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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 6/10/2009 5:37:00 PM   
nevergrowdup


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ORIGINAL: PyrotheClown

you know what they say,
" A pretty picture is can get a thousand views.."



I could put up pictures that would give me more hits, but I think that would lower the quality of the c-mails to a level that would leave me feeling discouraged about the male population.

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 6/10/2009 5:52:30 PM   
PyrotheClown


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Status: offline 		haha, yeah, I could change some profile info and put up some pics to get more views too, but I'm sure you're like every one else and wanting to increase the quality and not the quantity of hits lol

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 6/10/2009 5:54:04 PM   
PyrotheClown


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Status: offline 		by the way, I'm I the only one who responds the same(for the most part) to profiles with pics as to ones with out..I mean yeah, I'll admit that I probably get alot less fake traffic then the rest of you, but still, it's not to hard to weed out people is it?

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 6/10/2009 6:01:37 PM   
FawneTwo


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Status: offline 		Pyro: personality, brains, humor could be the ultimate aphrodisiac.


< Message edited by FawneTwo -- 6/10/2009 6:08:48 PM >

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 6/10/2009 6:10:06 PM   
PyrotheClown


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ORIGINAL: FawneTwo

Pyro: personality, brains, humor could be the ultimate aphrodisiac.



I guess I'm out of the race then...

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 6/10/2009 6:13:37 PM   
FawneTwo


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ORIGINAL: PyrotheClown


quote:

ORIGINAL: FawneTwo

Pyro: personality, brains, humor could be the ultimate aphrodisiac.



I guess I'm out of the race then...


Oh, I don't think so, not at all. Even with the world's most evil name. Nope.

*smiles*

< Message edited by FawneTwo -- 6/10/2009 6:17:05 PM >

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 6/10/2009 6:16:35 PM   
PyrotheClown


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Status: offline 		good thing, cause I was being insincere in that statement....altho my wit has been likened to the wit of the three stooges....While drunk..........






(and the name Adolf Brady was already taken)

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 6/10/2009 6:16:35 PM   
porcelaine


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ORIGINAL: retrogirl

I haven't even been on here a week, but I can definitely say that the number of posts a woman probably gets is dictated by the way she presents in her profile. I was very specific and truthful and have yet to post a picture and have only gotten one drive by asshole.  The rest have been pretty respectful and clearly read the profile before writing.  Of course, being older and taken probably helps filter out a lot of the dreck.


i disagree. my profile is very specific and i still get people that attempt to slip between the cracks. even now it seems that since i've updated things i receive more messages. as with all things it is a mixed bag. but that's the beauty of collarme i suppose.

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 6/10/2009 6:19:57 PM   
FawneTwo


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Status: offline 		Hey a big dick is always a plus

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 6/10/2009 6:21:37 PM   
PyrotheClown


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ORIGINAL: FawneTwo

Hey a big dick is always a plus





.......................What?!

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 12/12/2009 10:08:23 AM   
Kat30


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Status: offline 		Yes and this why the majority of them get blocked or ignored: http://www.askdollie.com/acid_test.htm

When I joined I had hundreds daily now not so much - people must do a search on who is new and just try sending random stuff.

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 12/12/2009 10:31:08 AM   
MsMillgrove


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Status: offline 		The time I spend here answering mail, will generate ever more and sillier mail. I answer everything, politely and briefly on the theory that I don't know the real person behind the message and maybe tossing out a cheerful word their way will be helpful. It doesn't take too long. I am old, no photo, nothing special about my profile etc--yet I still get about twenty mails a week.

What bugs me unmercifully aren't the silly, short, cut and pastes. It's the intelligent, serious-sounding males who say something decent and then proceed to waste my time for as long as I can put up with it. (which of course has trimmed down from two weeks to about 3 days)

On the very rare occasion that someone has caught my attention with a post or profile and I have been the one to initiate contact, the results have been so good.
Even if it's not a match, the ones I've chosen have replied immediately, met within a week or two and been terrific people.

This is how I obtained the fantastic pony! yes. right here. amazing. Still cannot get over the good luck of it. Even tho she'd been out and about for nearly a year in my local community, I never saw her, I didn't know she was a pony. That info was inside her journal here!

Posting on the boards, writing in the journal, taking time with the profile and photo will give you a much better chance of connecting with a good domme. The munch or events route should not be overlooked either. I know two boys who've had remarkably good experiences by serving local dommes in quiet ways, impressing all of us with their sincerity. They've become very popular with us just by being themselves and SHOWING us what good boys they are.

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 12/12/2009 11:45:11 AM   
lilmisssubmiss


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Status: offline 		I still get the pointless shitty mails sometimes...sometimes i get 20 sometimes i get none.

What has really helped is filling out my profile so people know I'm real and genuine.

But, I get a lot of crap in my mail and a lot of mail sometimes, yes.

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 12/12/2009 12:16:29 PM   
sweetsub1957


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Status: offline 		My profile is not sexually suggestive in any way and I am wearing clothes in all my pictures, and I still have gotten up to 30 cmails a day.  It just floors me.  But not all those are from People I would want to get to know better.  That includes both the "good" letters, "hi. how r u" letters, and the "on your knees bitch" variety.  Obviously, if a man writes a well-thought-out, intelligent letter and refers to something he actually read in my profile, he is ahead of the herd from the very beginning. 

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 12/12/2009 12:26:02 PM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: Coemgen

I've been told by more than a few women who posted profiles on collarme that they sometimes receive about 100 messages a day... especially the ones who post nude or sexually suggestive in any way pictures of themselves. Is this really true? If so, with that kind of ratio of dom men to submissive women on here, what are the chances of every actually connecting with someone? Seems kind of daunting/pointless...


Some people do get quite a bit, but alot of them are one liners or some simply say hi. Some have said there is a 7 to 1 ratio of men to women, I don't know if that is true or not, I think it would take alot of time to come up with that number number or any number for that matter. People actually do connect, but I will not say it is either easy or quick. As to whether or not it is worth it, that depends on the individual and the amount of desire they have

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 12/12/2009 12:46:51 PM   
vtara


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Status: offline 		On my first day here, yes. Including the ones that I had started conversing with, I had 8 pages of new messages (Quite a few of them complimenting my photo, so that probably had a lot to do with it) I am assuming this will go down, as there are only a finite number of Toronto area users.

It's not pointless.
Things that will get men noticed by me:
1. Read her profile, you'll have more to talk about, and have a better idea if you're compatible
2. Be funny or interesting. Crack a joke, tease her a bit.
3. Compose your message such that it invites a response. "Hi, I'd like to get to know you better" for example, seems really common and it's just not a good conversation starter. If we're keeping it short, even "How are you doing tonight?" is better. Imagine receiving such a message yourself, and consider how in-depth of a response it would get out of YOU. Basically, instead of saying that you'd like to get to know her, ask her whatever it is that you'd like to know.
4. Have a picture- if you're too shy to broadcast it then just attach one. Having a face to attach to your name makes you much more memorable. Especially if you're sexy. And if you ARE old, overweight, bald, with a horrible skin condition and lopsided features, it's really best to get that out of the way early on. Women are generally attracted to different TYPES of men, you might be hers!
5. Type properly. Especially if you list yourself as dom. A moderately intelligent woman has a hard time respecting an idiot.
6. Avoid sending subtle messages contrary to your intentions. I have myself listed as sub, looking for a dom, but I got a lot of messages that came across as very desperate.

I don't think anything listed is asking too much, but if you follow that you'll be way ahead of the competition.

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 12/12/2009 1:07:41 PM   
Barbara


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Status: offline 		no - and we have bulk her :-)

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 12/12/2009 6:41:46 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		100 would appear to be hyperbole. However a new female on the site with a picture will easily get 10 or 20. The site lists new members, and many men troll for newbies believing them to be therefore naive and easily caught.

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 12/12/2009 6:46:52 PM   
tsatske


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From: Louisville, KY
Status: offline 		from a 40ish, fat, balding grandmotherly type slave, allow me to answer from that unique perspective:
Yes, we do.

As to your chances - wait, as many have siad, until the blush is off the rose.

then, these two tips will GREATLY improve your odds -
1. mention something from the profile to make it obvious that you read the whole thing.
2. show you I.Q. instead of your ass or your penis.

GL.

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RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? - 12/13/2009 4:32:31 AM   
elleX


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Status: offline 		Good Morning Coem
my picture is suggestive , but i live with a Dominant man and its is clear that i am here for friendship only,
i am online here about 1 hour a day
never got 100 message ,,, and most of them worth answering

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