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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 7:37:54 AM   
wandersalone


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Status: offline 		If a profile has a photo I will definitely be attracted to one that shows them smiling and not surrounded by clutter but mainly I like to see if their profile or posts show a sense of humour and a range of interests outside of kink.  I often email people to let them know that I liked either their photos or something they have written.

A major turnoff is if their profile or journal includes moaning about how all the people on here are users or liars.

And SBFY can I volunteer to meet your mum please   (it's ok everyone, I have confessed my undying adoration for him many times in the past and the new pic cements it)


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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 7:38:07 AM   
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very good hairline too, good texture on the follicles, they catch the light well.
no doubt you are an artist, HPH 

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 7:50:51 AM   
mdr080480


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Status: offline 		Pictures of boobies...

No seriously, I usually don't check profiles much, I don't search through many, I look at profiles of those that I know from the forums. If someone makes an interesting comment on the forums, I like to see what the person has to say about themselves in their profile. Though the pics are nice too, I prefer meaningful pictures and not random booty or titty shots. A picture of a house that someone remembers fondly and stories of why, rather than a pic of a leg in boots with no back story. I love the stories that photos tell, and the stories that people tell about the photos, but it's mostly the interesting stuff that I check out.

I've said it a lot of times, but for those who don't check the forums, they have no idea what they are missing. Sure there's trolls, but it's fairly easy to spot them and ignore their posts.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 8:01:17 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: winterlight

What really stands out and makes you contact this person..


Well I don't really cruise profiles but if an interesting photo, that is not obviously stolen, pops up on my home page when I am checking email I look, especially if there is more than one photo. If they have a well written profile I look a bit more. If there is something really interesting in what they've written, I may write them to comment about it.

I just don't have any real expectations on the dating side of this site so don't really go looking. Too much dirty water under that bridge over the years online for me to want to waste time with it.


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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 11:54:52 AM   
NorthernGent


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ORIGINAL: winterlight

What really stands out and makes you contact this person..



Bakes cakes........reads a lot.......creative use of language.......likes dogs.......curious disposition..........interested in seeing places........quite happy to wander 'round the home cooking and pouring wine in the knowledge that it's expected.........interested in history.........adventurous.......more interested in this life than the next life......a cute face with long dark hair and brown eyes.........normal give me normal for fuck's sake (neurosis is the last thing I need in my life).

12 of the 13 are readily available.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 1:22:59 PM   
charlotteS


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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Just so you know, guys.... Some of the most attractive women I've met on this site didn't post a picture.  Stephann in his famous "How to Meet Women" post mentioned that Charlotte didn't send him a pic for a couple weeks, until they had chatted a lot.  And she's a fetish model.



And an absolutely gorgeous one, to boot.


Awwwwwww thank you Level.

To be fair Master was sort of the one that turned me into a fetish model.  When I finally did send him a picture it was of me in frumpy clothes petting a llama. 


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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 3:16:35 PM   
slaveboyforyou


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And SBFY can I volunteer to meet your mum please (it's ok everyone, I have confessed my undying adoration for him many times in the past and the new pic cements it)


Of course you can. My mother is an evening person like me.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 3:38:08 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I'm far from perfect looking, so it didn't matter to me if he was either. A comparable sense of morality and ethics appeals most to me.

I've written people to ask about pictures they have, to ask something about a post they made so I wouldn't hijack the thread.

If you do have a picture, a clean background helps a lot. And if it's a face shot, then please smile. If someone is scowling, I don't look any further.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 3:47:28 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		Excellent question!  :> 
These aren't in any particular order and are rather stream of consciousness: 
**Attractive person in pics
**If there are pics, I don't like only seeing bdsm-oriented stuff usually
**Gait of writing; that they're able to elucidate thoughts well or at least in an interesting fashion
**Proper usage of words (Like you and you're or their, they're, there)
**Similarity in overall goal (Life-partnership)
**Similarity in interests (Not only kink-based)
      Davan

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 3:53:38 PM   
SoulPiercer


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Status: offline 		First I look at the pictures. If any of the pictures include the chopped off arm of the ex boyfriend/husband I pass. If the pictures are of landscapes, puppies, kitties or horsies, I pass. If all of the pictures are leg and foot shots, I pass. Glamour Shots - Pass. I want to see what you look like when you roll out of bed. And for the love of all that's holy - stop downloading the pics from porn sites and using them on your profile. There is a good possibility that those pics will end up in an ad on CollarMe.

After the pictures, I start reading. I pass on any profiles which are nothing more than angry rants, especially if they name the person who dared anger them. Also, if I find any of the following code words/phrases, I pass.

"not a doormat"
"no players"
"no fakes"
"no wannabes"
"real/true submissive"
"real/true dominant"
"under consideration"
"can you tame me/are you the one who can tame me"
"submission is a gift"

True that may limit me to 1 profile a week that actually gets my attention. But .. it's about quality, not quantity.


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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 4:56:36 PM   
lronitulstahp


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quote:

First of all, i am not a doormat"
"no players"
"no fakes"
"no wannabes"
i am a "real/true submissive" looking for a
"real/true dominant" who will hopefully put me
"under consideration"
"can you tame me/are you the one who can tame me" Let me know, if so, i have a present for you, after all...
"submission is a gift
*reads SoulPiercer's last post**Starts erasing furiously*

*Starts new profile* To whom it may concern: i have G-cups and i'm not afraid to use them.....better???

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 4:58:59 PM   
lusciouslips19


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quote:

ORIGINAL: charlotteS

quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Just so you know, guys.... Some of the most attractive women I've met on this site didn't post a picture.  Stephann in his famous "How to Meet Women" post mentioned that Charlotte didn't send him a pic for a couple weeks, until they had chatted a lot.  And she's a fetish model.



And an absolutely gorgeous one, to boot.


Awwwwwww thank you Level.

To be fair Master was sort of the one that turned me into a fetish model.  When I finally did send him a picture it was of me in frumpy clothes petting a llama. 



Thats kinky!

But I dont think ya can be frumpy looking even if you try!

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 5:05:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

What really stands out and makes you contact this person..



Bakes cakes........reads a lot.......creative use of language.......likes dogs.......curious disposition..........interested in seeing places........quite happy to wander 'round the home cooking and pouring wine in the knowledge that it's expected.........interested in history.........adventurous.......more interested in this life than the next life......a cute face with long dark hair and brown eyes.........normal give me normal for fuck's sake (neurosis is the last thing I need in my life).

12 of the 13 are readily available.


I'll tell Mary Poppins you're waiting!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ln-cK-qyK38

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 5:12:40 PM   
lronitulstahp


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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

What really stands out and makes you contact this person..



Bakes cakes........reads a lot.......creative use of language.......likes dogs.......curious disposition..........interested in seeing places........quite happy to wander 'round the home cooking and pouring wine in the knowledge that it's expected.........interested in history.........adventurous.......more interested in this life than the next life......a cute face with long dark hair and brown eyes.........normal give me normal for fuck's sake (neurosis is the last thing I need in my life).

12 of the 13 are readily available.


I'll tell Mary Poppins you're waiting!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ln-cK-qyK38
Lushy, .you know me...doesn't it sound like he's talking to me directly??? *wistful school girl sigh*Unless he's not a boob man...of course.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 6:02:55 PM   
lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

What really stands out and makes you contact this person..



Bakes cakes........reads a lot.......creative use of language.......likes dogs.......curious disposition..........interested in seeing places........quite happy to wander 'round the home cooking and pouring wine in the knowledge that it's expected.........interested in history.........adventurous.......more interested in this life than the next life......a cute face with long dark hair and brown eyes.........normal give me normal for fuck's sake (neurosis is the last thing I need in my life).

12 of the 13 are readily available.


I'll tell Mary Poppins you're waiting!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ln-cK-qyK38
Lushy, .you know me...doesn't it sound like he's talking to me directly??? *wistful school girl sigh*Unless he's not a boob man...of course.


Aww honey.... but he said Normal.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 6:07:56 PM   
marie2


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quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

Bakes cakes........reads a lot.......creative use of language.......likes dogs.......curious disposition..........interested in seeing places........quite happy to wander 'round the home cooking and pouring wine in the knowledge that it's expected.........interested in history.........adventurous.......more interested in this life than the next life......a cute face with long dark hair and brown eyes.........normal give me normal for fuck's sake (neurosis is the last thing I need in my life).

12 of the 13 are readily available.


But for the long brown hair, you've just described my grandmother.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 6:09:07 PM   
sirsholly


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. I want to see what you look like when you roll out of bed.
No you don't. Just trust me on this. 

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 6:11:06 PM   
lronitulstahp


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Status: offline 		You made me bite down on a cherry pit....LMAO Of course you're right sista. Normal may be overrated, but i'm nowhere near neurotic.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 7:57:21 PM   
heartcream


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Status: offline 		I like looking at profiles of folks who post interesting things, have a slant on things, sense of humor, a way about them, interesting photo's and are all around fascinating.

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RE: What attracts you to a profile? - 7/15/2009 8:14:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DemonKia
The most important thing I look for in a profile, anymore, is their posting history. I'm finding that people display an enormous amount about themselves on the boards, & those who've posted very extensively have laid a lot of themselves out here . . ...


In principle I agree, but I find that as a newb with no experience there's a limit to what I can contribute here. It's a bit of a Catch-22: Can't contribute without experience, can't get experience without contributing...

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