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flogger -> What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 4:59:40 PM)

I have been in this situation for 7 years[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m21.gif[/image] and can't find a regular play partner due to other Doms grabbing first or having more power and influence to atrract subs. I keep reminding myself  "a quitter never wins and a winner never quits" One night stands or play is too psycho-emotional-draining,  I seek a regular play partner.



lronitulstahp -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:03:46 PM)

BYOS....bring your own slut/sub/slave etc??????   Why wait until you get to a party to find one????



SlyStone -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:09:33 PM)

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I have been in this situation for 7 years and can't find a regular play partner due to other Doms grabbing first or having more power and influence to atrract subs.




I admire your persistence but I think it may be time to hang up the flogger flogger cause some things just aint meant to be.



AlexandraLynch -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:09:43 PM)

I wouldn't go to a club without bringing my own sub, personally.




ShaharThorne -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:10:17 PM)

at my last party, we had a slave auction to spice up the variety a bit. One way to find a one-time playmate.



DavanKael -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:12:19 PM)

I am thinking that you've not put yourself in adequate situations within which to meet folks, that you have not been assertive enough with those you have met, and/or that your approach has been not-quite-right. 
Also, I just perved your profile.  Personally, and I fall within your age, hair, and racial requirements requirements, though I am a bit lighter than you note and am a switch, so presumably I'm nearly your target audience.  So, here's my thoughts: you don't look comfortable holding the flogger or the rod in your hands; they look like you don't know what to do with them and you don't look pleased but rather confused.  I dislike the letter written to your prospective slave (It rather creeps me out) but someone else may enjoy that.  Your parameters for a partner are really limited, so you're limiting yourself.  I really, really dislike the assertion of love for someone you don't even know but, who knows, someone else may enjoy that.  So, I'd suggest some work on the profile and on presentation, though personal style is important. 
  Davan



IronBear -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:18:06 PM)

Jut kick back and enjoy the company and the ambiance. If you are a social beastie then it may be hardier but for folks like me who like to retire into the darkest corners where smoking is allowed, it is fine to enjoy watching the social event unfold. 



LovingMistress45 -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:29:49 PM)

Flogger you have a very narrow search range and that will limit those that will respond.  Also, I think that your listing being so sexual  may put off many.  You really don't tell a sub about who you are as a dominant other than being interested in sexual aspects of BDSM. As far as clubs perhaps try some munches where you are more likely to meet new/unattached subs. 



DarkSteven -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:34:22 PM)

Why on earth would you specify a weight range but not a height range?  130 pounds is anorexic on a 6' woman and heavy on a 4'10" woman.  And only a ten pound range?

And I agree with the others that the little-girl letter sounds creepy.



lusciouslips19 -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:38:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Why on earth would you specify a weight range but not a height range?  130 pounds is anorexic on a 6' woman and heavy on a 4'10" woman.  And only a ten pound range?

And I agree with the others that the little-girl letter sounds creepy.



You think there are lot of pretty blonde model types are looking for a 60 year old who is hard of hearing? You got bank to make up for it???



MarsBonfire -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:46:01 PM)

Depending on where you live, there may be more than one club to attend. I know in Denver there is "Gateway," which is the group that is literally the gateway into the Denver scene. (Or at least it was a couple of years ago...) It's the club newbies are steered toward, where they can learn and watch and participate in forms of play they might not be familliar with... The perk of going to this group is that you get first shot at new faces... of course the downside is that you also have a higher chance of hooking up with a poseur, or someone who really doesn't "get it."



CalifChick -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 5:48:59 PM)

He lives in Los Angeles.  There are LOTS of clubs.  Not to mention classes, munches, parties, social events, etc.

Cali



littlewonder -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 6:15:07 PM)

Make yourself the power that attracts the subs. The subs aren't coming to you because they smell the insecurity a mile away.

If you want to attract one then you have to act like what they want. Be confident and you'll find one in no time.



DesFIP -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 6:21:51 PM)

It isn't like the day after Thanksgiving, first come gets the cheap tv. The other doms aren't stealing them from you, you aren't attracting them.

You aren't apparently looking for a person in her own right, just a set of things to fulfill your fantasy. Very unattractive profile. Creepy is about right.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 6:24:21 PM)


Personally....I'd call Domino's.



IronBear -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 7:30:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Make yourself the power that attracts the subs. The subs aren't coming to you because they smell the insecurity a mile away.

If you want to attract one then you have to act like what they want. Be confident and you'll find one in no time.



This is possible the best piece of advise I have seen for anyone no matter what they are looking or including work.. Remember, Power attracts Power and power is a jolly huge aphrodisiac..



lizi -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 7:30:22 PM)

I see on your profile that you would like to be contacted by interested women. It might increase your chances of finding Ms. Right to do some contacting as well. Putting yourself and what you have to offer out there can't hurt. If it hasn't worked up to this point to sit back and wait then it might push things along for you to do some approaching on your end.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 8:55:46 PM)

You're whole approach is to creepy for my tastes even if I was the weight range you wanted.



MsLadySue -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/8/2009 9:15:48 PM)

I perved your profile and I agree it is creepy. I also checked your interest list and you've put Expert beside several bdsm items yet you say you're still looking for a play partner after 7 years. Mentioning you're hard of hearing is a scary piece of info for a sub ... will you hear her use a safe word?



Asherdelampyr -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play (6/8/2009 10:14:00 PM)

I have a serious question
Is that how you dress when you go to these clubs?



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