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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 9:53:55 AM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: Starbuck09
Lotus my experience of cuckoldry is nil


This is obvious.  Try it, then get back to me.

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 9:55:03 AM   
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Well, aren't we the little attention whore tonight?  Though perhaps that's a bit rude.  Maybe "attention courtesan" would be a bit nicer.


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gawd this reminds me when i was about 14 and so horny i was walking around the house looking for something to
fuck, stick my dick into.

i found nothing so went back to my room and the next thing i knew i was fucking a giant tiger I won at the carnival.
i had cut a whole in it with scissors.


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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 9:58:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		 Why should I? So presumably those who have never known or tried being with a dominat woman are quite at liberty to pronounce their own slurs against them? The fact that I myself have never tried cuckoldry does not mean I cannot have an opinion on it. i have know those who do enjoy it and they are not the sort of people that you describe lotus.

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 10:07:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Starbuck09 i have know those who do enjoy it and they are not the sort of people that you describe lotus.
So how come one of them never took you on to help you experience this fine act?  You did state here you "know those who enjoy it".

I' m trying to give you a different perspective and perhaps a bit of something to THINK about.  Like this:  If you cared for and cherished a partner.. would you really enjoy watchng them have sex with another?  Do you think that someone who really cared about you would desire another?  It just not compute for me. 

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 10:20:36 AM   
Starbuck09


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Status: offline 		 Because I don't like the idea of cuckoldry it is not something I would like to try. I wouldn't like to sleep with someone's parter nor would I like someone to sleep with mine as I watched that's all. It was quite a popular past time [along with voyeurism] with the bikers up in Newcastle where I went to university and I was friends with quite a few of them.
The fact that I don't find the idea appealing though doesn't mean I can't understand why someone else does. Personally like you the thought of watching someone sleep with a person who I loved is nauseating but I can understand that my own views are not shared by everyone. I was asked a few times to be the person having sex with the woman while the man watched and more than anything else I was embarrased and felt it would be too cruel to do it but it was quite clear that those asking did not see it that way. I had a transexual girlfriend for a while and there were many people who could not understand that and so put their own spin on the situation [I was gay but couldn't accept it e.t.c. e.t.c.] but that didn't make them right. What you are saying could be true Lotus but equally it might not be and in that case I can see that some people would be deeply hurt by your post. I think on a site like this especcially we should give those that enjoy this the benefit of the doubt.


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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 10:22:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		 As an aside starngely enough I would have been more comfortable being fucked by the man or vice versa while the female partner watched as somehow that seemed more like kinky role playing than the other way around but maybe that's just me.

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 10:38:07 AM   
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well I have to jump in here again..
#1 I misunderstood the OP and thought he wanted to be the bull I now realize he wants to be with a DOMME who will cuck Him..
 
 
What I said in my earlier posts STILL applies..It is about
communication..relationships based on trust...building..
from commonalities etc..
 
However when one is looking for a DOMME with a cuck element
 from the get go that  could be hard..
 
HIS reasons( desires) and her Style would need to match
 in a very SPECIFIC way..
 
HE is already coming to her with a desire to be cucked..which is another man in there BEFORE he has a relationship with her..
adn there has ot be soooo much more
hmmmmmmmmmmm
 
well..
***2 weeks ago I met with a man from CM
who indicated just this scenerio,,,
 
we got along..had many common interests..his demeanor and idea of service were what I sought and so forth...
THEN..the cuck element came into being...that this had been an element of great satisfaction in his last relationship and how I had been in such relationships myself.
 
HE was delighted of course... as we discussed and identified the feeling from his prespective and from mine and each understood..
 
I will not go into it by suffice to say NO ONE WHO HAS NOT been in the situation like this that has been BUILT ON LOVE AND TRUST and adoration cannot know what it is about..know the dynamics or the whys of it..
which are as dif as those who are in it..
 you can only judge or guess or have an opinion of which you are entitled.
 
sooooooo
we met...we had a wonderful day.we went to home to think and both came up with the same answer
WE COULD NOT GO forward with the cuck expectation already in place..
WHY?
It had become too much of the focus and the need and satisfaction he got were in proportion to how much he cared for the woman ...
one that could only be fullfilled IF WE TRULY LOVED/cared or
had already had a relationship..
and my STYLE is to have additions as cucks depending on the indivisual sub..at times I had second "husbands"..so a
POLY AMOUROUS home( 20+ yrs)
and one POLYamourous addition to our home was initially a cuck
 
TO go forward because we matched up in a lot of ways
but with a cuck expectations in our minds from the beginning seemed to us to be just adding another fuck in there( the wrong reasons)...( not true cucking as our psyches had experianced it)
and we felt we did not have enough other commonalities to go forward


I hope that makes some sense
 
from personal experience comes personal response
 
GQ
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< Message edited by GYPZYQUEEN -- 6/10/2009 10:49:24 AM >

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 10:38:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I was doing research for storylines, I found a web site I wish I could link you all to, as it had some very interesting things there.  The number one fantasy of the men on this site which was mostly non bdsm, but had some people who had questions and information and such on bdsm that was good, was that the men wanted to watch someone else doing their wife.  I found that pretty surprising.  So I wrote a story mixing this fantasy and my personal experience for a knowledge base only from my view and what happened with who I was involved with.

(I will not talk about my experience in it because it is too personal.)

I had two other stories that got a lot of attention and good reviews, but that one was the second highest in reviews and comments.  I got email from all sorts of men wishing that they had a wife that would do what I discribed in my story.  I mean these men were about drooling in their emails to me!  It made me feel that it was lining up with it being a number one fantasy for men.

From those emails, that web site and the information there and my experience from emails here at CM, I must say that nearly every man who has approached me wanting to be cucked, they didn't come at me as a person, but more as a tool to make happen their cuck fantasy.  That was most often their first question to me.  Do you?  Will you?  I would love it so much if you would... and on and on so much that I put it as a hard limit on my profile so that some of it would stop if they read my profile.  Because of other threads here on the mistress board and my experience, many men expected their dominant to do this with them and it was all about them and not really the woman.  They presented as men who wanted their fantasy and were pushy.  A couple of other dominants on the threads I remember were saying they would not consider it because of how men were acting and making it all about them and they wouldn't play the game.

This is why I said something to the effect that some might not want to cuck a man because of his focus and how important it was to them that it seemed little else mattered.  Some viewed it as pleasing the man's demands, amoung other things.

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 12:02:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's not that hard.  I am with a wonderful cuckoldress right now.  And I have known other women who were into that lifestyle as well.  Are you doing everything you can to meet a Mistress who is compatible with you?

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 12:09:14 PM   
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I think the problem is that cuckolds are way too specific about their fantasy, expectations and the role the woman and cuck and partner play. They want it their way and the fantasy is rigid.   What about how the lady wants it?

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 12:25:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Kal, did you start with cuckoldry right out of the gate, or did you add it in as PART of your dynamic?  I'm guessing she didn't start going on other dates the first few months you were together!

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 12:44:54 PM   
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~snark factor 10 dead ahead~

I am a lifestyle Mistress who chooses not to Dominate unless I love the sub/slave. My cubby joined Me 10 years ago and from day one he has been almost like the AIR I breathe. I love him, desire him, and build our entire household to support and protect what we have. We are NOT monogamous - we as a couple chose poly. Part of that Poly dynamic is him enjoying the sight of Me with others.

Now our cuckoldry is maybe not from humiliation as some practice it... cubby enjoys seeing Me have the power and the right to be with different people for many reasons (maybe for variety, maybe for a specific experience that HE does not have interest in, maybe simply because cubby is fairly small (in HIS view - I feel he is MORE than adequate) and he enjoys knowing that I can experience a good old fashioned reaming once in a while.

The funny thing is, when I am with someone else (whether cubs is in the room or not) part of My attention is on how wonderful he is to allow Me these pleasures with no guilt, insecurity or threat. Being with others sexually can be a sacred, intimate experience in and of itself (depending on the connection I have with that partner), but I ALWAYS feel the connection to cubs in My heart no matter what My body is doing. When he is with someone else, he says the exact same thing... that the freedom of being with someone else always reminds him that we are together by choice not by LACK of choices.

Just because YOU don't understand the draw for cuckoldry, doesn't mean you can pass judgement on those of us who DO it and feel fulfilled.

Perhaps if you tried to temper that judgementalism just a tad... ~shrugs~

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 6:13:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: wannaburcuck

why is it so difficult to find a cuckoldress or women seeking a cuckold. besides the obvious answer of 'you dont have a pic in your profile..." but seriously looking through profiles on here, looking on line, it is difficult. any recommendations from you seasoned sharp deviants?


Bud....you not only have no pic....you have no words.

Start with words....work up to a pic.

(It's a process....I know).

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 7:24:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		GypsyQueen and Calandra, my perception of cuckoldry in the BDSM sense is that it specifically involves humiliation play (you aren't good enough/big enough/can't fulfil my needs). I know several poly women who have relationships with multiple men, sometimes including 3-ways, sometimes not, but who don't consider it to be cuckolding. To me, there's a big difference between a woman having multiple relationships that meet her needs, or even having casual sex with others with her partner's blessing/support, and the "I'm fucking around with guys to meet your need for humilation" dynamic I associate with cuckolding.

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 8:04:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Calandra

Just because YOU don't understand the draw for cuckoldry, doesn't mean you can pass judgement on those of us who DO it and feel fulfilled.

Perhaps if you tried to temper that judgementalism just a tad... ~shrugs~
  My opinion is as valid as any other.  If you find an opinion contrary to yours upsetting.. you need to search your own heart to find out why.  If one is secure in their beliefs, nothing bothers them.



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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 8:08:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		  Lotus forgive me if I am being presumptious but I was wandering if you have had a horrible experience with this particular fetish?

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 8:41:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		I happen to be a seasoned deviant.  I've written on My experiences with the activity on the boards prior.  As I always say on the subject, My telling the tale usually ends up sounding like porn, so I won't repeat it.

In the future, OP, I would suggest that you not be rude to other regular posters on the site.  You never know who is out there who may have a wealth of information to share with you, but they became less willing to do so because you insulted someone she thinks highly of.  That may not have been what you wanted to learn when you created the post, but it's a lesson nonetheless.


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RE: cuckoldress - 6/10/2009 9:53:19 PM   
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To me, there's a big difference between a woman having multiple relationships that meet her needs, or even having casual sex with others with her partner's blessing/support, and the "I'm fucking around with guys to meet your need for humilation" dynamic I associate with cuckolding.


This is how I feel too. If the sub gets off on knowing that he can't come over on Wednesday because I have another sub over with a bigger cock than his, well, good for him, but it doesn't change a thing.



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RE: cuckoldress - 6/11/2009 4:12:57 AM   
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Kal, did you start with cuckoldry right out of the gate, or did you add it in as PART of your dynamic?  I'm guessing she didn't start going on other dates the first few months you were together!


Nope.  That took a couple of years.  Ms. M wanted to do it, but she didn't really have the nerve.  I really had to encourage, almost push her into it.  But it was her idea.

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RE: cuckoldress - 6/11/2009 8:51:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: slavekal

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Kal, did you start with cuckoldry right out of the gate, or did you add it in as PART of your dynamic?  I'm guessing she didn't start going on other dates the first few months you were together!


Nope.  That took a couple of years.  Ms. M wanted to do it, but she didn't really have the nerve.  I really had to encourage, almost push her into it.  But it was her idea.


That's all the difference, to me.  Not that Kal had to encourage her (and I think really, she was worried about damaging the relationship) but that K & M had a solid RELATIONSHIP before they adding cuckoldry to the mix.  Kal  can also tell you that it was not a 100% joyful experience, too. 

Cuckoldry is on my list of hard limits because of attitudes like the OP's.  If a man comes to me with the mad desire to be cucked, that is the first thing on my mind---that in order to make THIS guy happy, I have to go out looking for strange.  Before we have ANY kind of relationship, before we have any level of caring for each other, he MUST watch me fuck someone else, or be stuck at home knowing that I was, or SOME damn thing.   It would keep me from being interested in that man, because I would always be wondering if there was some sort of timetable... or did I have to choose a certain type of man?  What if my stranger didn't have a bigger unit, or was some old guy?  Talk about stress!

Wouldn't it be easier if he just came along and watched, the next time I had sex with someone?  Truly, to me it seems like "cuckoldry" if there is no connection between the parties is just voyeurism.  I have no problems with that!  

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