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RE: regarding fake doms and wanna bes. - 7/22/2009 12:59:47 PM

subboy690

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Yes they are if they lie on their profile and pretend to be somthing that they are not then they are fake. Not only that they ripping off people by taking money from them and claiming to be something they arent. Which in my eyes is pretty much theft.

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RE: regarding fake doms and wanna bes. - 7/22/2009 1:06:09 PM

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But if they do the job well does it matter what they are or arent, what is a dominant? (no I don't really want to open that can of worms) if the person is able to dominate for money without personally identifying as a dominant then they arent really fake are they?

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RE: regarding fake doms and wanna bes. - 7/22/2009 1:07:23 PM

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I agree with you. I have noticed fuzzy pictures is a good sign of a fake and also poor english. There weights are something else. I saw one that supposedly weighted 8 pounds. I have spoken to so many on here and the location they put down is not what they tell you once you start a conversation with them. I like the ones that have no phone but you ask them what type of interent service they have and they respond with "I have dial up and that is why my computer is slow". I bet that if collarme could check on all profiles on here there would be a big reduction in profiles. Any one who sends money to someone is asking to be ripped off. I have found that if you tell them that you will fly there, meet them and fly them back with you that they can't do that. I just wish there was some way of stopping all the liars, fakes, and scammers on here. This is not a bad site but the few are ruining it for all of us.

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RE: regarding fake doms and wanna bes. - 7/22/2009 1:11:27 PM

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Poor english can also be a sign of not having English as a first language? Having the wrong location can be a typo or a cm problem (anyone from the UK will know it puts us up as from canada) Also someone may say they don't have a phone because they dont want to talk on it? I currently dont have a phone (two mobiles and a landline) Nor do I use MSN (its open at the moment)

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RE: regarding fake doms and wanna bes. - 7/22/2009 1:24:23 PM

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Its not a problem if they admit there not into BDSM and only want the money and the Idiot sends them it is happy but if thats the case then they shouldnt be on a site for people into BDSM casuse it aint BDSM there into. My search profile is UK Female any age who are looking for sub men. Check out some of the profiles on there, fu^* me i wouldnt give some of them money for a bag of chips. And i agree some the photos are well dodgey

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RE: regarding fake doms and wanna bes. - 7/22/2009 4:47:23 PM

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~Fast Reply~
Actually, I think a lot of people on either side of the slash just get called "fake" or "wannabe" because they don't instantly give the name-caller what he or she wants. Awhile ago I got an "On your knees bitch now & give Me your yahoo" type of letter and I said no, so he replied "Your karma stinks and you're a WANNABE!" Of course, then I posted his rant in my journal. lmao So pretty much the names fake and wannabe are silly, they mean nothing.

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RE: regarding fake doms and wanna bes. - 7/28/2009 10:43:07 AM

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I believe crouchingtigress has made the best point of everyone. fakes and wannabe's is apart of how we live in our everyday lives. why would it be any different in BDSM? it isn't from all the threads I have read. don't get mad with anyone just move on. all will be right in the world. no skin off My teeth.

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RE: regarding fake doms and wanna bes. - 7/28/2009 1:04:25 PM

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I did read all of this before I decided to type a response. (Who know why!!!) The following is my personal opinion based on my own experiences.

I don't like the terms "fake" or "wanna be" because I really try hard to keep my personal judgments to myself. In the years that I've been on this earth I have come to realize that what I believe true today may change tomorrow as I see a new perspective or gain new knowledge or insight.

There are people people all over the internet and in real life what want different things. There are people that really only want a great online relationship, there are people looking for one time roleplay, there are people who want to find a casual sex partner and people looking for the person of their real life dreams. I don't think any of those people are fake or wrong. They may not be what I'm looking for but certainly that doesn't invalidate what THEY are looking for.

I grew up in a small town in Mississippi. I knew the things that I thought about but didn't know anyone else had the same thoughts. I think it was Rocky Horror that showed me my first glimpse of leather in the 70s. I started being open about who I was. I dated people who were submissive and that was part of it. We had some BD type play but just made it up. I don't think we were "wanna be" anything. We did exactly what we wanted. In the early 80s I found compuserve and some BDSM forums. That was first interaction with people that thought as I did. If it weren't for that online experience, I don't think I would have ever looked elsewhere so I really don't think online is a bad thing at all.

Over the years, I have traveled, had good and bad BDSM experiences, attended gatherings and clubs and spent sometime online. I haven't looked online for a real life person in a very long time but I have still gained new information or insight from the internet community. I think all of these forums and differing perspectives hold the potential for me to learn something. The same can be said for actual personal encounters.

The bottom line for me is that there is room for everyone to be whoever they want to be. I don't think they are "fake" any more than I am "fake" for wearing deodorant or cologne to change the natural aroma of my being.

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