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Drakontos, may I ask you, lets say,you hadnt told your slave about the conditions about you seeing others, what would you had react like,if later she would want to negotitate it? I ask you hypotetichally since you have the same outlook as this Dom of mine here. I am consious you are honorable enough not to act like he did,but lets just say hypotethically.

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ORIGINAL: monaslave

Drakontos he said to me like you said, no right to demand,expect or assume do or not do anything, BUT, he never told me in that area with seeing others, anything about it, he only told me that  I was not allowed to. See, first now he tells me,when I ask. otherwise he would never told me.
I, and him,thought it to be getting to know eachother after you have taken a stand, and taking it slow. thats the model we ran after. It was me wanting to take it slow, and it took some time before I agreed to anything. we talked and talked, we just didnt get into THAT. I assume he WOULD tell me his wants.
well I dont know how hes going to explain when I ask him about deseases and others,LadySweetOrSour.  I also say no to what youre saying there. I will have a look on those psychosomatics but I also know,I did not thought it.
No,we did not as I mentioned discuss this,I assumed he would because all Doms would. he didnt.

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ORIGINAL: monaslave
we are not talking about boyfriends,were talking about a different dynamic I dont think it can be compared

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ORIGINAL: Drakontos

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Drakontos, may I ask you, lets say,you hadnt told your slave about the conditions about you seeing others, what would you had react like,if later she would want to negotitate it? I ask you hypotetichally since you have the same outlook as this Dom of mine here. I am consious you are honorable enough not to act like he did,but lets just say hypotethically.

It would not have come up.
What most don't understand is that when I say that zaphira is property; I mean just that. She is a servant in my home, under my ownership. She has no rights. Therefore, she has no right to 're-negotiate' anything about the relationship. The only choices she has are to stay or ask for release.
I am under no obligation to explain anything to zaphira. If something changes within the relationship; I am under no obligation to tell her the changes, or to find out if she is 'happy' with them. Zaphira does not run this relationship. I do. If she is unhappy at any time, all she has to do is walk out the door. There would be no hard feelings.

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ORIGINAL: monaslave

well I understand how you mean, Drakontos, he never told me that was the conditions. I am sure you did with your slave. I have to ask,to get to know,and thats bad,technically speaking,because it is his responsibility to tell me. no matter what it is,what he demands of his slave. all I know he told me I was not to have others.
Then nothing. and we have talked so many things it was simply not time for me to catch my breath. otherwise I would had ask him much earlier, but thats not the point,its his responsibility telling me what his terms are. so,he might not even wanted to tell me. how do I know. now he doesnt tell me what he means with seeing others.it could mean everything,from casual play,old flames to vanila girlfriends to a harem! i just dont know. so i have to figure out. but still, he didnt tell me and does it technically again.

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ORIGINAL: monaslave

we are not talking about boyfriends,were talking about a different dynamic I dont think it can be compared

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ORIGINAL: monaslave


I mean, he has forbidden me to have others,but we have never talked about it,and now hes telling me hes seeing others once in a while. have to ask what that means. but as you read at first, he mean I have to accept as many he is doing,sort of. That would be fine,if we had talked about it,but we have not!
so,what is your suggestions to how I handle this?
and dont mock me,this is a serious problem now.

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ORIGINAL: Malkinius

Greetings monaslave....

Are you sure that was a crayon and not a dye stick? Or something else that you might have ended up allergic to. Normal crayons don't do that and I will bet he knew exactly what he was doing.

Pay attention to what Drakontos is saying. If you want to be that sort of slave, stay. If you want to be a sub, run. If you don't want to chance whatever he brings home to you, run. The advice you have been getting in this thread runs the gamut of advice for a basic sub to a complete slave. Make sure you know the difference when you read it and where in that spectrum you want to be. The more the slave the less you have a say in anything. The more the sub the more you are in control of everything. Where you fit is up to you but I do agree with others, this guy has set off enough alarms that you really should rethink any sort of relationship with him.

Be well....

Malkinius