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RE: Boby Language - 7/16/2009 9:34:21 PM   
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Have you ever reached out to hug someone and they hugged with one arm and the head turned the other way as if you had baaaaaaad breath or just ugly? There are subs I know that treat me that way.. How should I respond, ignore them or let them keep doing it to me?


This is not your first post that indicates a lack of the ability to comprehend appropriate social boundaries.  If someone acts like they don't want you to TOUCH THEM, then stop touching them.  Perhaps they are trying to spare your feelings instead of saying, "please don't touch me."

By the way, I am disturbed by your phrasing "LET THEM keep doing it to me" (emphasis added).  What did you plan on doing? Tackle them to the ground?  Clutch them in a bear hug and not let go?  That would get you a swift kick in the nuts in alot of venues.

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RE: Body Language - 7/16/2009 10:15:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

i'm just gona break it dona for ya here dude...When i hug people like that it generally means this, "how can i get this JAMF the hell away from me and make him stop touching me" My very next thought is, "how quickly can i get the hell away from this guy".
My advice: Keep your distance and mind your manners.
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Lets see I going to break it down more clearly, these subs I have chated with" one even ask me to let her snap my whip and I agreed, another ask me to show her how I can snap my whip. Doesn't that mean we are not strangers after seeing each other most each weekend?

From now on I'll give them a wave and keep moving. I'm glad I can takj about this negativity in the forums.

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RE: Body Language - 7/16/2009 10:17:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Unless "snap my whip" is a euphemism for jacking you off, the advice remains the same.  Just because she asked you about your toys or asked to touch them, doesn't mean she wants you touching HER BODY.

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RE: Boby Language - 7/16/2009 10:26:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

quote:

ORIGINAL: flogger

Have you ever reached out to hug someone and they hugged with one arm and the head turned the other way as if you had baaaaaaad breath or just ugly? There are subs I know that treat me that way.. How should I respond, ignore them or let them keep doing it to me?


This is not your first post that indicates a lack of the ability to comprehend appropriate social boundaries.  If someone acts like they don't want you to TOUCH THEM, then stop touching them.  Perhaps they are trying to spare your feelings instead of saying, "please don't touch me."

By the way, I am disturbed by your phrasing "LET THEM keep doing it to me" (emphasis added).  What did you plan on doing? Tackle them to the ground?  Clutch them in a bear hug and not let go?  That would get you a swift kick in the nuts in alot of venues.

Cali



calichick do you expect all phrases to be so easy for youi to understand and not be disturbed? I did not intend to insight violence. I only asked if I should let them continue to show their feelings or to ignore them. Not the scenes you mentioned.


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RE: Body Language - 7/16/2009 10:29:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LinnaeaBorealis

Wow.  I often hug people like that.  For instance, that's how I hugged Girly today.  But I think she's fragile right now & I don't want to hurt her.  Has nothing to do with not wanting to hug.  Because I wanna hug her lots more!!!!!



Linea, when I read this thread I thought of our hug today LOL I'm not a china doll so lay it on me woman! Do overs!!!!

As for me hugging others, I hug them if I care. If you don't get a hug it's because you don't want one or I don't want to give you one.

I'm a touchy feely kinda person



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RE: Boby Language - 7/17/2009 4:47:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: flogger


quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

quote:

ORIGINAL: flogger

Have you ever reached out to hug someone and they hugged with one arm and the head turned the other way as if you had baaaaaaad breath or just ugly? There are subs I know that treat me that way.. How should I respond, ignore them or let them keep doing it to me?


This is not your first post that indicates a lack of the ability to comprehend appropriate social boundaries.  If someone acts like they don't want you to TOUCH THEM, then stop touching them.  Perhaps they are trying to spare your feelings instead of saying, "please don't touch me."

By the way, I am disturbed by your phrasing "LET THEM keep doing it to me" (emphasis added).  What did you plan on doing? Tackle them to the ground?  Clutch them in a bear hug and not let go?  That would get you a swift kick in the nuts in alot of venues.

Cali



calichick do you expect all phrases to be so easy for youi to understand and not be disturbed? I did not intend to insight violence. I only asked if I should let them continue to show their feelings or to ignore them. Not the scenes you mentioned.


Let them? You can hardly control their response to inappropriate touching.

Allow me to tell you...if i were the submissive in this scenario you would hug me like that ONCE. The next time you came at me you would have my hand on your chest, pushing you away. Persist and my knee would connect with your balls.


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RE: Boby Language - 7/17/2009 4:58:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		I wanted a thread about boby language.  I wanted to know what a boby was.
























i feel horribly, horribly cheated.

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RE: Boby Language - 7/17/2009 5:08:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with sirsholly and Cali on this one. If they are pulling away like that, then dont hugh them. I think, i can count on one hand, the people who havent asked if they could hug me before they gave me a hug in the scene around here. And yeah I've said no to some people. but most I wont. For the simple fact, they arnt forceing me to hug them back.

think about this, I'm all of 105lbs, sometime, alot of people who hug me, are stronger then me. when they grab me with both arms and hug me, most likely senario, is that I CANT get away from them unless I do something violent, or tell them to get the fuck off me. So I will loudly proclaim that I dont want a hug from someone.

80% of women, arnt like me. I am SMALL (very very small). I'm gonna bet alot of them hug you one armed because they dont want a hug, but unless your asking first, you probly just assume its ok to hug them however much you want. YOU are INVADEING their personal space by NOT asking first.

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RE: Body Language - 7/17/2009 10:45:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

There are straight girl hugs - no boobies touching
Gay girl hugs - everything touching
Man trying to pick up a woman hug - him pulling toward, her pulling away
Gay man hugs - rubby rubby rubby
Straight guy hugs - arm punch


Yup.


Well hell! I've been doing the gay hug since before I claimed I was. (of course with these things .....pointing to chest.......there is really no way to hug without them touching something) Unless of course, you can hug with just your forearms........


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RE: Body Language - 7/17/2009 10:47:11 AM   
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RE: Boby Language - 7/17/2009 2:17:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

Allow me to tell you...if i were the submissive in this scenario you would hug me like that ONCE. The next time you came at me you would have my hand on your chest, pushing you away. Persist and my knee would connect with your balls.



Chilling thought for the day ... eh?

Pirate

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RE: Boby Language - 7/17/2009 2:20:59 PM   
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RE: Boby Language - 7/17/2009 4:23:18 PM   
flogger


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Status: offline 		What happed to "have you hugged somone today" If they don't want a hug then say that to me and that will be the end of it. Am being friendly, If I did not reach out to show my what ever then I will be labeled as "stuck up or an angry Dom or worse, as a lot of you subs should know about"

There's more subs in the sea.

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RE: Boby Language - 7/17/2009 4:46:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		you are blaming the subs. You are invading their space and it is THEIR fault??

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RE: Bobby Language - 7/17/2009 4:55:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hello flogger,

Perhaps it's more understandable like this.  In this scenario "I" is actually YOU, Mr. Flogger: 

I like to grab men's balls, squeeze and pull on them.  I just don't understand why men get pissed off at me.  What is up with that?

have a nice day,
sunny jo

< Message edited by sunshinemiss -- 7/17/2009 4:57:40 PM >

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RE: Bobby Language - 7/17/2009 5:10:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		We are huggers and our whole extended family are the same, some folks just don't want their space invaded and we respect that...We usualy ask can we give you a hug instead of jumping the bones sort of speaking smile...

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RE: Bobby Language - 7/17/2009 8:37:31 PM   
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& asking doesn't have to be a big deal . .. . Ask 'Hug?' & wait a few moments, give 'em plenty of time to pull away, & be okay with possible rejection from the get-go . . . .

As for the 'mean dom' impression, be friendly, smile, laugh & don't worry about the rest . .. . If you genuinely are a cheerful, happy person, that'll come thru over the long run . . . .

& I'd highly recommend getting some books on body language, there's quite a few out there . . .. . I've found the ones I've read very helpful . .. . .

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RE: Bobby Language - 7/17/2009 10:16:10 PM   
flogger


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Status: offline 		Most is putting their own spin/imaginations on this thread. I do not hug without permission. I open my arms and smile and wait if i know you only.

Never do I just go up and hug someone.

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RE: Bobby Language - 7/17/2009 10:27:28 PM   
DemonKia


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Status: offline 		The best bet, in my opinion, flogger, on these boards, is to just ignore the stuff you don't like & focus on the stuff that works for you . . . . .

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RE: Bobby Language - 7/18/2009 6:08:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DemonKia

The best bet, in my opinion, flogger, on these boards, is to just ignore the stuff you don't like & focus on the stuff that works for you . . . . .


Good idea and thanks.

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