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abuddingdom -> RE: profile in courage.. or are you to busy to fill out your profile? (7/15/2009 5:59:28 AM)
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If one checks my profile, it speaks for my feelings on this subject. It's loooong. Thats how I chose / needed to do it. I wanted as much out there as I could think of, in the couple hours I spent on it , in order to hopefuly attract the right one(s). I had a profile on here a couple years ago which was long also. Different, but just as long as my current one, & ironically my pretty one read it back then&didnt finish it & look where we are now - which bolsters the arguments of some who say " profiles dont matter. Much.
Ive had a # of people email me just to compliment me because they liked my words, which is all right. I always appreciate a compliment. I've had at least 2 that I can think of email me to say that, then they say they didnt finish reading it but will later, so there you go - they must fall right in the middle of advocating for brevity or being wordy or in profiles. Made me laugh though......
Mine(& hers) clearly states - upfront & at the beginning -that I /we are only seeking friends, but we left our old profiles virtually intact. They're still good descriptions of who&what we are though we've both made changes overthe last year&a half - hopefully for the better - as people, as D type& s type. Life happens(which I think I said in my profile). They, hers especially, could use some tweaking & we may do that sometime.
Something related with which I have an issue& has occurred here & on another site I used to be on : I'd make contact with someone with anywhere from a short paragraph to 2 or, at most 3. I wouldnt say more in an initial contact, mainly I'd briefly say what caught my attention, ask them to read my words & ask if they'd be interested in exchanging afew emails. Some people would reply with a sentence or 2. Sometimes I'd give it another shot, sometimes not, but when I got that again I jsut moved on. Or, someone would make initial contact me with a sentence or 2. I'd reply- if my interest was piqued, of course - & ask some questions &/or say what interested me in their profile & I'd get a sentence or 2 back. I dont understand if you're on a site seeking someone & even in the latter case expressing interest& making contact with someone why someone would choose to not communicate. I mean , this is virtual, online communication - the only way to communicate is to, well, communicate. In both type situations I'd even note that they'd put me on their "favorite's" list but them removed it shortly after, I assumed(always dangerous, I know) that they were offended that I stopped being interested almost as soon as my interest was pigued, like I was expected to go into pursuit mode when they wouldnt even talk with me on a basic level. Dunno if I'm explaining myself coherently. In a journal note awhile back, before we went 24/7 live-in, I wrote about this, & said if you're going to make contact with me then communicate with me. I even used a line which I borrowed(with permission - she said they're just words& to go ahead&use them)from someone else's profile. Paraphrasing, as I dont recollect the exact words : "if our minds are engaged then the bodies will follow. Talk with me".......
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