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Profiles - 7/1/2009 3:49:10 PM

RealGirl4One

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Is there anyone out there who can tell me why so many males who would be potential doms write little if anything on their profiles. And in spite of the fact that they are so selfish with information why they might write me or anyone else they would like to talk to / negotiate with asking for and/or demanding more information when my profile is filled with information?

This is VERY ANNOYING not to mention rude. I realize that not all do this but in my experience it is about 1 out of 10 who actually write something.

Anybody help me out here because it is putting me in a bad mood.

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 3:54:41 PM

RedMagic1

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They are not seriously looking.

If it bothers you that much, use the Hide button. Actually, if it bothers you that much, walk away from the computer.

Serious answer.

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 3:58:27 PM

IrishMist

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RealGirl4One

Is there anyone out there who can tell me why so many males who would be potential doms write little if anything on their profiles. And in spite of the fact that they are so selfish with information why they might write me or anyone else they would like to talk to / negotiate with asking for and/or demanding more information when my profile is filled with information?

This is VERY ANNOYING not to mention rude. I realize that not all do this but in my experience it is about 1 out of 10 who actually write something.

Anybody help me out here because it is putting me in a bad mood.

stay in a bad mood then. The men and women of this site are not here to pamper to your little whines about annoyances and rudeness. No one gives a flying fuck if you are annoyed over the lack of the written word in a profile; no one gives a flying fuck if you think the lack of words is rude.

What's rude and annoying is whiners who come on here complaining about others on the profile side who they feel have wronged them in some small, idiotic way.

Grow the fuck up and get over it.

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 4:07:43 PM

DesFIP

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Because they don't read the forums and don't know that they need to add more.
Because they're doers, not readers and writers.

You are describing The Man's profile perfectly. Had damn near nothing but age and location and such. Could have described half a million other men in the NYC tristate area if not more. And he sent a one liner yet.

He got lucky, because I answered with a two liner, one of which was a question. And we went from there.
But he's an engineer by training. He doesn't read a lot, except for manuals. He'd rather be tinkering with something. Which is what he's doing now, trying to fix an old truck his oldest bought and never got on the road. And I'm here on the boards.

But when it comes to the car breaking down and me needing rescuing, or trying a suspension scene, I so much prefer to be with someone who can solve the problem or avoid one, then someone like me who can't.

If you're self selecting for great writers, you aren't selecting people who are great doers. Because honestly, there aren't enough hours in the day to be both.

Figure out a stock answer for people like this, asking them to answer all the question you need to know before you can see if there's sufficient compatibility to start talking. After all, they have all this info on you, it's fair enough for you to have the same. Or just reply saying that you don't talk to people who don't fill out their profile and maybe they'll do so. But the truth is, they don't know that they need to in order for women to want to talk to them.

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 4:37:32 PM

Rainfire

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Ya know, you might be passing the right one by with such an attitude. I was talking with a gentleman here who had jackshit on his profile except a few words and his picture. He perved me, I perved his profile, said hello and got to meet a nice man. Unfortunately for him, at the same time, I was getting to know people on the boards and bantering back and forth with this incredible Man named "Lumus".... things went from there and Saturday will be the 1 year anniversary of my collaring to Daddy and Halloween will be our 1st wedding anniversary. All from not looking at profiles but getting to know people on the boards. There are a number of couples here that have met via the boards and not profiles.

If you're curious, just send a quick note saying "Hi, your profile caught my attention. Hope you're having a good evening/day, whatever" and go from there. Like Celeste says, not everyone fills their profile out - mine sure as hell isn't filled out.

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 4:45:31 PM

SteelofUtah

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist
stay in a bad mood then. The men and women of this site are not here to pamper to your little whines about annoyances and rudeness. No one gives a flying fuck if you are annoyed over the lack of the written word in a profile; no one gives a flying fuck if you think the lack of words is rude.

What's rude and annoying is whiners who come on here complaining about others on the profile side who they feel have wronged them in some small, idiotic way.

Grow the fuck up and get over it.

This is my answer as well.... only I would have said Fuck like 7 more times and ended with a Piss Off.

Steel

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 4:50:51 PM

Rainfire

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Yes, but you're blunt, Steel - it's why we love you. IrishMist just used the polite form......

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 6:00:20 PM

SirMIkeSD

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This is freaken internet, and like the real world it is full of winners and looser and no one is here to spoon feed you what you want!

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 6:47:20 PM

DarkSteven

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It's because they're too lazy to invest the effort into their own profile.

Whenever I find a profile like that, I assume she'd be too lazy to make a relationship work. So I pass her by. Great screening mechanism.

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 8:19:42 PM

peppermint

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Nope, I haven't any idea why some here won't follow your rules about profiles. Could be they don't care. Could be they are lazy. Could be they are horny net geeks looking for a whank. Could be lots of things. If you don't like their profiles and are not interested, don't answer their mail.

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 8:26:38 PM

JuliaGreenleaf

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It's nice to have a full profile to work with - it lets you figure out a lot of important things before hand.
Hope you find someone - munches work too :)

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RE: Profiles - 7/1/2009 11:15:57 PM

antipode

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quote:

This is VERY ANNOYING not to mention rude

They're fake, or 12 years old, or married, etc. This your first dating site? And you think it is a good idea to present yourself as short fused. Can you say sub?

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RE: Profiles - 7/2/2009 3:46:19 AM

Goddess2002

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Any of the above....of course I deleted a lot of information from my profile when I stopped looking...

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RE: Profiles - 7/2/2009 7:10:16 AM

IronBear

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I know a few here who hardly say anything simply because a couple of them I know are working out just how much and how they want to say it. A couple of others are not looking for a single thing but keep their profile up with precious little because they are not looking have little interest in the boards these days but use the profile section to keep in touch with friends. I must admit that if I was about to do the same thing, I'd probably take the time to post that this is why I had a profile up at all. I know there are some who have precious little because they are new to the site, watch the boards but have no interest as yet in posting until they have learned enough to feel able to post or even write a better profile. My profile only gets changed if I cease looking which happens a couple times a year but the maid body of personal information remains..

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RE: Profiles - 7/2/2009 8:25:38 AM

aldompdx

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It is a blessing to see their honesty -- that they are empty and have nothing to share with any other person.

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RE: Profiles - 7/2/2009 9:17:25 AM

windchymes

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RealGirl4One

Is there anyone out there who can tell me why so many males who would be potential doms write little if anything on their profiles. And in spite of the fact that they are so selfish with information why they might write me or anyone else they would like to talk to / negotiate with asking for and/or demanding more information when my profile is filled with information?

This is VERY ANNOYING not to mention rude. I realize that not all do this but in my experience it is about 1 out of 10 who actually write something.

Anybody help me out here because it is putting me in a bad mood.

Because if they put too much information about themselves, their wives might find out.

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RE: Profiles - 7/2/2009 11:03:57 AM

NYLass

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quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes

quote:

ORIGINAL: RealGirl4One

Is there anyone out there who can tell me why so many males who would be potential doms write little if anything on their profiles. And in spite of the fact that they are so selfish with information why they might write me or anyone else they would like to talk to / negotiate with asking for and/or demanding more information when my profile is filled with information?

This is VERY ANNOYING not to mention rude. I realize that not all do this but in my experience it is about 1 out of 10 who actually write something.

Anybody help me out here because it is putting me in a bad mood.

Because if they put too much information about themselves, their wives might find out.

That's my take on it. Also they can flip flop on what they like or don't like, limits, etc.

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RE: Profiles - 7/2/2009 12:25:03 PM

greenearth21

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OR.......as RedMagic said...they aren't looking. Just because they don't have anything on their profile doesnt necessarily mean they are fake, married or what ever...but it easily could be. It's just a profile...dont let it get to you. If you find someone of interest...chat them up and see where it goes.

I get the whole "you are a fake" or even worse simply because I have little...if I may call it that, on my profile. Just happens that I'm not actively seeking anyone...AND people look it over because they assume something...but it definetely cuts down the number of stupid emails.

Find something worth pissing you off and not because billy john and steve don't have anything in their profile. Dialogue, love

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RE: Profiles - 7/3/2009 8:42:37 PM

porcelaine

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RealGirl4One

Is there anyone out there who can tell me why so many males who would be potential doms write little if anything on their profiles. And in spite of the fact that they are so selfish with information why they might write me or anyone else they would like to talk to / negotiate with asking for and/or demanding more information when my profile is filled with information?

This is VERY ANNOYING not to mention rude. I realize that not all do this but in my experience it is about 1 out of 10 who actually write something.

let me see if i understand this clearly. you're allowing a virtual stranger to upset you because he requests information about you, that you're free to deny and elects not to share the same when you view his details? if you're that bothered by it you could choose to place a note on your profile to invite those that have not introduced themselves via profile to do so when they contact you. or you can opt to ignore those as some do, or simply cool your heels and ask questions instead.

in a perfect world everyone would be transparent but people have varying reasons for doing so or choosing to behave differently and they aren't always underhanded. furthermore, merely having things spelled out in your profile is no guarantee that would be suitors will abide by what they've read, assuming they read at all. i know this from personal experience.

in the end your time on collarme is what you make it. if you allow people who have little to no bearing on your real life outside of this medium to alter your mood and make you become surly who's fault is that? what's even sadder is the energy you're investing in something that completely out of your control. you cannot control what they opt to put in that white space, but you can control your response to it always. best of luck.

porcelaine

< Message edited by porcelaine -- 7/3/2009 8:44:20 PM >

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RE: Profiles - 7/3/2009 9:31:33 PM

Apocalypso

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rainfire
Ya know, you might be passing the right one by with such an attitude.

I've never been convinced by that argument. If the 'right one' for her is somebody who fills in their profile, then she isn't passing them by.

I won't talk to anyone without a decent profile and I don't feel I'm missing out. *Shrugs*

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