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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 8:19:34 AM

OneforOwning

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ORIGINAL: slavekal

A woman's sensuality is often what makes her a great domme. That's where female power comes from.

Hey someone who wrote what I was thinking. Thank you.

If you're wondering "how you have to be", maybe you should question your title. If this lifestyle is in your blood like it should be, you wouldn't be questioning it. I'm but a lowly sub, but I've been awakened to it and therefore I feel I don't have to question "how to be one". You just are.

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 8:33:33 AM

GYPZYQUEEN

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Sensuality is very important and one should build on strong areas
not give them up..they can grow within their many facets..ever remembering to stand in their own truth and know this is who they truly are.

Many D's on here and elsewhere make it clear they are a sensual D or the sensual part is very important...many talk about being a loving D...a sadistic D ..a combo..etc etc
revealing their core essence and their style.
at one point I had on my profile CRUEL SENSUALITY...
a place were all sense meet where pain and pleasure become one

*a sub male on here thought of the term..thanks..liminal

BDSM is really ALL about ALL the senses so having a senses aware D/woman/man is a plus for anyone

BEST of LUCK

GQ

< Message edited by GYPZYQUEEN -- 6/28/2009 8:35:22 AM >

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 8:44:57 AM

MsIvena

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Thank u. Its so very nice to get good advice for a change lol

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 8:56:46 AM

sublace

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Ms.

Dominant men ask - " Do I have to be an Alpha Male to dominate? Am I a Prick? Will she love me more if I thump my chest and growl? "

IMHO, You are asking the Cunt version of this popular Q. and already know the answer. A human is sought. Good day.

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 11:09:52 AM

Gadfly1

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Maybe it's not an "either/or" situation. Perhaps it's "both/and". How would you feel about letting sensuality and dominance blend? What do you think might happen?

Please understand that these are rhetorical questions. No answers necessary. Just stuff ta make ya say, "Hmmm..."

Hugs,
Gadfly1

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 11:42:34 AM

Lashra

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No, she should be herself and not some porn film wannabe. I am a lifestyle Dominant who is very sensual and I love S&M. I have a sub male who I love and adore, he enjoys my particular mix of sensuality and S&M so we are a good pair.

It is all about being who you truly are and not what others think that you should be.

~Lashra

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 11:49:03 AM

LadyHexx

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Well, when it comes to tribute and the like, dont get me wrong, if they insist, Im not arguing, however, I never demand it either. My sub brings me cute little things, that show he put alot of thought into it, and I much prefer that. For example, I want a smother box, and instead of him pulling out his credit card, he went and got the materials, and is now making it. It means so much more to have it made and thought about.

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 12:00:21 PM

LadyHexx

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Yikes, I totaly shouldnt post without reading the whole thread...

Not my smartest moment of the day.

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 12:19:38 PM

CatdeMedici

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsIvena

Thank u. Its so very nice to get good advice for a change lol

Most of the advice you got here was good, support does not always mean one has to agree or enable what may be perceived as flawed thinking--when there was disagreement, you came unglued. CollarMe is a center for free thinking, not totalatarianism. Try being open to all opinions.

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 12:26:52 PM

AlexandraLynch

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As a dominant, I want a relationship with my submissive. I want someone I can trust with my vulnerable points, and who trusts me, in turn, to take care of theirs, and I love when the embrace as I take my boy down from the cross turns to sexuality, turns to friends supporting each other and laughing together, and is all these at once. I view my sensuality as one of the powerful forces that draw submissives to me.

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 12:30:06 PM

subtlebutterfly

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

One of the biggest failings I see in Dominants, both male and female is the mistake of equating Dominance with domineering. A Dominant need not be beligerent, arrogant, crude or defensive to succeed as a Dominant.

A good Dominant, is IMHO, firm but fair and should exude an air of quiet confidence. I believe a Domina should be all woman, understanding and exhibiting all aspects of her womanliness and femininity while steering the ship with a firm hand. However, My style is not suited to everyone. I am hardly in the position to admonish someone who may chosse to behave otherwise or even behave as a domineering shrew--it is My choice, however, not to align Myself with such behavior giving the mistaken belief that I approve.

<edited for a precoffee typo>

I am just going to ignore the obvious bait from the OP, (for now cuz I might change my mind after the coffee kicks in ) and say that I agree with Cat.

I'm gonna tripple that one, and add that I'd love it if the OP would use a capital letter after her friggin dots.

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 12:36:42 PM

justme1980

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ORIGINAL: MsIvena

YES OR NO DOES SHE HAVE TO BE A TOTAL CUNT? CAN SHE NOT HAVE A SOFT SIDE WITH HER SLAVES AS WELL AS THE FIRM HARSH SIDE? CAN SHE HAVE MUTIPLE SIDES TO HER PERSON? CAN SHE NOT AT TIMES BE ROMANTIC AND AT TIMES BE A SADIST? IS THIS NOT IN MOST FEMALES ANYWAY? AM I THE ONLY DOMME THAT THINKS THIS WAY? OR AM I IN MY OWN LITTLE WORLD HERE LOL. SOME ANSWERS WOULD BE GREATLY APREICIATED.I want a man that can be everything. my knight in shining armor when i want him to be. my slave when i tell him to be my sub my bitch my whore whatever. my everything. he MUST support me 100% in everything mentally emotionally fiancially. IS THAT TO MUCH TO ASK FOR? LOL

I realize that I am not a Dominant and I realize that you did not ask for my opinion. But I am curious as to why you asking for everyone’s approval as to what type of woman you should be? If you want to be tender, then be tender; if you desire to be a harsh, then be harsh. No one is going to come and take back your domme membership card.

As to your needs; Yes, I believe it is realistic to expect your mental and emotional needs are met. As far as your financial needs, well if you are fortunate to find someone that is willing, great; however I do not believe that is a realistic expectation

< Message edited by justme1980 -- 6/28/2009 12:42:45 PM >

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 12:49:02 PM

SoulPiercer

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsIvena

YES OR NO DOES SHE HAVE TO BE A TOTAL CUNT? CAN SHE NOT HAVE A SOFT SIDE WITH HER SLAVES AS WELL AS THE FIRM HARSH SIDE? CAN SHE HAVE MUTIPLE SIDES TO HER PERSON? CAN SHE NOT AT TIMES BE ROMANTIC AND AT TIMES BE A SADIST? IS THIS NOT IN MOST FEMALES ANYWAY? AM I THE ONLY DOMME THAT THINKS THIS WAY? OR AM I IN MY OWN LITTLE WORLD HERE LOL. SOME ANSWERS WOULD BE GREATLY APREICIATED.I want a man that can be everything. my knight in shining armor when i want him to be. my slave when i tell him to be my sub my bitch my whore whatever. my everything. he MUST support me 100% in everything mentally emotionally fiancially. IS THAT TO MUCH TO ASK FOR? LOL

A great many male dominants throw out all sense of romance and yes, even chivalry, once they read The Story of O. They behave like total bastards and leave whatever "soft side" they have behind.

For the sake of equality, I think it only fair that female dominants follow suit.

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 12:54:04 PM

TEMPERANCE

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsIvena

yes at times i CAN be a cunt.

And you would have never guessed that by the way you post......

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 12:56:17 PM

MsIvena

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I am trying my dear lol truely ...

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 1:29:42 PM

MsIvena

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Thanks for the link and advice

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 1:46:13 PM

VampiresLair

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Keep in mind a few things.

Calling us other dominants my dear, and other condescending pet names is not going to win you any points. I for one, find it rude.

How things work for you, in regards to sensuality and sexuality and all other aspects, is just that. How it works for you. I am in love with my Fox, but a love based relationship doesnt work for everyone. For some, a sensual one would detract from the roles they are in, for others it is a necessity. It doesnt matter at all what anyone else has to say about it, it is what you want and need. My opinion on anyone elses relationship is just that, my opinion. It isnt going to impact them in the slightest (luckily for some people I know) unless they want it to. My agreement, disagreement, support of denial only matters as much as you want it to. Take what works for you, leave the rest.

You dont need advice on your needs. They are what they are, and unless you are willing to change them for a bunch of random people, you arent actually looking for advice as much as you are for confirmation.

DV

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 3:05:34 PM

LaTigresse

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DV I noticed that right off and remembered that thread we had a while back on the very subject. If the voice I imagine in my head, when I read the posts including that phrase, is even close to what it would be in person........I am afraid the conversation would not last long at all.

Bless her heart.

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 3:07:45 PM

littlesarbonn

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I don't think I've EVER been in a relationship with a dominant woman who even thought once about having to give up her sensuality because of being with me. They might have me give up mine for awhile or be even more interested in overwhelming me with theirs, but not once has one ever felt SHE had to give up hers for the sake of being with me.

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RE: SHOULD A DOMME GIVE UP HER SENSUALITY TO BE A DOMIN... - 6/28/2009 3:08:24 PM

LadyHibiscus

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*adores LaT*

I was thinking that very same thing!

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