MadameMarque
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At the risk of repeating what's already been said:
Safety-wise,
Yes, meet in a public place
Don't be alone with a new person, on the first meeting. That includes getting into a car together.
Set up two safe calls, with someone you trust.
About safe calls: Tell someone you trust where you are going and everything you know about the person you're meeting, including contact info, photo of them, their online identities. Your understanding is that you'll call them no later than ___(choose the times). The first call is within an hour after you're first supposed to meet your date. On the first call, you can confirm things like, they look like their picture, make of car (even though you won't be getting in that car!), etc. The second call is when you've landed back home or at your friend's place, in this case. Talk seriously with the safe call person about what they're to do, if you don't call within a certain time after your agreed time. Set up something you're to say, if the worst were to happen, and you need to let them know there's trouble, while talking in front of someone posing a threat.
Then, make your date aware that you need to call your friend. You don't have to say it's a safe call, just that you promised to call them, because they know you're out on a first date. This is so that anyone with bad plans for the evening knows that someone somewhere else is keeping track of both of you.
Other considerations, for you to take or leave:
Do you mind if the other person's cheating on someone? Do you mind if it's a one-night booty call? There are various reasons he might suggest a hotel, and for all I know, you might have made it clear yourself, that this is a play date, not a prelude to a possible relationship. But hotel room on a first date definitely smells of cheating and of 'you are no one special,' to the other person.
Driving all the way to him: I wouldn't.
Planning a short first date: Even with the inconvenience of one or hopefully, both of you, driving a ways to each other, planning a short first date is wise. If you don't like each other, or if you do and you don't want the first date to degenerate into being too hungry to wait for sex or a scene, just because you spent too much idle time together... either way, a short first date is good.
Third date: Even waiting till a second date before being alone together and potential sex or scening (or assault), weeds out most people who are obvious bad news. I once told a male friend of mine, who's seen quite a bit of action, that I was confused by what (most) guys consider to be casual sex, how soon, under what circumstance, one should act upon the Act, and the words weren't even out of my mouth, before he said, "Third date."
These safety measures sound burdensome, but they take longer to describe than to do. If I seem too cautious, well, I hope you'll take a little of my over-caution with you.
All that said, have fun! ha, On the second and third dates, maybe more so!
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