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OK, I think I get it now(a mini-rant) - 2/8/2006 10:55:32 PM

Beatmehrdr

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I think I now understand the frustration you Dommes feel when it comes to online wankers, because I think it just happened to me, only in reverse.

A few days ago, I get an email(with a rather revealing photo) via Collarme from a Domme who tells me she likes a boy who knows what he needs, that my pain would be her pleasure, and that she expects my submission to her whim.

So, I say to myself, "Great! She's close by, she seems to enjoy the same things I do, perhaps I can take this further." I email her back saying that I'd like to get to know her better and what she enjoys, that I enjoy a lot of different sorts of play, I also enjoy the tease/arousal/denial/torment dynamic in BDSM, and BTW, would you like to meet?

She emails me back saying that she doesn't play 20 questions that she wants to, well, beatmehrdr, and that my role is to "obey and take it like a man." She also completely ignores my request to meet R/T.

I email her back, saying I'd like to serve her, that I have a number of hard limits(not many, but they are there), and that I don't want to wind up in a situation where those hard limits get crossed. I, again, say that I'd like to meet R/T in a vanilla locale, and I give her a general idea of where I live so that we might meet at a location convenient to us both.

She emails me back saying that I should have no limits other than what she proscribes, and that slaves either obey or be dismissed. Again, she completely ignores the SECOND time I've asked to meet R/T.

I email back saying that I'm a more of a sub than a slave, and that 24/7 and TPE are a bit much for me. I don't hear back from her, so I email her again later, enclosing a vanilla pic of me(I had promised to send one), and again asking if she would like to meet.

Then I get an email saying that I have a problem with obedience and that it would not work well.

WTF?!?

{rant}
Under what rule does it say that just because a woman prefaces her name with the word Mistress, that I as a sub am compelled to get a raging hardon and present my ass into the air for any Trish, Dottie or Harriet at a moment's notice? Also, under what CollarMe rule of etiquette am I as a male sub required to spend time crafting the masturbatory fantasies of anyone who happens to type out the words "Mistress So and So" in their profile or emails?!?

I don't email Dommes very often. I know you get deluged with email and unless I'm very serious but meeting someone(or I have something meaningful to say), I won't add to the deluge. Total, I think I've privately emailed maybe 10 Dommes at most here on CollarMe. I also don't get much if any email so I tend to respond if I think the person is genuine, even if it is to say "Thanks, but no thanks". This one was different. I had put energy into responding, and I thought it might have turned into something, had we talked on the phone and/or met in person. Instead, it was simply an attempt by her to get her dominant rocks off on a sub by doing a bit of cyber, and when I wasn't interested, I was "disobedient". I don't have time for this sh*t!
{/rant}

OK, that's it, It's out of my system. I now think I have gained a bit empathy for all you Dommes who are deluged with these sort of exchanges, but from the other side.