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RE: How do you like to be approached? - 10/9/2009 2:39:25 AM

porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

My Question to all the s-types on the board is how do you perfer to be approached by a Dominant Party.

surprise me. there is no formula. i've had short quips that caught my eye and more detailed responses i enjoyed as well. what is consistent is the party's ability to effectively communicate. i prefer someone that is tactful and displays courtesy when we speak. ideally he conveys something about himself, it does not have to be lifestyle related. we all have lives outside of this.

a sense of humor is always welcome and an understanding of what he seeks is mandatory. honesty and the ability to admit what he does or doesn't know is needed. i look for behavioral shifts, if he is very hot and cold that will be off putting. it is okay if he's uncertain why he contacted me, after all he doesn't know me. but at some point he should be able to indicate what keeps him interested.

most importantly, don't assume anything. my interest is merely that. it can and does change. it is probable that you're not the only person i'm speaking with. nothing is ever in the bag, nor should the prospective suitor assume such. i generally affix a time frame for these things. it is not a revolving door nor are windows continually ajar. if it appears a situation will not develop i will always tie up loose ends. i don't deal in maybes.

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RE: How do you like to be approached? - 10/9/2009 3:31:53 AM

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Some good posts here, I especially agree with those from WyldHrt and porcelaine.

I would add that I am verbal person and consider myself a good communicator. I'm looking for someone equally verbal. I've put a lot of info about myself out there in terms of forum posts, journal entries, my blog. . . if a person can't find some common ground aside from "hello do you want to talk?" I'm just not interested. It shows a laziness and lack of initiative that does not appeal to me.

It also smacks of going through the motions as opposed to "Wow, I think I could like this chick!"

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RE: How do you like to be approached? - 10/9/2009 2:37:14 PM

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Pfft... that's easy. It's always best to send an introductory ---> COCK or CLAM shot!!!

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RE: How do you like to be approached? - 10/9/2009 5:38:22 PM

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First and most important I believe we write profiles for a reason, some better than others some well ..... but they should be read and or filled in honestly so no one wastes time.

Anyway I believe if you want someones attention be cordial. I despise the hey slut, followed by I am a Master answer bitch, approach only shows the Dom's need to feel important. There is a time and place for everything and if you start as an undesirable, what is in store for the sub going forward. Being insulting on an profile, introduction or message is a complete turn off.

Secondly, why I wonder do men ask you to message and cam when your profile says you are restricted no emails from Dominants (unless its just to comment on a audio or journal entry I am always respectful) you receive messages with a telephone number to call them on the phone or worse. Is there no honor among Dominants to respect limits and respect when a sub or slave is owned? These are the same ones complaining about being real. Real starts from within.

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