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bearly2001 -> profile in courage.. or are you to busy to fill out your profile? (7/14/2009 4:18:11 AM)
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ever notice that some members start a skeleton or incomplete profile here, but then indicate they will take the time to fill it out later?? it makes me smile a bit, lol.. one wonders when they will find the 15 minutes or 30 minutes so it takes to fill out a bit about their likes, dislikes and goals? i would hope that if they are just being circumspect about revealing themselves or merely trying to dissuade others from contacting them, that they would just say so or just hide their profiles. and if they are so busy a half hours introspection into their goals and dreams must be deferred, then they should know they are just too busy, lol! i am also wondering if there are other reasons for not showing more of themselves.. is it a matter of courage or shyness...or something else? our profiles are our surrogates prior to contact.. i often wonder how others approach presenting themselves here at collarme. does their profile indicate a measure of their commitment and why do so many remain so sparse? profiles in courage for some.. and subterfuge by others.
admittedly, i took somewhat longer than many to complete mine since i believe that my profile will serve as my initial contact with many of you. therefore. it is crucial to present myself as clearly and succinctly as possible to delineate my passions and dislikes from those of the madding crowd. i feel that it is imperative that i differentiate myself from the teeming hordes as quickly as possible. my profile and journal gives me the opportunity to establish my authenticity and experience as a genuine online Dom and to raise my voice above the din...
i also believe it is good practice to regularly update your profile or add to your journal in order to match the changes in goals and situations that may occur over time. as an online-only dom who will never have the opportunity to meet my submissives face-to-face, i find that the more effort i put into my writings.. the more opportunity my dom "voice" will be heard and resonate within my targeted audience.. the female submissive. if she "hears" my voice contained both within the text and between the lines, she may feel the irresistable pull of the dominant within me.... so i am careful to construct my words carefully, as if i were meeting her face to face. my task is to try to bridge the gap between us through words sent out into the vast void that is cyberspace.
upon reflection, i also see some problems that may apply to submissives more than others in offering a thoroughly fleshed out profile. some submissives find it devilishly difficult to speak of themselves and their wishes. their innate desire to subordinate their wishes to those of a dominant my impose a shyness or hesitancy that causes them to understate or to "whisper" their goals and . they also may feel it is an immodesty that is unbecoming of their submissive nature to extol or proclaim their desirable traits and virtues. i also can appreciate the fear that a submissive may have of drawing the type of vicious criticism and petulant comments that false doms, wannabes and arrogant a-holes often evince in raging emails. i am sure that we all have heard submissives write of the criticisms and rants they receive if the words and themes within their profiles somehow fall outside of some idiot's parameters of orthodoxy or protocol.
just thought i would share my observations and ask.. what do you think when you see a scant or incomplete profile or one that remains an unfulfilled promise for months.. is it fear, sloth or shallowness? whaddya think?
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