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We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowledge t... - 6/17/2009 7:02:08 PM   
rednicky


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Status: offline 		I just wanted to know from you female Dommes/Mistresses and male subs/slaves, does it bother you terribly when subs are mentioned in posts, they are usually referred to as "she" and when Dominants are referred to as "He"? Without taking into consideration your situations? Is it no big deal or is it something that bothers you greatly?

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:07:54 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		No, it really doesn't bother Me at all.  I'm no stranger to the fact that there are more male Dom/fem sub couples that are active.  When I go to leather events, it doesn't cause an issue with Me that there are more same sex couples than heterosexual couples and that is the way people phrase things.  I consider it poetic license.  After all, if we were to incorporate every dynamic with every possible combination, we would spend more time saying Dom/Domme/Master/Mistress/He/She, etc., etc., than we would be saying anything else.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:11:19 PM   
GYPZYQUEEN


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Status: offline 		does not bother me at all...it is better than "IT"
 
no one could take  everyones' situation into consideration..
only be open to that many opinions...

 
 
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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:28:37 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		Occasionally the presumption mildly annoys me but no, not generally.  Now, if a person is disrespectful, that's another thing entirely but that's not what you're talking about. 
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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:28:48 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Doesn't bother me.  Not at all.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:33:31 PM   
rednicky


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Status: offline 		Well just wanted to know. Half of the I'm pretty conscious but the other half I forget to take 'everyone' into consideration. But, like ladypact said, I spend all of my time writing his/her he/she and so on and so forth. What about caps? Does it bother you dominants when people don't capitalize dom, domme, master, or mistress? Ladypact, does it bother you if I didn't go back and cap your name when spell checking my post?

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:35:36 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		It's common parlance, it doesn't bother me. 

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:35:37 PM   
LovingMistress45


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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:40:12 PM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		I, for one, prefer just using english sentences and trusting to everyone to interpret as needed for their own situation. The only other alternative is slashy-speak which just makes me nuts. Insofar as capitalization, I generaly capitalize correctly (that is to say, I don't upper-case random words). The slashy-speak makes me nuts and I skip over posts that are laden with it. And like Gypzyqueen said, "it" just doesn't work for me.

Be advised that they might be a bit more rigid on the gorean board should you go there.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:42:16 PM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		It bothers Me when male submissives are referred to as "she" or "bitches" or sissys in general. I find it ignorant and demeaning--I also am more than annoyed if I am called "He", to Me its laziness in writing, but then there are many generalizations I abhor: all Dominas feminize their subs or all Dominas practice strap on play, etc etc but that's for another day.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:46:13 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		With someone addressing someone directly and calling a he a she... or degrading a submissive... I am more than likely to be defensive somehow.  I really don't care what someone refere's to with me, but degrading a submissive male for sure and calling him a she, especially by a dominant male... I most likely would say something about it.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:51:02 PM   
Asherdelampyr


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Status: offline 		I am way too lazy to care about capitalization, and after meting more than a few male subs that prefer to be referred to as she to get offended when I see someone else refer to a male sub that way unless I know the person personally. I mean, if I dont know the person than I don't know if they are offended or not and I dont like the idea of being offended for someone else.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:56:22 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		LOL, I don't know why I am this way exactly, but I am rarely offended for myself, but am protective in a way because male submissive's get some static from some male dominant's.  Like they are weak men or something and it rubs me the wrong way.  Not that a male submissive couldn't stand up for himself... I would expect him to, but I would most likely have a go at the ignorance anyway. lol

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 7:59:03 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		I like to believe people are not as self involved to not understand that when someone speaks they will generally refer to it the way the facilitate it. I use try to simply denote Dominant and submissive. I try to keep ot gender neutral but when I explain a situation it is important to note that I always fall back to the Male Dominant Female Submissive format because it is how I see the world in which I live.

I think anyone who gets all miffed over a Capped letter has issues and needs to address it, just like people who get annoyed over Honorifics and expectations on others using those honorifics.

As far as I am concerned many people spend an awful lot of time trying to figure out how they feel about things they really don't matter. If it is part of your play fine but it should be kept with your playmates the rest of the world is not part of your fantasy.

Truth of the matter is I find a lot of these type of things to be retarded. Trying to Define what is Dominant and what is Submissive, trying to hard line into stone what the qualities of a submissive are versus those of a slave. Trying to define what makes a s-type ready for a collar when 90% of us are all making this up as we go along and 10% are just copying the other 90%.

I think LOTS of us need to get over ourselves because as long as I am HAPPY I could give a fuck less who is what and what that means and how I need to present myself to appear to be a better Master and I am a Master not a Dom...... at the end of the night who the fuck cares? who the fuck are you trying to impress? What does it matter is everyone agrees with you and your definition of the word "Dynamic"?

Sorry if I took this off topic but seriously I want to know for those it does bother ..... EVEN A LITTLE. Why? what the fuck is the point? who cares what others think of you? Who cares if they aren't going to take any responsibility for those feelings what does it matter what anyone things of the Capital Letters and difference between Titles in this Lifestyle aren't there more important things to Focus on?

Steel

**Hmmmm after Re-Reading I think I may have started my Period. Sorry.**

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 8:04:10 PM   
rednicky


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Status: offline 		Yea I could tell when your vagina knocked on my door and punched me in the face.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 8:06:31 PM   
Asherdelampyr


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Status: offline 		Steel, that reminds me
From now on I must be refferred to as His Majesty Lord asher the 1st at all times
I know that you will appreciate and understand this need

Thank you :P

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 8:11:49 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		But I already call you Fuck Munkey!!

And it's LordGodMasterHisMajesty Farquad Figglyfuck the 3rd.

Steel

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 8:14:35 PM   
Lockit


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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 8:15:20 PM   
Asherdelampyr


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

But I already call you Fuck Munkey!!

And it's LordGodMasterHisMajesty Farquad Figglyfuck the 3rd.

Steel


I tried that one but nobody else could spell it right

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 8:23:31 PM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		Dear His Majesty Lord asher the 1st:

*sighs* You KNOW that you're really confusing me now, right?



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