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RE: A rant about profiles... - 5/25/2009 10:46:28 AM

sblady

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During the brief period I was seeking a Dom, I couldn't think of a way to express what I desired because I didn't want it to read like a laundry list. I also deleted any kink related items as it can get a bit tiring when you're approached for a relationship based solely upon sexual desires.

I intentionally selected "friends only" as I want to know I'm compatible with the person, not a kink. Heck, I can and have gotten "kinky" with people without having an actual relationship. My Sir and I were friends before we decided to be a couple. By that time, we had a really good idea of mutual likes, dislikes, etc.

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RE: A rant about profiles... - 5/25/2009 11:03:00 AM

captivatedslave

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Great post DarkSteven, Sir and a good point.

Oddly enough though, often despite stating what i want in my profile I get many messages trying to "change my mind" in a sense. I think everything would go more smoothly if people said what they wanted and also didn't try to change someone into being what You wish they were

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RE: A rant about profiles... - 5/25/2009 4:09:57 PM

PyrotheClown

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

So many of them don't specify who they want.

The men describe various kinky acts they want. But they don't say anything about the PERSON they want.

The women describe the relationship they want, the feelings they want to have. But they don't say anything about the PERSON they want.

It beats me why they don't specify... I want someone who doesn't smoke, has no drinking.drug issues, reads, is within a specified age range, has a sense of humor, likes nights in, likes to go out...

/end rant/

Some of us really don't care

I don't really care if she's misses right
I care more if shes misses right now lol

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RE: A rant about profiles... - 5/25/2009 4:44:47 PM

felicean

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Well, I originally had fairly long profile and I got a lot of kooky, ahem how we say too "intimate" replies. Even though it was a quite specific, gentle profile, I still got all sorts of crazy responses. So I decided to limit my profile and I still get the weird responses. I have clearly defined what I want and don't want...And I still get people writing regardless of my preferneces. I used to take the time to reply to all of them, but I no longer do. Because I clearly say I want someone local and someone writes me from England, obviously they didn't take the time to read what I wrote, therefore I don't feel I owe them a response.
And I agree with an earlier reply, it's tedious when someone comes at you with just sex talk...or if someone has nothing whatsoever filled out in their profile...never a good sign...
My 2 cents...Happy Memorial Day everybody!

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