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penitentialarts -> RE: Talking of fishy stuff (7/6/2009 11:11:08 PM)
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Without seeing the profile the OP is referring to, I can't really offer an opinion about the way the woman phrased things. In general, though, I usually don't email people who have profiles that sound vehement, bitter, or angry. If the bulk of the profile is taken up with phrases like "don't bother emailing me if...", I move on. Profiles are often the first impression people make of you on a site like this, and one with an overwhelmingly negative tone can make anyone seem unappealing.
There are a lot of poor wording choices to be found in profiles, singles ads, etc. When reading through ones written by women (on vanilla or BDSM sites), I usually bypass ones that start out with these phrases:
- "Looking for a REAL/TRUE..."
- "Where are all the REAL/TRUE..."
- "Are there any good men left?"
- "I'm tired of all the..."
- "Why do men always..."
- "...generous..."
When it comes to profiles written by men (I'm bisexual), I don't respond to one-liners, text-speak writing (ex. "looking 4 a hrd guy"), negative things like the ones listed above, etc.
Since I have profiles and have posted ads on gay and/or bisexual male forums and websites, I get a lot of emails with one-line replies, requests for one-night stands, and penis shots, just like most women do. They don't bother me, though - I just ignore them. I don't find them insulting or degrading, and I see no point in getting angry or bitter about them. I'm just not interested in people who don't take the time to write in complete sentences and actually say something. I can easily wade through 99 of them (deleting as I go) to get to the one that actually has something interesting to say.
- Jesse
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