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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

I agree - don't put yourself into a position where you could be hurt by emotional absence. A friendship with hot sex would be easier to deal with, since all the heavy emotions wouldn't need to come into play. That way you get a bit of what you want , and he gets what he wants -  a relationship without emotional attachments.

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'd say that it's possible to ask anything.  By the same token, any answer is possible.  Know that going in and be prepared to accept any answer given to you.

I've had a sub ask to be allowed to come back to Me.  (The boy wasn't collared to Me but wanted to come back to being under consideration.)  In his case, the answer was definitely no.  There are other subs that I might have answered yes if they had presented Me with the request.  It would really depend upon the person, why the dynamic ended, and how that person had acted in regard to Me since then.

If there is a code of conduct for asking to rekindle a dynamic, I couldn't say that I knew what it was.  I'd tend to think it would be under whatever protocol was being used when the dynamic was current. 

I know it wasn't terribly informative, prinny, but I hope it helps and wish you good luck.

Dear LadyPact
Thank you for responding. There are many here on collar who would just jimp back and say...oh another train wreck'' it's not like that.
Funnily enough it hasn't wrecked me at all. I asked for release.
I had a death of an ex husband and total oral allergy syndrome happen simultaneously...i reckoned the two events were just parallel but the allergy syndrome was of course the result of the death.. and the end of 12 years of vanilla marital harassment. I just got needy and of course the Master was very clear that he did not want my neediness.
So no wreck but numbness and lots of coping.
BUT i really do desire this time like no other.
Of course willing and able to withstand whatever answer is given (i think) if I do actally ask for my collar back. I mean I have my collar. It was bestowed on me and I was told it was mine forever but I was still released.
Oh I so dislike non-reciprocity...

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ORIGINAL: KateyCaine



i am sorry for your loss, death can temporarily derail anyone. Ask Him, you might be surprised what He says. Be honest with Him, let him into your soul and let Him know everything. It sounds as if it has taken a lot of soul-searching and time alone to get perspective for you to come to this realisation.

Whatever the outcome, it is for the best, even if it may not seem like it at the time xx

k.