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Disrespect - 6/27/2009 12:27:16 PM   
StoneFox


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Status: offline 		Topic of Thought: Disrespect to Dominants

I wanted to bring this up in a way intended for discussion...and that's the topic of disrespect towards DOMINANTS on this website, especially as it regards elements of our profiles and journals.

Now...it doesn't happen to me very often but every once in a while someone will feel the pressing need (note sarcasm) to send me their unsolicited disrespectful opinion regarding some element of my profile or journal. It's usually submissives too, which I find especially laughable, though a few Dominants are guilty on rare occassions as well. I guess what I find ironic is how so many people pass around the "give respect to get respect" motto and yet they go around sticking their nose in where it's not invited to offer their unsolicited opinion. I suppose the internet makes people feel brave

Seriously though...what makes people say to themselves "She can't live without my snarky, rude, or even downright vulgar opinion...which She didn't ask for but damnit, I'm gonna give it anyways!" ?!?? LMAO!!

BTW, I'm addressing people that EMAIL this...not forum stuff.



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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 12:34:39 PM   
sirsholly


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I wanted to bring this up in a way intended for discussion...and that's the topic of disrespect towards DOMINANTS on this website, especially as it regards elements of our profiles and journals.
just because your profile states you are a dominant does not mean you are immune from snark mail. Submissives receive quite a bit as well.

Delete and move on.


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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 12:52:50 PM   
StoneFox


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Status: offline 		That is true...and I should state for the record that someone being a Dominant does not give them carte blanche to stick their nose in someone else's business just to be rude either. But I was only speaking from my own perspective.


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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 12:56:52 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I do not expect ANY one to respect me. Especially on here. Seriously.

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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 12:57:31 PM   
PeonForHer


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Status: offline 		Submissives receive quite a bit as well.
 
Really?  I've only ever received one, advising me that my latest pic made me look like a slightly psychopathic, gay elf.  However, since I felt this to be an accurate and balanced observation, I didn't really mind.



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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 1:16:52 PM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Submissives receive quite a bit as well.
 
Really?  I've only ever received one, advising me that my latest pic made me look like a slightly psychopathic, gay elf.  However, since I felt this to be an accurate and balanced observation, I didn't really mind.




Now I have to go see what a psychopathic, gay elf, looks like.

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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 1:24:42 PM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		I am a Dominant, I am NOT holier than thou and I am only a Dominant who should get respect from her avowed submissive and no one else.
 
No one is immune from snarky, sarcastic remarks--not the Pope, not the Queen, not Obama, not the deceased Michael Jackson--so IMHO on the respect scale, there is a pretty damned long line ahead.
 
Now commom courtesy between two humans, that's a whole different ballgame.

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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 1:38:56 PM   
Lockit


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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 1:44:55 PM   
AlexandraLynch


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Status: offline 		I expect to recieve as much respect as I give. I find that what I put out is what I get back.




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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 1:46:56 PM   
CatdeMedici


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Submissives receive quite a bit as well.
 
Really?  I've only ever received one, advising me that my latest pic made me look like a slightly psychopathic, gay elf.  However, since I felt this to be an accurate and balanced observation, I didn't really mind.




Oh honey, not with a butt curve like that----<now where is Flutter??>

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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 2:01:45 PM   
PeonForHer


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Status: offline 		Thank you Cat.

Seriously, though, I've heard of some of the comments people get and they've been downright hideous.  The verbal equivalents of punches and kicks.  I'm afraid there's aggression out there and some people are going to be on the receiving end of it.

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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 2:04:24 PM   
PeonForHer


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Status: offline 		There's a well-known domina around here, always seen at clubs, who must be in her eighties.  She leads around a sub with a white beard, on a chain.  She looks great, as well - she wears an outfit like a Victorian grandame. 

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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 2:06:14 PM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		Besides, you posted your profile on a public website, and these fora are full of threads where dom women claim they want people to read their profiles and to comment on them rather than to recieve cut & paste or one-liner emails. So there are some who find something objectionable about your profile, rather than whining about it, why don't you look at the profile with a critical eye and see if perhaps there might be something to the comments.

Also, what makes you think you are entitled to any particular degree of respect from anybody?


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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 2:08:31 PM   
CallaFirestormBW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Submissives receive quite a bit as well.
 
Really?  I've only ever received one, advising me that my latest pic made me look like a slightly psychopathic, gay elf.  However, since I felt this to be an accurate and balanced observation, I didn't really mind.




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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 2:21:52 PM   
StoneFox


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Status: offline 		I tend to believe that I and all people (given the benefit of the doubt) are  entitled to basic respect, i.e. courtesy. It's called "Human Decency" and I have the sense to not approach strangers just to be a bitch. A difference of opinion does not entitle me to run my mouth and offend someone, especially when nobody invited me to do so.

Whatever happened to basic manners and respect? But if those concepts are taboo...well, pardon me for not knowing.

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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 2:34:11 PM   
CatdeMedici


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ORIGINAL: StoneFox

I tend to believe that I and all people (given the benefit of the doubt) are  entitled to basic respect, i.e. courtesy. It's called "Human Decency" and I have the sense to not approach strangers just to be a bitch. A difference of opinion does not entitle me to run my mouth and offend someone, especially when nobody invited me to do so.

Whatever happened to basic manners and respect? But if those concepts are taboo...well, pardon me for not knowing.


They are not, but your OP makes it sound as if the courtesy should be extended because you are a Dominant not because you are another deserving human being.

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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 2:35:45 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW


quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Submissives receive quite a bit as well.
 
Really?  I've only ever received one, advising me that my latest pic made me look like a slightly psychopathic, gay elf.  However, since I felt this to be an accurate and balanced observation, I didn't really mind.




Oh, you -do-... How ADORABLE!

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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 2:37:10 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Oh, and in response to the OP... ummm...this is the INTERNET.  Have you not noticed the scores of cowards who can only type what they would never dare say to a person's face?  Personally, I think we should all treat each other courteously, but not everyone out there agrees with me.

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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 2:44:43 PM   
MissDominae


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Status: offline 		I think Lady Hibuscus's comment is quite valid - the very anonymity of the Internet means that some people feel they can say whatever they choose and be as rude as they wish simply because they will never be called to task over it.

I haven't been attacked over my profile yet but I am sure it will happen one day and I am sure I will jnow what to do - ignore the comment made, delete it and, depending on its' type, block ther poster from further messages.   That's all any of us can do.

Good luck


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RE: Disrespect - 6/27/2009 2:52:46 PM   
StoneFox


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Status: offline 		I think it's a bit of both perhaps.

But as far as expecting certain politeness and manners from a sub from the get-go (narrowing it down from the broader point I make about person-to-person interaction) is more to do with my own personal beliefs of BDSM (and I hate to use this word, but...for this purpose, OK) protocol. Which isn't to say that I require all subs to address me as Ma'am in order to talk to me but...come ON...I wish these guys wouldn't portray themselves as jerks who only address a Domme politely when they think they have a chance of getting their kinks fulfilled.

But anyways, 'nuff said.

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