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HisGirl8 -> Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 10:16:50 AM)
Ok so I'm probably asking the dumbest question but I'm asking it anyway... Why is it called a "scene"? I'm not acting, neither is he, so why the implication? I don't need a director, nor is it going to "end" like a typical "scene" would. I'm not causing a "scene", ie: being overly dramatic, or "playing". Sure some things are discussed and planned but it's really improv. and never goes exactly how I thought it would- so I've stopped predicting. I just don't understand the title for something that just "is". Help the newbie ;) curtsy ~a~

truesub4u -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 10:26:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HisGirl8 Ok so I'm probably asking the dumbest question but I'm asking it anyway... Why is it called a "scene"? I'm not acting, neither is he, so why the implication? I don't need a director, nor is it going to "end" like a typical "scene" would. I'm not causing a "scene", ie: being overly dramatic, or "playing". Sure some things are discussed and planned but it's really improv. and never goes exactly how I thought it would- so I've stopped predicting. I just don't understand the title for something that just "is". Help the newbie ;) curtsy ~a~ I dunno know why.. and kinda curious myself.. because after posting in another thread too.. kinda getting tired of the word "play" as well... When I'm with Master.. (or not with him) I'm not playing.. I'm being me, he's being him. This isn't a play.. as you stated.. no directors.. no ones going to yell...... CUT.. PRINT.. So why "scene"

DragonNphoenix -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 10:28:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HisGirl8 Ok so I'm probably asking the dumbest question but I'm asking it anyway... Why is it called a "scene"? I'm not acting, neither is he, so why the implication? I don't need a director, nor is it going to "end" like a typical "scene" would. I'm not causing a "scene", ie: being overly dramatic, or "playing". Sure some things are discussed and planned but it's really improv. and never goes exactly how I thought it would- so I've stopped predicting. I just don't understand the title for something that just "is". Help the newbie ;) curtsy ~a~ You are not the only one that has asked this question. I asked this myself. I was told that the term 'scene' was used to discribe the session because of the planning and props that go into the event. At least that is what I was told years ago. Hope this helps. 1st Girl Phoenix

truesub4u -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 10:40:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DragonNphoenix You are not the only one that has asked this question. I asked this myself. I was told that the term 'scene' was used to discribe the session because of the planning and props that go into the event. At least that is what I was told years ago. Hope this helps. 1st Girl Phoenix Ok I know I'm going to regret asking this... but why is it planned? I'm seriously curious about this. Master and I don't "plan" activities.. we go with the flow of each other. We do things we want while in the middle of things. There's no time table.. "I'm going to spank you for 5 mins at such n such time"... he decides to spank me when ever he feels like it.. if not.. then he doesn't. There's no... "ok stop doing that.. it's time to do this".. he or I.. just slides right into what we feel like doing next. Now I know there are times, certain things might be "Planned". The settings.. candles.. dinner... etc... but the rest I don't get. Master may tell me.. I'm in the mood for ... whatever... go get things set up... but it's stil not planned. It's just there "in case" his mood changes for something else in the middle of whatever his mood already was.

IrishMist -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 10:43:43 AM)
I could be wrong but I think that the word 'scene' refers more to public play ( dungeons etc ). Or, along the lines of more casual play between two people. In that sense, it would cover the need to have things 'set up'.

HisGirl8 -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 10:48:57 AM)
Well gee, I feel a whole lot better. I see it used all the time and I just keep thinking, "why are you calling this a "scence"?" I am rather "playful", but I'm never playing. That's too much like pretending and I'm get my ass beat for that... I'm glad to know I'm not the only one :) ~a~

HisGirl8 -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 10:52:33 AM)
See that's what I don't get... the planning and props used is what makes this a "scene"? Don't get me wrong, I appreciate your reply and am greatful for any clarification but still... We don't really "plan" much and if we do.... it's just like we would if we were doing anything else in our lives. It might go like "this" and it might go like "that" but nobody really knows. I'm not reciting lines or acting a certain way. There is genuine reaction and emotion and interaction- so the term just confuses me. Or maybe I feel like I'm missing something... Thanx :) ~a~

DragonNphoenix -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 10:54:00 AM)
You may not go into massive planning on your sessions but I know others that plan up to 6 weeks for one night session, you know, special clothes, toys, etc. My Dragon and I do not like the term scene either. We may do something... but we might not. It all depends on his moods, like you said. 1st Girl Phoenix

truesub4u -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 10:57:08 AM)
Ugh... "scenes".. "play".... "thinking submissives and slaves"... Not enough caffine... (makes a fresh pot of coffee) Ok... now I'm ready... because this is going to get interresting. Because the curiousity behind this is getting intense and I'm eager to learn what others think on these matters too today..

HisGirl8 -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 10:57:13 AM)
I see this term used everywhere describing everything- not just public play. Which still, to me, isn't really planned. There are other people involved and again, real reaction not something "scripted". Just last night we went out and had some fun little public play. But I'm not gonna call it a "happening" cause it was live and in public. We put on a "show", sure, but none of it was planned or acted. All I know is the rest of the people in the bar and my friends had a blast just watching us and watching me scurry around trying to obey him. Was it a "scene"? I don't know... public or not the trem confuses me....

truesub4u -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 11:00:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DragonNphoenix You may not go into massive planning on your sessions but I know others that plan up to 6 weeks for one night session. Ok I can see "planning" for an event... meetings... etc... but does one actually plan out the WHOLE nights events? I would find that rather.. unsatifying. In terms of planning for this.. this.. this.. and the last "this" never made it into play.

HisGirl8 -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 11:01:05 AM)
Lol- you're cute. I am curious- and outspoken so the combination sometimes makes me look like a fool. But really what's the deal here? I see this term used everywhere... I can understand planning something. We may plan a trip 6 months in advance or he may tell me that next Saturday night I'm going to be his Prostitute and to go buy something appropriate.... but when it all comes to it's peak and and we're, well you know ;) is it a scene?

IrishMist -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 11:02:23 AM)
You have to remember that the term itself can mean many things to many different people. Personally, when I see it, I tend to associate it with two people who are just casually acquainted, meet up for a night, and 'plan' the activities for that night only. Such as, limits, safewords, what can and can not be done, etc. In that sense, it is indeed nothing more than a script that is being followed, ie a scene.

DragonNphoenix -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 11:03:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: truesub4u Ok I can see "planning" for an event... meetings... etc... but does one actually plan out the WHOLE nights events? I could not plan a whole night down to the t either. But some do. (shugs shoulders in confussion) 1st Girl Phoenix

truesub4u -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 11:06:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DragonNphoenix I could not plan a whole night down to the t either. But some do. (shugs shoulders in confussion) 1st Girl Phoenix LOL... blame Hisgirl... she started the confussion... I just got confued right along with her. Because like Hisgirl.. i'm surious.. and outspoken too. When I don't get the meaning behind things.. I ask. Looking foolish doesn't bother me.. (unless my idiot bells start ringing because I find out I already knew something and forgot)... LOL Irish.. you're adding to my confussion here!!!... LOL

IronBear -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 11:10:38 AM)
If you figure it, not many places have equiped Dungeons and this need the suitable props and set dressings to help make the atmosphere conjucive to BDSM activities..... Now the "Scene" is set, lets roll out the sexual and non sexual dramas readly to unfold before adoring audiences..... Drama Queens of all sexes take the first door on the left and dont let it hit you on the but on the way out .. Ohh and dont fall ito the outside dunny either.

tasha_tart -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 11:10:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HisGirl8 Ok so I'm probably asking the dumbest question but I'm asking it anyway... Why is it called a "scene"? I'm not acting, neither is he, so why the implication? I don't need a director, nor is it going to "end" like a typical "scene" would. I'm not causing a "scene", ie: being overly dramatic, or "playing". Sure some things are discussed and planned but it's really improv. and never goes exactly how I thought it would- so I've stopped predicting. I just don't understand the title for something that just "is". Help the newbie ;) curtsy ~a~ Because it is a convenient word that has evolved to take on this meaning. There are other bits of verbal shorthand in use. As others have mentioned, "play" is widely used for something that many do not consider play. As an aside, most of my D/s and/or SM friends use the word play regularly, regardless of how hard or seriously they play. Another is "the lifestyle." We (and I'm using a rather grand, all-encompassing we...apologies to anyone who doesn't want under my umbrella!) have jargon that we use. It is generally understood readily by others in the know, while being at least a bit obscure to others. Is it perfect? No, of course not. Does it get the job done? Generally, yes. None of it is meant to put down anyone or their activities and behaviours. But if someone has other terms...start using them, maybe they'll catch on.[:)] Tasha

HisGirl8 -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 11:12:18 AM)
Oh so you're going to blame me now? I see how it is.... :) I just want clarity for something that I see is very common yet seems so off to me. So many poeple here use the term and it confuses me... I'll happily wear a dunce hat if someone will take the time to explain why I'm wearing it- lol

HisGirl8 -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 11:16:27 AM)
But I do this when I "Set" the table for dinner. Am I going to act as though I'm eating dinner? Was the preperation for some elaborate dance around the food or am I going to eat it and the prep. was necessary? I'm getting some clarity here but I still feel strangely about this label... Thank you for your .02 :) ~a~

Mercnbeth -> RE: Why is it called a scene? (2/19/2006 11:17:46 AM)
quote: Why is it called a "scene"? remember the 60's??? "Hey, man, what kind of scene are you into?" did not necessarily mean a staged scenario with or without props....it was more of a question of "lifestyle" preferences... of course, being but an infant at the time, this slave has no first hand experience, only California Hippie friends!

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