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CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Back and f####### confused (7/11/2009 10:27:41 PM)
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It seems that these women are choosing "when and where" they will be submissive .
It is completely appropriate, realistic, reasonable, and expected that, in the 'exploratory' phase of a relationship, any individual, male -or- female, is free (while xhe is still free) to determine how, when, and where xhe'll submit. Whether or not those parameters work for the dominant individual determines whether that person will be a good submissive match. Now, if xhe chooses to enter into a relationship where that freedom is curtailed, then it is a -choice-, but as long as the person isn't bound to a commitment made, xhe can express hir preferences or expectations just like any other person of free will, regardless of the title describing how xhe prefers to -eventually- relate in authority-exchange relationships or kink activities -with the right, specific individual(s)-.
It is ridiculous, IMO, to expect that a person would yield hir life, hir time, hir body, hir mind, or hir activities to someone that xhe doesn't even know. How is it reasonable to expect that another person, who doesn't even know me or what I might bring to the mix, will bow down to me just because I say so. I am completely enamored of noble houses, but damned if I'm unrealistic enough to expect that just because I -want- to be treated as a noble means that everyone who chooses a submissive mien has to submit to me regardless.
Sheesh.
Dame Calla
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