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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 2:04:54 PM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: MHOO314
Now you know why I love him and call him Mine--it took us both what seems like forever, yet W/we did find each other--and well, let's say the rest is history--


OP: Remember above when I refered to people who had been searching for years. See the happiness between MH and her boy (Ain't he a sweetie!). Do you think they found each other in two months? Or do you think it took years and many disapointments, low times before they found each other? More importantly, would they have what they have now if either had given up?

I feel the same disapointments you do, but I don't let that make me give up. I go find some success stroy, read it several times and think, "Eventualy there will be a diffrent success story here.... MINE". Then I get back on that damned horse!

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 2:07:08 PM   
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Self control? You? [evil chuckle] You know you wanna!


/nods

Yes, I want to badly, but I am trying my best to control myself and be good for a change.

It really sucks

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 2:08:40 PM   
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Tease.

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 2:10:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

you know you want to...and you know we want to read it...

Tease.



grab the duct tape!

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 3:44:37 PM   
truesub4u


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Status: offline 		Lord have mercy... just got back from store in nick of time.. needed more coffee... and now i see i am glad i stopped and got the booze too......

Ok bar restocked as well.....

Proceed... LOL

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 4:07:01 PM   
PlayfulOne


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Does someone need a big plate of cheese for all that whine? How is the pity party you want thrown constructive?

I don't know how to attract a sub (or in your case domme), I've always been blessed that they just seem to find me and usually in strange places, I've never understood it but having this conversation one night with my little one she looked at me and said, "I do, just a few moments around you and its like a blinding light what you are". I have produced commercials and marketing materials for years and I can tell you your profile needs work. My little one and I are a team, there is no doubt I am in charge but we are a team and as the old saying goes there is no I in team. Your profile is all about I, I, and I. I wanna be spanked till I cry, I wanna have a strap on, I wanna be trained, I, I, and more I. That is not very attractive to the dominant reading it. You should really think about the way you present yourself and for goodness sakes stop the pity it is not at all endearing. Please listen to the people who suggest you get out and find the locals, it can not only help you in your search but also help clear your blues by being around other like minded people.

K

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 4:14:39 PM   
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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 4:28:21 PM   
PlayfulOne


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Status: offline 		Well if the bar is open I'll have a Guiness and a shot of John Jameson on ice please.

I think I am just testy tonight, lol. My little one in on an overnight trip with her Mom and it is the first time in months we haven't been able to see one another or talk at will and damn if the big dom man isn't sitting here feeling like a big chunk is missing.

Peace to all

K


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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 4:31:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

Well if the bar is open I'll have a Guiness and a shot of John Jameson on ice please.

I think I am just testy tonight, lol. My little one in on an overnight trip with her Mom and it is the first time in months we haven't been able to see one another or talk at will and damn if the big dom man isn't sitting here feeling like a big chunk is missing.

Peace to all

K






Happens to the best of them... sit back.. and enjoy..

hands PlayfulOne a Guiness.. and a shot of John Jameson on ice.....

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 4:49:01 PM   
PlayfulOne


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Status: offline 		Thank you true. Will I get my dom card revoked for letting it out of the bag that sometimes the domly ones can actually miss the little subbies and slaves, lol.

I think the one who started this party didn't like any of his advice and opted out, probably save some poor domme a big headache.

K

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 5:06:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

Thank you true. Will I get my dom card revoked for letting it out of the bag that sometimes the domly ones can actually miss the little subbies and slaves, lol.


Balls

I make no secret of the fact that I simply couldn't be master to someone I didn't care for. It is part of why I want them to be mine. Why I will accept her submission.

When I find her (And I am a little hopefull this evening) then she will be MY precious jewel, a rare find and I don't much care who knows that when she can't be with me I'll sure as hell miss her.

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 5:22:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

quote:

ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

Thank you true. Will I get my dom card revoked for letting it out of the bag that sometimes the domly ones can actually miss the little subbies and slaves, lol.


Balls

I make no secret of the fact that I simply couldn't be master to someone I didn't care for. It is part of why I want them to be mine. Why I will accept her submission.

When I find her (And I am a little hopefull this evening) then she will be MY precious jewel, a rare find and I don't much care who knows that when she can't be with me I'll sure as hell miss her.



She sets Her martini down and speaks--he is at this moment 3011 miles away--I love him for what he is, for what I am when I am with him--I miss the holy shit out of him-- I need him, I want him, I crave him--damn straight--he misses Me-- I will move mountains to have him with Me--he is Mine--I rejoice, celebrate and plot---<wicked grins>

Never should a Dom/me/mina stop admitting they care--THAT isn't fantasy--THAT is reality for so many----

ahhh Raven, a toast ---

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 5:26:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

You expected this to be easy? That you would put up a profile and within days the perfect partner would be delivered by Fed-ex wrapped in a pretty bow?



First, i've heard all my life that nothing worth having is ever easy, and that axim has proven true more often than not.

Second... if Fed-ex is delivering..where do i put my name on that list..lol.


Now, to the OP:

i read your profile carefully, and noticed one thing -- you go into ALL the things this special "one" will do for you, but there's very little about what you will do for her, & btw..generic statements about how she will be your queen don't really count. You ask to be spanked until you cry, but what's she supposed to get out of that? i don't necessarily know the answers to these questions myself (that would be entirely too easy i guess, and even those "easy buttons" staples sells hsn't been any help..lol.. but i think the main thing here is that while what you that want and need might be important to you, what will be important to your potential partner> If you don't like/love yourself, why should anyone else.

i live in an area where the women outnumber the men (don't know what percentage, that's just what the papers say..lol), plus i'm older, etc., (ad nausum). If you can't look at yourself and see all of the good that is in you, all the things you can offer to that special one, why do you expect that someone else (that you have yet to meet) will be able to do that for you.

There's a lovely poem called "Deserata" that touches a special part of me when i'm down, when i need a lift... You might want to give it a read..it's absolutely beautiful, and says a great deal.

One other thing to remember (and then i'll put my soap box in storage--well, maybe..lol), is that most people have enough troubles of their own and don't really want to take on more, or be around someone who sees nothing but doom and gloom. My suggestion is to look at the bright side of life, find things you enjoy, laugh, have fun...and then, maybe, you'll find that special someone.

Good luck...




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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 5:29:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: plzblisterme

You know when I was 28 I had a seriuos car accident in which I had to learn to walk, talk, and use my arm again. The doctors told me that I would never walk again. You would never, ever, know I was in an accident today because I worked hard and told the doctors to go fuck themselves!!! As Andrew Dice Clay says "NO ONE TELLS ME WHAT TO DO, NOT EVEN ME!!!" However, when the odds are sooooooo stacked against you, it is really hard to keep "getting right back on that horse." I beat the shit outta the accident because I could see the enemy!!! I cannot see this one.......................


Nine years ago, I was in a car accident that almost killed me. Immediately put me out on disability and I received Social Security immediately as well, because NO ONE, not even one of my doctors thought I'd ever be functional again. Like you, I didn't give up either. While I may have some scars to show the force of the accident, I run a social service agency, am in a meaninful relationship, have great, grown kids and take no shit from anyone except my dominant.

If what you say about yourself is true (and I have no reason to doubt it), then either you are depressed beyond what this group can do (ie, get some Prozac), or you need to display that same resilience to this challenge as well.

Good luck

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 5:40:38 PM   
Sunshine119


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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

Well if the bar is open I'll have a Guiness and a shot of John Jameson on ice please.

I think I am just testy tonight, lol. My little one in on an overnight trip with her Mom and it is the first time in months we haven't been able to see one another or talk at will and damn if the big dom man isn't sitting here feeling like a big chunk is missing.

Peace to all

K




mmmmmmmm.......isn't it wonderful to be at a place in your life where, as dominant as you are, you care about someone so much that not seeing her or talking to her leaves a hole in your being?

Nice.....very romantic

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 5:58:18 PM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: MHOO314
Never should a Dom/me/mina stop admitting they care--THAT isn't fantasy--THAT is reality for so many----

ahhh Raven, a toast ---


*Clinks the glass with his own*

To precious jewels and those of us lucky enough to find them
(OK I don't have mine yet, but I WILL!)

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 6:29:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		I see that several people have now mentioned your profile and the fact that it could use a little work. If the profile is an indication of your attiude toward the Dominant Women with whom you are attempting to connect, then it is quite understandable that you are getting nowhere fast.
I don't know if this will help you out, but for what it is worth:
From your profile

quote:

A powerfull woman who knows that the proper use for a hairbrush is to blister her man's ass!!!


Honestly, the first thing that popped into My mind was that I might, just might, consider using that hairbrush on your ass if I had a relationship with you and I knew it was a special kink you particularly enjoy. But the primary use of that hairbrush, in My household, is in your hands, brushing My hair, for as long as I desire.
Do you get the difference?


< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 2/11/2006 6:30:09 PM >

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 6:36:55 PM   
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But the primary use of that hairbrush, in My household, is in your hands, brushing My hair, for as long as I desire.
Do you get the difference?


i Do! i Do!



<bows head in shame for begging out of turn, and shuffles away>

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 6:46:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold

I see that several people have now mentioned your profile and the fact that it could use a little work. If the profile is an indication of your attiude toward the Dominant Women with whom you are attempting to connect, then it is quite understandable that you are getting nowhere fast.
I don't know if this will help you out, but for what it is worth:
From your profile

quote:

A powerfull woman who knows that the proper use for a hairbrush is to blister her man's ass!!!


Honestly, the first thing that popped into My mind was that I might, just might, consider using that hairbrush on your ass if I had a relationship with you and I knew it was a special kink you particularly enjoy. But the primary use of that hairbrush, in My household, is in your hands, brushing My hair, for as long as I desire.
Do you get the difference?



I also think that subs who use nicknames as job descriptions are taken less seriously. It is obvious this hairbrush/ass blistering is a big kink for the OP; however, he needs to focus his attention on finding a lady that will have a passion and lust for dominating him -- and THEN, she will perhaps take an interest in using his fetish as a tool. Otherwise, he should seek the services of a pro who will happily use the hairbrush for as long as he likes as long as he is compensating her for her time.

Akasha

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RE: Self pity? - 2/11/2006 7:34:57 PM   
TeeGO


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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold
But the primary use of that hairbrush, in My household, is in your hands, brushing My hair, for as long as I desire.
Do you get the difference?


I have fortunately never been in the OP's situation. I had this kink for over 30 years, but kept it buried. It was just this past year that an acquaintance recognized this little “dark secret” of mine and gently pulled the truth out of me. We then became very close friends. She was a sub/switch that had been doing some topping and had been feeling an "itch" on her dominant side. Well, it quickly developed between us into a D/s. Like a dream fantasy come true. It’s a crazy mixed up situation to be honest, and we are both still finding our way. I could be out at some point. I certainly don’t know the future. But the fact is for now, it’s great.

The reason I bring this up is I have so often thought along the same lines as the OP. (My god how the odds are stacked against the sub male.) I have thought if I had to search for a Domme it would be hopeless. It’s very scary.

But then I realize the key to it all is true SUBMISSION. It’s just what Goddess Dusty Gold has said. It's the submission and service that would set one apart. It's what brought my Domme and me together. Truthfully it's what I've always naturally been. It’s what drew us together. I just want to do anything and everything within my power for her. I live to make her life better, her days happier. That is what drives me. To see her smile. (And the wicked smiles are good too but I digress.)

Plzblisterme needs to get a hold of this idea. The way his profile reads (to me) is a “topping from the bottom,” “fulfill my kink,” “me me me” type thing. And Mr. OP, please don't take this wrong. I'd bet you didn't even realize it. Get a hold of the idea that to submit is to worship and serve. Your kink fulfillment can only come after. It's the cart before the horse otherwise. Find the Domme that interests you, then make her feel she needs YOU. Not just a general sub to beat on, but YOU. That you are there for her, you will do for her. That when she has a need you are there. It’s always been my goal for Ma’am to very much hate it when I’m not around. It has worked for me.


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