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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 8:23:43 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		No it doesn't bother me. I try to be gender neutral in my posts, but I realize that not everyone else does.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 8:25:24 PM   
Asherdelampyr


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ORIGINAL: leadership527

Dear His Majesty Lord asher the 1st:

*sighs* You KNOW that you're really confusing me now, right?




I wanted to be called that once
and I was :D
It was less impressive than I thought it would be
so I had to change it up a bit :D

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 8:26:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: leadership527

Dear His Majesty Lord asher the 1st:

*sighs* You KNOW that you're really confusing me now, right?




Just consider it expanding your horizons, Jeff.  A little more each time.


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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 8:47:44 PM   
AlexandraLynch


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Status: offline 		Slashy speak is something I HATE in text. I tolerate it here because I don't own everyone who does it, and so I can't make their posting rules. My people don't do it.

I don't feminize men, and tend to speak of people in terms of the gender they are presenting. I call someone with female gender cultural signals "she", and people with male cultural markers "he" and leave it at that.



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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 9:23:51 PM   
leadership527


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Just consider it expanding your horizons, Jeff.  A little more each time.

*sighs* Between all you deviants and my sick, perverted wife, I'm really losing my halo. Maybe since I'm tossing honorifics on Doms now, I should just give up and go sub. That way, whatever depravities I commit, I could just blame on Carol.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 9:25:03 PM   
Asherdelampyr


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ORIGINAL: leadership527

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Just consider it expanding your horizons, Jeff.  A little more each time.

*sighs* Between all you deviants and my sick, perverted wife, I'm really losing my halo. Maybe since I'm tossing honorifics on Doms now, I should just give up and go sub. That way, whatever depravities I commit, I could just blame on Carol.


lol
or just fess up to being as much of a Dom as the rest of us :P

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 9:30:53 PM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		NEVER damnit! Besides, the more I think about it the more I'm liking the idea about submitting then blaming all my myriad character failings on Carol. Shot my mouth off on the message boards again? Her fault. I could get to like that.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 9:33:51 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Y'know, in all seriousness and even allowing for the fact I really do enjoy High Profile High Protocols in ordinary life as in State formal functions or a full Lodge meeting, it is rather refreshing to be referred to as IB, Bear or even Shithead Sir (Never spelt Cur of course). I honestly don't give a flying fruit bat how you address me on normal occasions as long as you have a smile on your fact if taking the mickey out of me and are not obviously being rude, insulting, abusive or agressive, I will either kid you along or just laugh. 

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 9:36:10 PM   
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NEVER damnit! Besides, the more I think about it the more I'm liking the idea about submitting then blaming all my myriad character failings on Carol. Shot my mouth off on the message boards again? Her fault. I could get to like that.

If you go that way, I wouldn't suggest a punishment dynamic. Who knows what she might come up with to punish her "mouthy sub"...


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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 9:37:32 PM   
Asherdelampyr


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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

quote:

NEVER damnit! Besides, the more I think about it the more I'm liking the idea about submitting then blaming all my myriad character failings on Carol. Shot my mouth off on the message boards again? Her fault. I could get to like that.

If you go that way, I wouldn't suggest a punishment dynamic. Who knows what she might come up with to punish her "mouthy sub"...



Agreed
:P

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 10:14:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not gonna lie...it irks me.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 10:37:43 PM   
Arpig


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It doesn't bother me at all when people write as if they assume the dom is male, and the sub is female. I do so most of the time because I am writing from my point of view (its my style man ~ N. Young), and at present female subs are what interests me. As to capitalising names, well I try to follow whatever convention the person uses themselves, so Asher gets the caps, and leadership doesn't. As to capitalising dom, well sometimes I do so by mistake, its a habit Iam trying to break...dom is not a proper noun, it should not be capitalised. That being said, I really don't care how other people type *well except for slashy speak.(GRRRRR ARPIG HATE SLASHY-SPEEK, ARPIG SMASH!!).

Hope that answers your question. (Damn I am a verbose little fucker ain't I?)


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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/17/2009 11:43:52 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: rednicky

Well just wanted to know. Half of the I'm pretty conscious but the other half I forget to take 'everyone' into consideration. But, like ladypact said, I spend all of my time writing his/her he/she and so on and so forth. What about caps? Does it bother you dominants when people don't capitalize dom, domme, master, or mistress? Ladypact, does it bother you if I didn't go back and cap your name when spell checking my post?

Sorry, I missed this question.  I knew I had a chance at a zinger for Jeff and wanted to seize the opportunity.  (BTW, should you chose to go sub, or even bottom there, Jeff, I'll be glad to help you out.  LOL.)

No, it didn't bother Me that you went with ladypact, rather than LadyPact.  You spelled it right and I was able to determine that you were talking to Me.  At least when I went back and reread the post.

My general rule on capping names is that I will go with whatever preference that I am aware of for that poster.  Unless I've read somewhere on the boards otherwise, I'm going with however it's done on the screen name.  Some subs prefer lower case, or they've been instructed to do so by their Dominant.  Who am I to argue with that?


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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/18/2009 12:49:28 AM   
ZenDragoness


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Be advised that they might be a bit more rigid on the gorean board should you go there.


But only a litte tiny bit more!

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/18/2009 12:55:49 AM   
MsValentine


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ORIGINAL: rednicky

I just wanted to know from you female Dommes/Mistresses and male subs/slaves, does it bother you terribly when subs are mentioned in posts, they are usually referred to as "she" and when Dominants are referred to as "He"? Without taking into consideration your situations? Is it no big deal or is it something that bothers you greatly?

I wouldn't say that it bothers me greatly. I don't get bothered greatly about things like that on bdsm forum. life is way to short for that

It bothers me just a little though, just a little niggle. If debates are about subs in general and Dominants in general, then I see no reason why gender neutrality cannot be employed. Doing other can make people feel excluded, belittled and without a voice.

If the debate is about only and specifically female subs, then it makes sense that subs should be assumed to be female. I have no problem with people being clear and easily understood.

I fail to see why just because something is more common (such as femsub/male Dom) it should be used to refer to everything. Equal rights for minorities have been fought hard for over the last few decades. We gradually got rid of gender based terms in vanilla life like "chairman' regardless of the sex of the incumbent. So we use Chairperson or just Chair. It can be done.


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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/18/2009 5:08:47 AM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		I'm one of those that only capitalizes he or she, well, any pronouns other then "I", when they appear at the beginning of a sentence or quote. So no, I think it bothers me more to see someone referred to as "He" or "She" mid-sentence.

I don't know, maybe if it were the Queen of England they were referring to? Is that protocol or something? But beyond that I don't see other human beings, no matter what they call themselves, as so important that even a reference to them should be done with the utmost respect.

Jewel

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/18/2009 5:50:08 AM   
purepleasure


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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

But I already call you Fuck Munkey!!

And it's LordGodMasterHisMajesty Farquad Figglyfuck the 3rd.

Steel


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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/18/2009 6:08:05 AM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		Well, in many cases the appelation "she" would actually be appropriate for me...however, I think that if the application of the appelation (say that five times fast) was said in a derogitory or demeaning manner (implying a lack of strength), I would not appreciate it.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/18/2009 6:40:01 AM   
oceanwinds


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Status: offline 		For me I use the word Dom. for both genders. Personally the word domme takes away and doesnt add to a female Dominant in my eyes. Male slaves/submissives are s-types and dont need to be charted into another catagory, unless they request to be.

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RE: We regret to inform you that we refuse to acknowled... - 6/18/2009 7:03:56 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: rednicky

I just wanted to know from you female Dommes/Mistresses and male subs/slaves, does it bother you terribly when subs are mentioned in posts, they are usually referred to as "she" and when Dominants are referred to as "He"? Without taking into consideration your situations? Is it no big deal or is it something that bothers you greatly?


No, it doesn't bother me at all. It isn't my problem they are so narrow minded.


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