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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold

In all fairness to naughtynick, he has not been around that long, and he has been on the boards questioning his fantasy needs and his particular brand of search. He is now appropriately identifying as a bottom who is only interested in starting out with his main fantasy, and perhaps finding a few more fetishes along the way. But he is not seeking a relationship with specific submission. It might be a "do me" situation that is distasteful to the bulk of the Ladies here, but he is being honest and he just might find someone who is up for his fantasy.
In all fairness to the Dominas here, naughtynick, you need to learn to separate your needs from the general questions on the board, especially in the Ask A Mistress forum. We are primarily seeking relationships which involve a good amount of submission and the fetish play is just a perk. So it doesn't help your case to say that most of the people you have run into are all talk and no action. These ladies want the talk, before they will even consider the action. You are much more focused in one area. It is fine for you to be so, but it is not the best idea to jump into a discussion that really doesn't apply to your situation, and try to force it to apply to your situation.
Am I making any sense here?

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ORIGINAL: naughtynick

So NO I am not a "DO ME, any mistress that wants a person to do house work or what ever would label me as a "DO ME" ,simply because I don't have the same type of desires as them. People seem shallow about this.

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ORIGINAL: stef

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ORIGINAL: naughtynick

So NO I am not a "DO ME, any mistress that wants a person to do house work or what ever would label me as a "DO ME" ,simply because I don't have the same type of desires as them. People seem shallow about this.

Your new profile is much better and the whiff of "DO ME" has been swept away. Good job :)

~stef

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Actually, I had read that thread. That was why I was trying to push for a vanilla meeting first. I was a bit uncomfortable with the "Your my slave, fall to you knees!" tone at the outset. It seemed a bit unbalanced, to be quite honest. But I also figured, since the person had only been online for about 6 months, that perhaps it was inexperience as well. I tried to go with the flow a bit, and see what developed. She looked attractive, our kinks meshed fairly well, so I thought there might be some chemistry if we met R/T. However, she really was only looking for someone to fill her online fantasies only, but wasn't honest enough to come out and say it.

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She also completely ignores my request to meet R/T.

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ORIGINAL: Beatmehrdr

A few days ago, I get an email(with a rather revealing photo) via Collarme from a Domme who tells me she likes a boy who knows what he needs, that my pain would be her pleasure, and that she expects my submission to her whim.

She also completely ignores my request to meet R/T.

Again, she completely ignores the SECOND time I've asked to meet R/T.

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WTF?!?

{rant}
Under what rule does it say that just because a woman prefaces her name with the word Mistress, that I as a sub am compelled to get a raging hardon and present my ass into the air for any Trish, Dottie or Harriet at a moment's notice? Also, under what CollarMe rule of etiquette am I as a male sub required to spend time crafting the masturbatory fantasies of anyone who happens to type out the words "Mistress So and So" in their profile or emails?!?

I don't email Dommes very often. I know you get deluged with email and unless I'm very serious but meeting someone(or I have something meaningful to say), I won't add to the deluge. Total, I think I've privately emailed maybe 10 Dommes at most here on CollarMe. I also don't get much if any email so I tend to respond if I think the person is genuine, even if it is to say "Thanks, but no thanks". This one was different. I had put energy into responding, and I thought it might have turned into something, had we talked on the phone and/or met in person. Instead, it was simply an attempt by her to get her dominant rocks off on a sub by doing a bit of cyber, and when I wasn't interested, I was "disobedient". I don't have time for this sh*t!

Sorry for sounding so crass before, but I was feeling that you were using empathy as a way to "complain" even though you owned it was a rant.
Only having been here on the boards for a bit you may not know how many of these kind of post's are made. A LOT!
And it is usually by someone who has not tbeen here very long.
Don't worry that probably won't be the first time this happens and it definately won't be the last.
Tuffin' up a bit, for all you know you could have been talking to a young guy.

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Sorry for sounding so crass before, but I was feeling that you were using empathy as a way to "complain" even though you owned it was a rant.
Only having been here on the boards for a bit you may not know how many of these kind of post's are made. A LOT!