretty well . . . . . . My expectation at this point in time is near zero percent return, but I actually get something on the order of 1 to 4 sincere contacts a month, from persons who not only read thru all those words but actually enjoyed the experience, hehehehe . ... . . .
& as for the non-readers of profiles contacting me thru the DemonKia profile, they get a polite form letter asking them to contact me after they've read thru my DK profile, lol . .. . . . If they get rude, they get blocked. & now that my main profile is listed as 'switch' & I've stripped out 99% of the 'sex interests' from my blue list, I'm getting hardly any clueless cmails . . ... Hehehe. But. I'm playing 'dirty poker' with those who don't pull up full profiles & read before contacting. On my 'topping' & 'bottoming' profiles I stripped out all the 'vanilla' interests & have only the sex stuff, & those profiles both clearly & repeatedly state that I only communicate & negotiate thru the DemonKia profile. & I've set them both so that all cmails go to garbage, & it states that in the profile text, clearly & repeatedly. I thought that was dastardly mean & clever of me. I am such a bitch. *pats self on back*
I'm so pleased with how the CM interface works, & with the profile & journal features, that I consider this to be my primary online 'social-networking home' . .. . lol . . . . I've been working on this concept of my 'integrated social-networking self' as a tool for figuring out how to self-promote (an important skill-set if I ever actually wanna make $$$ at writing, lol, & a set which is one of my weak spots), & it's increasingly looking like my DemonKia CM profile will be central to that . .. .. .
As for reading the profiles of others:
I find reading thru profiles to be an education in itself . .. . . I've yet to read a 'real profile' that was some kinda stereotype of kink; the combinations of interests continue to delight & astound me in their diversity & seemingly bizarre compoundings . . . .
I'm not always sure what any data I take in 'means', frequently I just note stuff & move on . . .. Into that category is where a lot of my profile perusings goes . . . . .
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