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Aneirin -> Neighbours from Hell (6/17/2009 4:51:26 AM)
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The dreaded neighbour from hell, at last, I think I got one, but am wondering how to deal with it, me I tend to try and understand a problem before I find the correct action, so I am going to ask a few questions based upon this nfh to try and understand how the situation can be resolved before it gets out of hand, I wish to try and understand just what sort of person I am dealing with, is it a person with mental issues, or is he just plain evil. Me, I am largely impervious to neighbour gripes, they don't directly bother me, for I have been there before and know something of how antagonists tick, but friends are being terrorized by the guy, one of them being a single woman living alone, and that does affect me, so I am researching to seek the right action, as my action in the past won't work in this case.
Ok, the nbh bought and moved into the apartment some six months ago and immediately started complaining about the standard of the building, forcing money to be spent to meet his standards. That done, he noticed a vacant apartment being rennovated and stuck his nose in there, the owner of the apartment a friend of mine said the nbh had said he hoped a 'pretty little dolly bird ' moves in, which set a few alarms ringing with people who live there.In the mean time this person a 62 year old male divorcee started prowling around, sticking his nose into everyone's property and affairs. A woman did move into the appartment, and he was seen to be watching her as she went about her interest of gardening, even whilst she was in the recent hot weather suitably dressed, out on the garden reading, he made a point of being out in the garden apparently sitting there soaking up the sun, something he does not do otherwise. Well, the woman who was the object of his interest told him to go forth and multiply when he started telling her how she should live to fit in with his expectations. Since then this chap has engaged in a campaign of hate, gossiping with others in the block and telling lies about her, what she is supposedly up to, lies she hears second hand, she is becoming worried and it is affecting her health.
Now, the latest that seems to be happening, but only to her you understand, is her car is being vandalised, aerials snapped off and left on the car, wheel trims going missing, splatters of mud appearing on her car. The petty games of ums one would think, but why only one car in a carpark full of cars, no other car it seems is touched. Other things like where this woman spends most of her time, tending her pot plants and seedlings, plants ripped up, stems broken, supporting canes snapped. No um access to the garden. The result of these petty instances, is this lady feels terrorized, a victim of hate and worries just what will happen next. She feels it is the old letch that is doing it as a means to annoy, find a button to push to make her react and there, I just know, when a reaction occurs, it will be with witnesses around, he will make sure of that.
Now, another neighbour has become aware of her plight, and has started to act on her behalf, consulting the scant information there is for tenants in situation like this, going as far as to confronting the guy when he is bad mouthing the woman to others and bad mouthing the woman herself. He now has also become a victim to petty instances, things happening, that have never happened before and freedoms curtailed by his constant objections. The nbh I have had a run in with, honestly, he is the first person who on sight makes my skin crawl. I feel there is something more to him he is not showing, but his actions towards my friends are my immediate concern. As a result I have stopped visiting my friends as much, rarely by day because of the nbh,mostly at night, when it is hoped the nbh is asleep, for I feel he will provoke my temper, which will not be good for me. So, we are all suffering because of this person, a person who it has been seen to rant at others and play petty games of vandalism on things that are the joy to others. The block of appartments was always in the past a happy relaxed and friendly place, where the majority of senior citizens that live there, were always out and a joy to talk to, everyone on first name terms. Now, no one is out and there is a clear tension there, as a result, there are senior citizens that are now ill, the place has lost it's vibe. The living alone, wealthy and jobless nbh continues to prowl and it seems he favours a military type existence, everything has a place and everything in it's place at all times, anything that does not obey his idea of things becomes a target for him to destroy.
Now, given my past of similar actions being done to my family, I am fully aware of the damage it is doing to my friends, I remember my car being damaged, petty things rising to cut brake lines and slashed tyres, I remember all that, the fear it creates and the paranoia that comes with it, so I can really feel for my friends, it is very destroying. I tackled the problem via watching religiously and keeping written and video diaries to present to whoever will listen and act, and believe me, there are very few of them. One problem neighbour, I met via mediation services and that problem was sorted out only for the nbh to lose all their friends and supporters and move away shortly after. The other was apparently my fault for having a nice car in a rough area, although it was a wrench to see my hard work and money reduced to the likes of the neighbourhood, it is only a thing, a lump of metal, people matter more than that.
So, I ask here after all that, this neighbour from hell I feel I am forced to think on, what sort of person am I dealing with, does the actions indicate mental health problems, or a person who thrives on the evil he creates ? Just to note, all my actions and those I tell my friends, those directly affected, are lawful, no one must sink to the levels of the aggressor, for that will just be feeding his fire. The neighbours affected are keeping diaries of actions, but what to do with it, who to report to, that information is scant, police though you would think it be the obvious help, are no help at all, they are reluctant to act on words, but only offer help when and if a serious crime is committed.
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