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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 11/24/2009 9:57:28 AM

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,,,.......here is one available in Boston area!----love to be tied up, beaten and sent on my way or not depending on You...

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 11/24/2009 3:06:19 PM

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,,,.......here is one available in Boston area!----love to be tied up, beaten and sent on my way or not depending on You...

That is a soupçon away from trolling! Ha ha ha!

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 11/24/2009 8:27:37 PM

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Where are all the masochistic men?

All around you. They're called husbands.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 11/30/2009 10:40:21 AM

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They are all over the place....but and this is an important but they are usually attracted to attractive mistresses. Many of us want an LTR. Is that too much to ask?

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/3/2009 11:05:44 PM

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OP, i am a masochistic man, but i'm looking for a LTR to go with it. Anyone can give a good beating, but not anyone can give a beating that another person loves and enjoys. Know what i mean, its an artform to be mastered.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 5:16:32 AM

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,,,.......here is one available in Boston area!----love to be tied up, beaten and sent on my way or not depending on You...

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OP, i am a masochistic man, but i'm looking for a LTR to go with it. Anyone can give a good beating, but not anyone can give a beating that another person loves and enjoys. Know what i mean, its an artform to be mastered.

The thing I see in many of the supposed "sub" male responses is that you think showing up, getting the lady to beat you, then going home is an LTR. Excuse me, where I live that's a "booty call".

A LTR has the necessary component of "RELATIONSHIP". The "R" doesn't stand for "Reliable fast fuck". If you want a mistress, then you better be thinking about how you can have a RELATIONSHIP with her.

The deal is, men, that no matter WHAT a woman looks like, any of us can get laid any time we want to. Beating your ass isn't a big draw for mistresses, because there's so much willing male ass begging to be beaten. Don't even bother touting your willingness to be beaten or take a strap-on up the ass as a "benefit"... there are hundreds of guys out there panting for the same thing.

Instead, consider what a woman actually WANTS. Read the domme's profile carefully and pay attention to the non-sexual things. That should be guiding you to what skills and activities you need to be concentrating on. A whipping or ass-fucking is a reward you get when the domme pleases to give it to you. But what are you going to do with the other 22 hours in a day?

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 5:39:21 AM

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Can a fast fuck be reliable? Consistant I can see (if one put's up with it)... but reliable in what? hehe And don'tchaknow... many think a fast fuck IS a relationship!

Actually guys... listen to Drifa!

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 5:43:28 AM

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The deal is, men, that no matter WHAT a woman looks like, any of us can get laid any time we want to.

That simple fact is PRECISELY why the comedian Jim Jeffries justifies using the term "slut" to describe a promiscuous woman and "stud" for a promiscuous man.

He says "To be a stud, you have to look good, work out, have 'game,' a nice car, etc. To be a slut, you just have to be "there."

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 7:29:52 AM

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If you have akey that opens a lot of locks, you call it a master key. If you have a lock that can be opened by a lot of keys, it's just a shitty lock.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 7:34:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: MalePainSlut4U
,,,.......here is one available in Boston area!----love to be tied up, beaten and sent on my way or not depending on You...

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ORIGINAL: painsluttim
OP, i am a masochistic man, but i'm looking for a LTR to go with it. Anyone can give a good beating, but not anyone can give a beating that another person loves and enjoys. Know what i mean, its an artform to be mastered.

The thing I see in many of the supposed "sub" male responses is that you think showing up, getting the lady to beat you, then going home is an LTR. Excuse me, where I live that's a "booty call".

A LTR has the necessary component of "RELATIONSHIP". The "R" doesn't stand for "Reliable fast fuck". If you want a mistress, then you better be thinking about how you can have a RELATIONSHIP with her.

The deal is, men, that no matter WHAT a woman looks like, any of us can get laid any time we want to. Beating your ass isn't a big draw for mistresses, because there's so much willing male ass begging to be beaten. Don't even bother touting your willingness to be beaten or take a strap-on up the ass as a "benefit"... there are hundreds of guys out there panting for the same thing.

Instead, consider what a woman actually WANTS. Read the domme's profile carefully and pay attention to the non-sexual things. That should be guiding you to what skills and activities you need to be concentrating on. A whipping or ass-fucking is a reward you get when the domme pleases to give it to you. But what are you going to do with the other 22 hours in a day?

Drifa,

Thats an interesting way to look at it although i already knew what a LTR entailed. If i want a LTR what kind of skills should i be working on cleaning, i can already do that its been my job a couple times. Foot massaging or is that part of play? Giving full body massages i can do, but that is too closely resembled to play also. Gardening is a skill i have been taught by a Mistress of mine, so is cleaning, raking, doing odds and ends, and i'm a romantic at heart like to have dinner over candlelight. Is this what You were talking about when You said what a woman actually wants?

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 8:30:31 AM

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Thats an interesting way to look at it although i already knew what a LTR entailed. If i want a LTR what kind of skills should i be working on cleaning, i can already do that its been my job a couple times. Foot massaging or is that part of play? Giving full body massages i can do, but that is too closely resembled to play also. Gardening is a skill i have been taught by a Mistress of mine, so is cleaning, raking, doing odds and ends, and i'm a romantic at heart like to have dinner over candlelight. Is this what You were talking about when You said what a woman actually wants?

Depends on the woman. The key is to carefully read her profile and get an understanding of what she is telling you she wants right there, and once you open communication with her, pay attention to what she tells you she wants.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 8:43:31 AM

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The deal is, men, that no matter WHAT a woman looks like, any of us can get laid any time we want to.

That simple fact is PRECISELY why the comedian Jim Jeffries justifies using the term "slut" to describe a promiscuous woman and "stud" for a promiscuous man.

He says "To be a stud, you have to look good, work out, have 'game,' a nice car, etc. To be a slut, you just have to be "there."

The truth is a lot simpler: Anybody can get laid any time he or she wants to. All it takes, for man or woman, is being unselective. No matter how unattractive you are by conventional standards, there's somebody out there horny enough, or lonely enough, or indifferent enough to want you. It is true, by and large, women tend to be more selective than men, so a woman who is unselective will have a lot of choices, but a man would too. Nobody can have sex 24 hours a day, so the difference doesn't mean a lot.

That has always been true, but the rise of the Internet has made it even easier for those desiring to "hook up". Craigslist, online chat rooms, personals sites etc have made it really easy for someone who is unselective to find someone else who is unselective. In real life though, most people don't want to have sex with just anyone. At a minimum, they want someone they find somewhat attractive, someone they trust not to do physical or emotional harm, someone they expect to be able to provide an enjoyable and erotic experience. Those who are reading this on CM presumably have specific bdsm-related interests, so it will be important to us to find someone who shares those interests, in a general sort of way at least, hopefully in more specific ways.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 8:45:28 AM

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Drifa,

You give good advice! So if i see an ad say on this site or any other like it saying She wants a service oriented submissive, that doesn't necessarily mean that She doesn't like pain play correct She just wants Her pleasure too. But on the flip side of that She should put in Her ad that She is into pain play as well, say put it as a reward for all the hard work the sub does.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 10:19:47 AM

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We are here but it is not a good thing to just billboard. It has to be with the right person who you have come to trust. Otherwise you could end up being punching bag both emotionally and physically. Even a masochist has pride and emotional feelings

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 11:17:52 AM

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Id be happy for a Woman to slap me silly as long as im not charged for it. Laughs . i know freebie humiliation but it is oh so necessary in a recession. Nothing like a strong Woman to keep a little guy in line. im the little guy
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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 2:34:12 PM

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If you have akey that opens a lot of locks, you call it a master key. If you have a lock that can be opened by a lot of keys, it's just a shitty lock.

Well put.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 3:12:08 PM

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You give good advice! So if i see an ad say on this site or any other like it saying She wants a service oriented submissive, that doesn't necessarily mean that She doesn't like pain play correct She just wants Her pleasure too. But on the flip side of that She should put in Her ad that She is into pain play as well, say put it as a reward for all the hard work the sub does.

Maybe... careful reading, or polite inquiry, is what you need here. Dominance is not the same thing as sadism, nor is submission the same thing as masochism. There are plenty of people who enjoy D/s or TPE relationships in which there is no sadomasochism.

If a person's profile doesn't say explicitly that they enjoy pain play, it would be acceptable to write and say that you had read the profile (points for actually reading it) and that while X. Y, and Z in the profile caught your eye, you wonder what the person's attitudes about pain play might be. A polite inquiry establishing whether the other person can meet your basic needs from a relationship is A Good Thing, I think, so long as it is combined with actual reading adn reaction to that person's own words from their profile.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/4/2009 6:11:29 PM

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Drifa,

Thats good advice, i'll put it to use.

Thank you,
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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 12/5/2009 3:10:04 AM

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i'm not a masochsitic per se, but i do relish suffering for a women who truly feeds off infliciting pain on me. There's nothing like feeling the glow of a dominant woman and hearing her quickening moans from the pleasure of hurting me.

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RE: Where are the masochistic men? - 4/20/2010 7:53:15 PM

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And in defense of my sub brothers above (and grant it a while ago but,,,,,), the OP was wondering where we all were and from what i can tell we all politely seemed to raise our hands with our dogtags and locales identified.....also as an fyi to La Domme, above guys in the better cohorts and urban areas here have no problem summoning b-calls when needed also ....oc it would be much better if accompanied by a s-tail-ing and some electro but .......btw anyone of Les Lovely Dommes need the services of a planning consultant/fin analyst and bondage/pain slut???? ......

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