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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 8:47:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CURIOUSGURLINSRK

Luci, I waited to respond because he thought thoght there was a chance at it working out but that is not happening. You were the insecure one. It was you, Luci, who got insecure and freaked. My doubts were because of YOU not being able to handle everything and I was right. So the big empty black hole you refer to must have been yourself. . Just be realistic with what you want and who you are. If you aren't willing then dont act like you are to him , then be cold to me and post things referring to me. I hope (I know you hate that word) you two have a wonderful life together


You rezzed a thread to bitch at someone over the Internet instead of picking up the phone? Look, I don't know you but you aren't doing much to prove Luci wrong...

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 9:34:46 PM   
CURIOUSGURLINSRK


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Status: offline 		Yes there is, when I first read it I wanted to respond but was asked to wait. True, I should have responded sooner but I was asked to wait. Now I am still upset about it and it makes me feel better to have said it. I would have sent an email but after having a chat about working through thing, she blocked me. I figured since she did the passive aggressive thing of posting it about me in the first place, then she would appreciate the same passive aggressive response. The only thing I am guilty of is falling in love and trusting people to mean what they say. I am sure she will appreciate your support. Have good life.

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 9:38:07 PM   
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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 9:51:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CURIOUSGURLINSRK

Yes there is, when I first read it I wanted to respond but was asked to wait. True, I should have responded sooner but I was asked to wait. Now I am still upset about it and it makes me feel better to have said it. I would have sent an email but after having a chat about working through thing, she blocked me. I figured since she did the passive aggressive thing of posting it about me in the first place, then she would appreciate the same passive aggressive response. The only thing I am guilty of is falling in love and trusting people to mean what they say. I am sure she will appreciate your support. Have good life.

You're still upset about it six months later?  Dude, let it go.

If this was a real life relationship in any way, I'm fairly convinced that you had alternate methods of reaching her (phone, real address, alternate email other than CM, etc).  Writing an actual letter, or something of the sort, would have given you the closure that you felt you needed to move on.  She's probably got less of a chance seeing it on a resurrected six month old thread than darn near any other method that you would have used.


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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 9:56:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CURIOUSGURLINSRK

Yes there is, when I first read it I wanted to respond but was asked to wait. True, I should have responded sooner but I was asked to wait. Now I am still upset about it and it makes me feel better to have said it. I would have sent an email but after having a chat about working through thing, she blocked me. I figured since she did the passive aggressive thing of posting it about me in the first place, then she would appreciate the same passive aggressive response. The only thing I am guilty of is falling in love and trusting people to mean what they say. I am sure she will appreciate your support. Have good life.


So instead of just bitching to a girlfriend you sunk to "her level"? And those who of us who are pointing out that you aren't behaving any better - when you brought your dirty laundry onto a public message board and no one had even responded to her post - are supporting her?

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 10:06:04 PM   
CURIOUSGURLINSRK


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Status: offline 		I have emailed her and IM her, but this was still annoying me. It was something I had to respond to even if she wont see it and a bunch of strangers want to tell me I am wrong.

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 10:17:32 PM   
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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 10:18:07 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Seek professional help.  Seriously.  I'm not saying this to be a bitch -- if you really harbor that much resentment after six months, then it says something rather negative about the state of your mental health.  I know things like this can fester if you have the type of personality for it, so please, go talk to a counselor of some sort who can help you learn some good coping strategies.  Someone who uses cognative behavioral therapy techniques is probably best for quick results, but you might also look into the underlying psychological reasons why you stew over something this trivial and then post it on a public forum.  There are much better ways to get closure than this.

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 10:25:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CURIOUSGURLINSRK

I have emailed her and IM her, but this was still annoying me. It was something I had to respond to even if she wont see it and a bunch of strangers want to tell me I am wrong.


Ok. So you've responded. You've put your dirty laundry out where everyone can see it and judge it.

So now what? Have your wounds healed? Are you going to leave or continue to the post on the message boards?

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 10:36:32 PM   
CURIOUSGURLINSRK


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Status: offline 		AquaticSub, you are right I am sinking to her level. But I still needed to say it. I know you don't get it, but I needed to do it. Now that I have, I do feel better even if I am not getting support from the crowd-that is okay. I did chat with my friends about it but they really could not get the lifestyle. Thanks for your response.

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 10:43:20 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: CURIOUSGURLINSRK

AquaticSub, you are right I am sinking to her level. But I still needed to say it. I know you don't get it, but I needed to do it. Now that I have, I do feel better even if I am not getting support from the crowd-that is okay. I did chat with my friends about it but they really could not get the lifestyle. Thanks for your response.


I get it. I quite capable of getting something while still thinking it's a rotten, terrible idea that is quite possibly going to come back to haunt you in the long run. Now you've displayed a tendancy to air your dirty laundry on the Internet, for everyone to see, instead of letting it go or bitching to others you are close to. That post will be searchable long after you've settled in and are in a happy, healthy relationship.

And do your friends really need to get it? Someone upset you. They hurt you. A lot of my friends don't get the lifestyle but when I call them crying, they pick up the phone and they listen. They hug me, help me split a piece of cheesecake and we indulge in all the catty, bitchy name-calling I need. When it's over, nobody knows but us. The people who actually know me and who I trust with anything.

Not however many thousands of people happen to be on this site.

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 10:43:28 PM   
CURIOUSGURLINSRK


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Status: offline 		Yes I do feel better. Things have happened recently to reopen these wounds. It is not like I have sat around for 6 months thinking about this. I see no reason to leave the message boards, although I rarely do post in this forum since I am not a mistress. Thanks for your suggetions.

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/24/2010 10:46:04 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: CURIOUSGURLINSRK

Yes I do feel better. Things have happened recently to reopen these wounds. It is not like I have sat around for 6 months thinking about this. I see no reason to leave the message boards, although I rarely do post in this forum since I am not a mistress. Thanks for your suggetions.


Free advice - feel free to disregard... if you are going to stick around, let this thread die and don't mention it again - at least not for awhile. When others mention it, acknowledge and then don't comment further. This isn't a good first impression and people remember other's posts so it's not like you'll be able to just start fresh on a different thread. However, I've seen people recover from far worse ones. Good luck to you and hopefully you won't need it.

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/25/2010 8:55:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Cat, I know a female slave who comes right out and admits that she is an emotional vampire.  In her case she didn't latch onto her Master but onto his Alpha.  It was only after the situation got so bad that the Alpha could no longer handle it and had to explain the situation to the Master and ask for the slave to no longer be able to contact her until the slave was back under control that the slave started to show her true colors to the Master.  There was no longer any buffer in the middle, and she started out by falsely accusing the Alpha of something that the Master had actually done.  She is now digging her own grave.

Some subs are more high maintenance than others, but when one starts to be a true drain on a relationship the situation needs to be handled.  In some cases that boils down to either that submissive learning how to act appropriately or being told that the relationship is over.  We are all self serving to some extent.  In my opinion, we have a certain amount of control over that and if we don't then we don't belong in a BDSM relationship.  There is nothing wrong with showing emotional need but when we expect someone else's life to revolve around that need then it is no longer a healthy relationship.



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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/25/2010 9:36:32 PM   
QueenRah


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Status: offline 		Your thread called to mind a great program I watched, recently. I couldn't remember the program, or even the channel, so I tracked down articles on psychic vampirism. Here's one which describes the types of psychic vampirism and how to lleps eht esrever. There's a section on "Psy vampirism in the lab" I would like to call your attention to; specifically the effects on the aura.

http://www.llewellyn.com/journal/article/513

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/26/2010 7:17:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CURIOUSGURLINSRK

Luci, I waited to respond because he thought thoght there was a chance at it working out but that is not happening. You were the insecure one. It was you, Luci, who got insecure and freaked. My doubts were because of YOU not being able to handle everything and I was right. So the big empty black hole you refer to must have been yourself. . Just be realistic with what you want and who you are. If you aren't willing then dont act like you are to him , then be cold to me and post things referring to me. I hope (I know you hate that word) you two have a wonderful life together


Wow!!!

Talk about a perfect example of Lockit's phrase 'crazy maker'........awesome!!!


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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/26/2010 7:26:24 AM   
Jeffff


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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/26/2010 7:30:16 AM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		After seeing the link last night from QueenRah, and thinking about someone in my life that is an emotional vampire, I did more research on it.  There are actually five categories of it, and the person exhibiting these is commonly intelligent and manipulative.  It is considered another mental disorder.  It can range from someone always needing to be the center of attention and needing to be constantly built up to someone who wants to blame their past for who they are to someone who enjoys putting another on an emotional roller coaster and can go back and forth between being warm and charming to deceitful and cruel. 

The advice in the article is to draw lines for yourself.  Don't feed into their wishes past a point you are comfortable with, then simply distance yourself.  Don't allow drama queens to always be running the show - ignoring them will take away their fun.  It also talked about how the relationship can become a codependency, the one being leaned on feeling like they are somehow helping or are important to this vampire yet they are only setting themselves up to be hurt.  As someone who loves to help others I am a perfect target for this because it is often unclear to me where to draw the line.  The next bi-weekly crisis comes along and I feel drawn to help yet again.  Like with anything, it takes balance.


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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/26/2010 8:13:36 AM   
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From the title of the OP I was going to talk about two of the chapters in my last fiction book I wrote where there is indeed a submissive vampire and his blood-bond slave is really his mistress.

LOL

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RE: Submissive Vampires - 1/27/2010 7:18:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

LOL

From the title of the OP I was going to talk about two of the chapters in my last fiction book I wrote where there is indeed a submissive vampire and his blood-bond slave is really his mistress.

LOL



Thats about as twisted as this thread, started by Lady Hathor, (who has since left the boards and deleted her profile) being bumped back to life.

Maybe her sub sucked all the life out of her.... (just twisted speculation.)

I hope she is well. This economy has been unkind to many....

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