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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 3:39:09 PM

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I agree with rouletteslave's therapist, Lady Hib. For instance, I'm quite bad-tempered, and I find that go for bad-tempered women like yourself . . .

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 3:42:27 PM

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 3:49:29 PM

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Very true. So, are you saying that *I* suck, or that you are not up on recognizing sarcasm?

Since text lacks tone, it's hard to recognize sarcasm or satire. I nevertheless wanted to pass along the advice since "I can't seem to find the right person."

Technical note: Mistress Roulette and I live together and share the same computers. Sometimes I go to make a collarme post and discover she had logged in most recently and it accidentally gets logged under her. I wish there was a more efficient way to prevent that.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 3:53:26 PM

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I haven't been bored with *doing* kink, but I'm rarely turned on by things I see discussed here, and I've occasionally dropped out of the public in person scene and online BDSM community, since I was too busy actually *doing* it and other, vanilla stuff.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 3:58:50 PM

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Very true. So, are you saying that *I* suck, or that you are not up on recognizing sarcasm?

Since text lacks tone, it's hard to recognize sarcasm or satire. I nevertheless wanted to pass along the advice since "I can't seem to find the right person."

Technical note: Mistress Roulette and I live together and share the same computers. Sometimes I go to make a collarme post and discover she had logged in most recently and it accidentally gets logged under her. I wish there was a more efficient way to prevent that.

Thank heavens poly me has two "right persons"! It's our SCHEDULES that are wrong!

I did the same thing on a shared computer, and just logging in and out does NOT do the trick... all I can suggest is a reminder postit!

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 4:01:05 PM

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I am right with Lady Pact on the do NOT sell the toys!! Just put them away neatly and consider it preliminary packing.

I absolutely understand being tired of the search. I know I am! I have many friends in the scene, if I want to play, I can play (schedules allowing ) but by and large... meh. I go to parties to see my friends, and when I am not chatting, am bored silly. But, I am a perv. (The dominant part comes with the territory.) I've thought in the past I could just swan off into vanillaville, and I can't do it. Sooner or later I slip up, or express some kind of "preference", or heaven help me, BITE someone, and the jig's up. I am what I am.

I will not begin to tell you how tedious I am finding the boards. If it were not for the Banter Zone, I wouldn't be here much.

So, chill out, take a step back, have a pedicure. How bad can summer in SFO be?

I'll have to say that Lady H said about what I was going to say. I'm also more of a 'relationship' type dominant and have never 'played' outside of a good friendship or sexual dynamic.
I do enjoy going to the parties at times, but more to socialize than to play.

My pet and I were just talking about these boards having the same conversations over and over again, although I will admit that I do learn something every now and again.

I agree with the toy suggestion too, put them in the back of your closet for a while and see how you feel.

Good luck, whatever you decide.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 4:09:48 PM

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Face it, V, men suck, and not in that pervy way we like.

Hey!... well, ok, it's true I have very little practice sucking in that pervy way you like.

And there I was within REACH and you did not even ask for lessons! See what I mean?

But doesn't he already know how to vaccum?

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 4:14:06 PM

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Face it, V, men suck, and not in that pervy way we like.

Hey!... well, ok, it's true I have very little practice sucking in that pervy way you like.

And there I was within REACH and you did not even ask for lessons! See what I mean?

But doesn't he already know how to vaccum?

That has yet to be proven empirically.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 5:03:26 PM

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But doesn't he already know how to vaccum?

Oooh. I'll vacuum your rug, bay-bee.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 5:09:03 PM

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Hey, Red, keep it clean. This is *my* thread, and we all know how much I hate banter.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 6:27:32 PM

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Face it, V, men suck, and not in that pervy way we like.

Hey!... well, ok, it's true I have very little practice sucking in that pervy way you like.

And there I was within REACH and you did not even ask for lessons! See what I mean?

But doesn't he already know how to vaccum?

Dang it! There was sucking going on and I missed it!

You know, V, I thought there was some mention of a move somewhere along the way. If nothing else, speaking as someone who has been up to the neck in packers, movers, boxes, and bubble wrap, I can promise you that it's stressful. A serious relocation is life altering enough. Probably not a time to take the alternate yearnings out of your life.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/7/2009 10:34:32 PM

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*Pounces on and asks Rosa is this you?*
Welcome back. Off to check the profile and make sure I didn't just jump on a stranger.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/8/2009 1:58:41 AM

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Hey, Red, keep it clean. This is *my* thread, and we all know how much I hate banter.

What has Banter ever done to deserve such hatred Ma`am. Whatever it is, he probably isnt English though.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/8/2009 5:53:27 AM

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there is a natural ebb and flow to the internal energy that is the Dominant... while you always remain the big D.... a periods there is a low tide to it.. then something will spark that engery again and the the engery tide will flow in again and you are a high tide again.. dont beat yourself up about it, dont sell your toys... its perfectly natural.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/8/2009 6:32:15 AM

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*Pounces on and asks Rosa is this you?*
Welcome back. Off to check the profile and make sure I didn't just jump on a stranger. M

Yes, it is I. Thank you for the welcome back.

I did put an older pic in my profile collection, so those that new me, when, would be able to recognize the B that I am.

For the most part, that has helped. Just today you and a very I hung out with, from the past contacted me after seeing my profile. Actually, a few former friends, subs contacted me this week from recoginition. Seems some people enjoyed my rather, cough, cough, sweet personality.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/8/2009 10:38:44 AM

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Hey, Red, keep it clean. This is *my* thread, and we all know how much I hate banter.

What has Banter ever done to deserve such hatred Ma`am. Whatever it is, he probably isnt English though.

Right. Because Englishmen never misbehave. Just keep it up, laddie. I could be living a mere few miles from you next year, and we'll see how cheeky you are then. Bwahahahaha.

As regards the rest of the topic, I've done even more thinking and decided that my previous modus operandi of feeling toppy, then finding someone to top has probably segued into finding someone special enough that he triggers the desire to top; same result, difference sequence. I had a little chat with my toys last night and some of them confessed that they weren't too keen on being put up for adoption, so I told them that, if they behaved, I might reconsider.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/8/2009 10:47:17 AM

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Neighbours huh, bang goes the neighbourhood, as you guys say.

This getting fed up with CM ect isnt unusual, go to the same bar, club, whatever day after day, week after week and it gets monotonous. What keeps all of us going is eternal hope and banter.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/8/2009 11:02:50 AM

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I've done even more thinking and decided that my previous modus operandi of feeling toppy, then finding someone to top has probably segued into finding someone special enough that he triggers the desire to top; same result, difference sequence.

That makes ten tons of sense, V. I don't think you'll get the 'same result', though - fortunately.

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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/8/2009 7:57:10 PM

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Yes, it *is* a problem with the Internet, in general. The thing is, a lot of us would never cross paths if we didn't meet on the Internet, so I think the trick is going to be finding a strategy that allows us to remain positive enough to continue making connections with "quality" people (urgh, that was elitist, wasn't it?) and overlooking the ones who sap us of our desire to keep on going.

I agree with your comment about the Internet - I am in a rather small, conservative town, and would not have the opportunities to meet people were it not for the Internet. That being said, it is a tricky business, trying to determine who is "real", who is a player, etc. That happens not just here, but I think is a common complaint about meeting on the Internet.
One of the biggest problems I have with meeting online is that relationships seem to move at a quicker pace - email, chats, etc. make accessibility, at least online, so easy. There is a false sense of intimacy, because the traditional way of meeting, courting, getting to know someone is both accelerated and intensified. I refer to it sometimes as "Internet time", as in we've been chatting every day for 2 weeks - that's like 2 months in real time! LOL. But spending all that time (investing it, as DarkSteven said in a different thread), can still sap your spirit when it doesn't turn out.
Must be the optimist in me that keeps going.
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RE: Bored with Kink: A Femdom's Dilemma - 7/9/2009 6:52:41 PM

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Well, well Ms V....perhaps it is time for you to start a new "page".

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