pinnipedster
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I think you can look at it this way: the ultra-feminized, frilly, subservient "sissy maid" is an exaggeration of feminine stereotypes, and yes, in a way, it is demeaning. But I think the fact that a person so dressed wants to serve a Woman demonstrates that they don't think *all* women should play that role. Often, in fact, I think it is seen as a bit of "payback" for the centuries of women being forced into the role of a decorative piece of chattel. Of course, the male sub need not be feminized to play that role, but it's one way of approach. I look at it this way: a "real woman" would probably find it somewhat humiliating to be dressed in all the frills and petticoats, forced to walk mincingly and curtsey every ten seconds, etc -- at least if made to do so in public. So why wouldn't a male sub, even one who had a strong feminine side? In my own idealized, cross-gendered, D/s relationship, I would play several roles to my Mistress. Most of the time she would treat me the same way she would treat a real female sub -- with reasonable expectations for clothing and grooming (appropriate to the occasion, modified to her taste and what suits my body type). Occasionally, though, we would do some role-playing that might put me into some rather stereotyped feminine parts -- the "damsel in distress" or captive princess, the slutty bimbo, the bawdy tavern wench, the innocent maiden ripe for ravishing, the Barbie doll, perhaps the sweet little girl (a non-sexual role), the puppy and/or ponygirl, the robot or living sex toy -- and yes, perhaps occasionally the sissy maid (though I have never liked the word "sissy"). It's certainly not because I think women should be like that, any more than the fact that I find pictures of women in bondage extremely appealing means that I think all women should be bound (or that they secretly want to be bound). It just means that *I* like and covet that role. Does that come partly from weirdly conditioned beliefs about appropriate gender roles? Maybe; I don't really know. All I can say is that my *conscious* belief is that everyone should have the opportunity to pursue the role and lifestyle and career they want, regardless of gender, race, creed, sexual preference, country of origin, hair color, height, weight, or shoe size -- provided they aren't depriving others of their own rights -- except, of course, those of us who willingly surrender certain rights to certain individuals. :) Oh, and there should be lots of bondage. I should be bound frequently, and sometimes gagged, blindfolded, and/or plugged. That doesn't have anything to do with sissy maids, but it's true regardless. ;)
< Message edited by pinnipedster -- 6/3/2009 12:35:14 PM >
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