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RE: Issues of Etiquette - 2/10/2006 6:58:35 PM

perverseangelic

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

This raises the question, should a sub/slave with an online profile, have all the restrictions and requirements shown on her profile and updated regularly as changes are made. This is what any slave of mine or the House iron Bear will do and show if she is available to play either as well as the required proticol in requesting her use. (However this is a personal requirement and may not sit well with others).

I don't think that you need -everything- in your profile, but I think the important stuff should be there.

For example, if it is critical that one speaks to a girl/boys owner first, that should be in the profile. But if one does one's own negotiating, I think it is enough to state that he/she is someone else's property and has rules that he/she has to follow.

Basically, I don't think you need 100% disclosure, as some of it can come in conversation, but if one is going to get upset at one's owner's protocal not being followed, one can't forget to mention one has an owner.

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RE: Issues of Etiquette - 2/10/2006 8:09:32 PM

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hense a previous thread.... no matter what's in a profile... it's more likely to be ignored than not.

bottom line.. Master... make rules.. Sub/slave.. inforce rules.... seeker.. obey said rules.... or get fucking lost..

Unfortuantely.... there are those that try to seak around.. bend.. or break the rules set forth by said Master... these are the ones that need to be re-schooled... My favorites... are the ones that approach stating.. I've spoken to your Dom... he's says it's ok... yeah right.. Like I'm not going to go and check on that one!!!... LOL

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RE: Issues of Etiquette - 2/10/2006 9:35:10 PM

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Do You take in renters? i was thinking of an office; something closet-sized?

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RE: Issues of Etiquette - 2/11/2006 12:16:23 AM

IronBear

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Do You take in renters? i was thinking of an office; something closet-sized?

candystripper

Hmmmmmmmm <<ponders for a moment and then grins a VWEG>> Well there is a spare space, but it may be too smal for you sweet. It under my computer desk which places you in perfect possition to give head on demand... That may do untill I get around to emptying out the hall closet....

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RE: Issues of Etiquette - 2/11/2006 3:05:58 AM

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Hmmmmmmmm <<ponders for a moment and then grins a VWEG>> Well there is a spare space, but it may be too smal for you sweet. It under my computer desk which places you in perfect possition to give head on demand... That may do untill I get around to emptying out the hall closet....

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Humm; how much does space under the desk go for? LMAO.

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RE: Issues of Etiquette - 2/11/2006 3:36:24 AM

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I agree that some responsablity lies on the sub/slave to enforce the rules set down by their owner, but why do some Dommes/Dom's flee once they've been informed of said rules?

If all they have to do is speak to Mi'Lady about a little time on the cross with me, what is the harm in taking the six steps towards her and asking? She is quite reasonable and does like to sit back and watch from time to time.

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RE: Issues of Etiquette - 2/11/2006 4:38:14 AM

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why do some Dommes/Dom's flee once they've been informed of said rules?

Maybe it breaks their little fantasy? Or prehaps they lack the social skills to interact with someone who doesn't buy into their silly little game?

Franky I would think if they run, it is no loss as they are unlikely to be the kind of person that would be worth spending any time on anyhow.

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RE: Issues of Etiquette - 2/11/2006 4:55:18 AM

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It is a credit to you Sir that you respect yourself and other Doms enough to seek and ask.

As a sub, it is my responsibilty to my Master to defer to him. If someone approaches me for anything and I have not been given his nod, I am to send them to Master. That is an understanding you and your sub/wife will need to discuss and have (suggestion).

I personally rely on it because it does a few things: reaffirms his ownership of me in everything I do, expresses his will, allows him to ensure my safety. Might I suggest also that you and your sub/wife have a kind of safe word (i actually dislike the term...) or safe name for her to call out to you if she becomes subjected to an advance that does not immedately disengage her to seek your permission...or that she disengages and seeks your side immediately...

and you may want to play with a more respectful group...

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RE: Issues of Etiquette - 2/13/2006 5:38:12 AM

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Hello to all. A nice read here albeit with the normal nasties under the moderators radar!

It amuses me how these are "discussion" boards and that some people state or infer that they are empathic, and non didactic (my word tonight!) Ha Ha.

So we have another discussion on ettiquette. If it's so hum hum for some that they offer 'negative' criticism- then find another thread that challenges your mental state!

Having said that, all relationships , nilla, D/s, Gorean ra ra ra are based on the individuals' (involved) expectations. Based on their personal, conscious and unconscious schemata. Which I for one are definately not privy to!
I take the view this is a discussion on how others enact their relationships for the benefit of Tantalus42, not attacks on how others enact their relationship protocols. I laugh at the spurious self-important clairvoyants assisting no-one except their own company in their little phoneboxes!

Well Tantalus, you have my 100% support and sympathy. The 'old values' inherent in Lifestyle do appear to be lost by many who claim to have Dominant STRENGTH worthy of imparting to a sub. Likewise many subs are similar. I am proud of my ethics of respect to others, and as a result make meaningful relationships with other similar Lifestylers. I'd rather have one reliable person in a room to back me up rather than 100 'sunshiners' Stick to your guns man, you have my warm handshake!

Lady Zephyr says it all for me. Dips His lid to a fine post.

My Precious Wild Child's (readheadedrules4u) previous post No 31 is entirely relevant to strategies discussed for her as an individual and is commensurate with my base (and protracted open discussion) 'Protection' of her. I am gleeful (yep folks gleeful!) when I see M/my Preciousses growth is secure, measured and grounded befitting their learning - not flying albeit tossing in the wind currents. For some others this may be preferable but not for all others.

Sir Smuggy bows, amid applause in His own little phone box. (the crowd roars!)

Later all.................

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