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What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 5:05:26 PM   
winterlight


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Status: offline 		What really stands out and makes you contact this person..
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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 6:12:48 PM   
Muttling


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Status: offline 		I'm an unusual guy, I read every word and I do read the likes/dislikes.  I ask myself if I think there is a potential before I respond.  Since I'm not a 24/7 player, the answer is typically no and I don' want to waste my time or theirs.  I look for a woman who's level of BDSM activity interest is similar to mine.

Additionally, I rarely respond to profiles without photos.   I know women get hounded and I don't believe that physical appearance is the most important thing, but physical does play a role for and against me.   If I see a woman who is really buff and she lists fitness as one of her big interests, I really doubt that we are compatible.  I do exercise, etc....but I'm just not that hard core and my experience has been that women who are really into fitness want men who are in better shape than I.

The rest is similar to the above on looking for similarities.   It's so hard to tell much from a profile, but you can pick out the "I don't think so's" pretty quickly.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 6:29:10 PM   
reify


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Status: offline 		A good looking picture.  I'm vain, but honest.

Other than a picture, anyone showing signs of intelligence also gets my interest.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 6:34:41 PM   
daintydimples


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Status: offline 		I tend to view all profiles of anyone viewing me or emailing me. I also perv the occasional profile of some who post in the forums.What I like to see is information about who the person is, in a non kink context. I scan the likes and dislikes, if it's all kink, that's telling (not in a good way). On the rare occasion I find someone who has posted in the forums, that's telling too (in a good way).

I do care if someone is married (I just don't go there).

Looks just don't mean that much to me, I'm far more interested in the person as a whole.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 6:38:20 PM   
slvemike4u


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Status: offline 		Boobs!!!!   Gets me all the time......

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 6:41:02 PM   
LadySweetOrSour


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Status: offline 		I usually look at profiles that have a photo. Other than that, I look at the profiles of those who actually have a profile filled out. I'm constantly amazed at how many people have "looking for a Mistress" and nothing else. If there isn't some information in the profile, why would I bother to look at a list of kinks?

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 6:46:17 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		Just so you know, guys.... Some of the most attractive women I've met on this site didn't post a picture.  Stephann in his famous "How to Meet Women" post mentioned that Charlotte didn't send him a pic for a couple weeks, until they had chatted a lot.  And she's a fetish model.


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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 6:55:59 PM   
Muttling


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quote:

ORIGINAL: daintydimples

I tend to view all profiles of anyone viewing me or emailing me. I also perv the occasional profile of some who post in the forums.What I like to see is information about who the person is, in a non kink context. I scan the likes and dislikes, if it's all kink, that's telling (not in a good way). On the rare occasion I find someone who has posted in the forums, that's telling too (in a good way).


I do care if someone is married (I just don't go there).

Looks just don't mean that much to me, I'm far more interested in the person as a whole.



You perv'd me.   I feel so used, so violated..........

ummm....will you violate me again???

< Message edited by Muttling -- 7/14/2009 6:56:51 PM >

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 6:59:32 PM   
daintydimples


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Status: offline 		ooooooOOOOOOoooooo

. . .makes it a much longer violation THIS time.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 7:10:58 PM   
sappatoti


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadySweetOrSour

I usually look at profiles that have a photo. Other than that, I look at the profiles of those who actually have a profile filled out. ...

So that's why you haven't been perved me in a while...

;)

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 7:52:23 PM   
HatesParisHilton


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Status: offline 		"Just so you know, guys.... Some of the most attractive women I've met on this site didn't post a picture.  Stephann in his famous "How to Meet Women" post mentioned that Charlotte didn't send him a pic for a couple weeks, until they had chatted a lot.  And she's a fetish model. "

and that sadly is almost never the case.  it's one of those exceptions to a very large white elephant in the room rules (the no pic profiles and statements made by people that meet people without pics, both male and female equally, fibbing equal on both sides of the gender coin RE self-descriptions of the people in question "look like") that really prove the rule more than disprove.

However, to play Devil's Advocate, any duhrwad like the African and Former USSR wannabe gangsta shitheads can post a pic of one of their working girls into a profile and try to scam lads for $$ and green cards.  A photo in a profile in that case does not mean anything in and of itself either.

Personality is proven by posting.  You have a hot pic and don't post?  you could have stolen your profile and pic word for word from another site (it hapens).  Your profile is Vanilla and basically reads like a spineless non kink person using the site for an ulterior motive?  a "cookie cutter" profile?  Into the paper shredder with you face first.  You post but don't have an active profile while you talk smack about people RE their political or religious views?  you redfine the words "spineless pussy".

You make people smile and laugh and think a bit on the boards FIRST AND FOREMOST, have a bit of clearly candid real-life in what you write about yourself in your profile, have a bit more creatively to you than Laura Bush (like THAT is hard), and have a relatively "at home and this is just me as I am" pic with it?  You win the kewpie doll and boysenberry cobbler to go, honey.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 7:57:08 PM   
marie2


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Status: offline 		A profile that for whatever reason makes me curious to know more.  (which is very fucking rare)

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 7:58:56 PM   
HatesParisHilton


Posts: 3513
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Status: offline 		oh, and the choice of user name means a SHITLOAD, by the way,  Which is why people get paid lots of $$ to choose proper names for characters and novel titles and magazines.

you are the character, you are asking us to "buy" you, as in "I just don't buy that guy" when you DON'T have a decent name.  Like a name that's a variant on a Pagan God that's been used by over 40 people on this site ALONE, and then you don't even have anything on it more than you'd see on some Playstation message board.

I mean Jesus, guys, COME ON (and yes, that applies to ladies too, in the interest of gender fairplay).

I've had over 12 messages simnply to say "loved your username and then read your profile..." or just "love your name".

Choose something that's YOU and YOU alone, or describes sometyhing about you others don't "advertise" on the site, for chrissakes.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 8:09:55 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Just so you know, guys.... Some of the most attractive women I've met on this site didn't post a picture.  Stephann in his famous "How to Meet Women" post mentioned that Charlotte didn't send him a pic for a couple weeks, until they had chatted a lot.  And she's a fetish model.



And an absolutely gorgeous one, to boot.

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Fake the heat and scratch the itch
Skinned up knees and salty lips
Let go it's harder holding on
One more trip and I'll be gone

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 9:03:17 PM   
Esinn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

What really stands out and makes you contact this person..


I really like my profile.  If I were not me I would write me in a second.

Aside from tits, tattoos, smoking and piercings

Good grammar, articulate, expressive, funny, colorful & passion.  Someone who put a little effort into it - like me :D

What really gets me is interest(passions?) other than sex that we might have in common.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 9:39:39 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		1. I check the location - within the US and willing to relocate, or in Colorado?
2. I check the picture, if any.
3. I check the writing style/ability.  Also, a sense of whether we'd click.
4. I look for hostility, making a big fuss about small things, etc.
5. I look for racism or strongly held political views that evidence no thought.


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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 10:04:30 PM   
Art4Love


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Status: offline 		Personally, I look to see if the person put time and effort into their profile. If they aren't willing to take the 20 min. for themselves to advertise what they have to offer, where will I rank up if things go somewhere?

Also, I enjoy people enjoy things other than Kink and bar hoping... I mean, I like to look at a profile, and go; "Whoa.. didn't see that coming."

Also, I don't like to read profiles that have every range of emotions for their interests. (Live for it, love, tolerate, ect..) It becomes to much to read.. Let me see what you live for, what you love, what you hate, and what you will not explore. The middle stuff is probably not something we'll come to anytime soon, I want to know you.

And lastly, I enjoy sex and being naked just as much as the next person; (I really, really enjoy being nude...) but if I choose to be with you, I want something outside of bed! So, if they're clearly advertising sex, or a cock-shot in their profile, I typically block them and delete the message. Sending me a cock-shot will also get you blocked; I have my own and I'm not inpressed. -_-"

< Message edited by Art4Love -- 7/14/2009 10:06:50 PM >

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 10:12:28 PM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		Location is first to Me.  I can talk with people all that I want, but if I'm going to play, it has to be someone who's somewhere close to Me.  If someone writes Me and they are too far away, I tell them outright that I'm interested in local folks only.  After that, it's picture, interests, and to see if the person sounds like they have a sense of humor.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 10:15:28 PM   
slaveboyforyou


Posts: 3607
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From: Arkansas, U.S.A.
Status: offline 		I look for a girl that I can take home to meet my mom.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/14/2009 10:21:04 PM   
HatesParisHilton


Posts: 3513
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Status: offline 		yessah, yowzah yes sirree, see, the odd thing is, I'd trust slave boy with some of my female rellies, on the basis of what he POSTS.

plus the pic.

the profle alone would not "warrant" that  (pun intended).

of course now if someone messages me from Lagos or Czech Republic I don't even bother to look.  We all know why.

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