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RE: What would stop you..... - 7/21/2009 9:42:05 AM

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to the original thread, don't get discouraged go to public party's and meet other like minded folks and keep at it the right one(s) for you is there somewhere.

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RE: What would stop you..... - 7/21/2009 1:33:39 PM

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Part of my duties for Mistress are to screen her messages on CM and consequently get to see both sides of the issue.

I know for a fact how many bad messages that she gets and I can only assume that this kind of mail is typical for all of the Dommes on here and truly I wonder why they even open their mail at all! Frankly I cringe in embarrassment at some of them. The sincere applications I tell her about and she either sends me a note to respond with a polite "no thank you" or she responds to them herself.

I to understand the OP's confusion where if the applicant makes an honest, sincere effort to approach a Domme why does he at least not get the courtesy of a "thanks but no thanks". I have seen many posts here by Dommes complaining of what they deal with and yet quite happily do not expect to give the same courtesy.

To the OP I can only respond by sympathizing, but the fact remains that a Domme always holds all the aces and she knows it and it doesn't matter if she responds to you or not because there will be ten others tomorrow.

I do know one thing though, and that even though you may struggle with this treatment if you don't approach a Domme properly and with respect you have NO chance of a reply so suck it up!

And to top it off I just reread the OP and realized that I misread him ....oh well ....wont be the first time that I have had egg on my face.

< Message edited by jssubc -- 7/21/2009 1:48:28 PM >

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RE: What would stop you..... - 7/21/2009 5:18:26 PM

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If someone with Your screen name sent me a message wanting to get into a relationship, I would be hesitant. Your name sounds like You're a scary person to be involved with. Scotty PS: After posting this I read through the whole thread.... I think I've been conned!! Oh well the advice still stands....

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RE: What would stop you... - 8/4/2009 9:31:57 PM

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Damn, now I know why you haven't read the messages sent to you!

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RE: What would stop you..... - 8/4/2009 10:34:13 PM

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This question is very well-timed!

What would make me not respond:
1)Kneel bitch letters (Whether they want me to be their kneeling bitch or they wish to be mine)
2)People who treat cmail as instant messaging
3)People who haven't read my profile and are asking something of me (Not a question but wanting to do something to me or me to do something to them)
4)People who are rude

Generally I reply but I am becoming less tolerant. I generally respond in an attempt to allow them to salvage their misstep. They so rarely do.
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RE: What would stop you... - 8/4/2009 10:42:17 PM

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Screen names can be a killer definitely.
My response rate is very high, probably around 80% of the Dommes I have written wrote me back it's not really about reading the profile so much as understanding their profile what they are looking for and how you might fit into that. I don't think I even bother talking about specific kinks in the first message.    Approach them like a real person and engage their curiosity and interest , be genuine and honest and they will write back more often then not weather they are a Domme or a sub male or female.
For me every letter I wrote to approach a perspective Domme I did as if it was the last first letter I would ever write as if they where the one and each one I wrote I hoped they where the one. I also wrote it in such a way as to show my potential value telling them what I thought would benefit them as well as pointing out things about them that would click well with myself. (not really kinks though)
Check basic grammar and spelling as well.   Spelling something wrong even a single spelling mistake makes some people delete your letter no matter how well written. Simple reason, don't care enough to use a spell checker obviously don't care enough if I reply.

As for myself I respond to everyone :D I don't care if they send me a single word like "hi" I always respond. Though sometimes I respond with a single word back "no" lol.
Also might want to avoid lol and :D and other versions of things like that in letters, some people dislike them but I use them in the forums and chats. ;)
Anyway just my 2 cents :)

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