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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/1/2009 12:23:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: Zeknpet In the Navy everyone has to go through firefighting classes and drills. it's interesting to see a guy that's so afraid of the heat and noise it incapacitated him from acting even though the solution, a firehose is in his hands.

Do we not see this abound everywhere in the world? Its is indeed a fascinating observation.

BTW: Adore the pic of the two curious cats. ;)

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/1/2009 12:57:13 PM

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Actually, my Daddy/Dom is younger than me, but still takes good care of me. For example, I cut my foot accidentally on the door, and he put the band aid on for me. Not the Snoopy one I wanted, but the big ugly one that really worked much better. Smart Daddy!

Oh, and this article posted on the first page Good Article: http://www.domsubfriends.com/voye/articles/110/ was incredible. So beautifully written.

Daddy little girl is not an age or a shoe size, it's just a way to explore more of who you are.

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/1/2009 1:06:57 PM

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It goes deeper on a number of levels.
Sometimes its just not talked about nor do most attach a name to it.

Yet if you are under the control of another then you are in the mode of Daddy/girl,daughter,niece,etc.

I was an active member of a Father/Daddy/daughter/Uncle/niece group.
Started by several females from Stanford Uni.

They missed the closeness they never got from their real fathers and wanted more mature gents to provide that closeness with benefits of course. benefits they would never consider with their real fathers.

The difference is the women are very successful and take care of all the everyday needs of Father/Daddy/Uncle.

You must of course remain an active member.and live in the area. When I move my business to Florida I was not longer an active member.
Although I can place a call to my daughters and have a wonderful free to me stay in wonderful California any time.
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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/1/2009 1:11:38 PM

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Pleease keep in mind, if you have not already, that not all baby girls and little girls are submissives.

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I love the DADDY/baby girl relationships I have seen...
I have seen healthy ones based on mutual respect and desires matched to daddy's style and subs desires.
These Daddies are an anchor..mentor..lover..organizer..corrector..wise councell

As a MOMMY DOMME...I understand some of it...in that the men who wish to be my boy...or baby dolly wish to be NURTURED..held...have a safe envrionment created for explorations...look at an internal process of the inner child .BE HEARD..
BE HELD...

* NOTE>>I carefully assess those who may have abuse issues as it can then get very tricky with fragile personas.

The MOMMY/DADDY dynamic...can be very fullfilling ..there is nothing quite so percious as your little one looking up with those innocent eyes..

surrendering all

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/1/2009 1:18:45 PM

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I think any good partner would do that. One time Daddy cut his toe coming out of the trailer real fast because he heard my dog snarling at me and me yelling bad dog, and he scraped his toe on the concrete block steps, and I put liquid bandage on it and a bandaid. It's a very much mutual care thing, if I am hurt he'll take care of me and if he's hurt I try to help take care of him/.

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Actually, my Daddy/Dom is younger than me, but still takes good care of me. For example, I cut my foot accidentally on the door, and he put the band aid on for me. Not the Snoopy one I wanted, but the big ugly one that really worked much better. Smart Daddy!

Oh, and this article posted on the first page Good Article: http://www.domsubfriends.com/voye/articles/110/ was incredible. So beautifully written.

Daddy little girl is not an age or a shoe size, it's just a way to explore more of who you are.

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/1/2009 5:55:38 PM

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I'm in a Daddy/daughter relationship, that is also an M/s one. I feel I am flourishing in this and have never been happier. there is no ageplay involved, and he's also two years younger than me. but, I have the safety and security in this relationship that I've always craved.

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/2/2009 6:04:31 AM

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@ Topping - You are correct about one being a little girl and not being submissive. I see this more and more in my little one. For her it is not about age play, it is all about the age she feels inside.

@ peachgirl - I do agree with you about DD / lg or Mommy and lg or lb relationship offer saftey and security.

I have had other type relationships within the lifestyle but I find this the best, most fullfilling and also one in which I feel closer to my little one.

I understand the bells and whisles. Did not do Navy but I did my (Sub Training) on Parris Island, SC with the USMC.

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/2/2009 6:29:53 AM

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I think the OP is correct in stating that this type of relationship is often misunderstood.

Most of the kink cards I've collected over the years list ageplay as a hard limit.

Daddy/girl relationships are seen as ageplay from the outside. What exactly ageplay is...might be defined differently by the partners in the dynamic. But the majority of kinksters I know, consider it a personal hard limit, partly because of the constant hammering on the dangers of predators which has become common in the last fifteen years in US. That's not to say that child predators are not an ever-present danger, especially because the anonomity of the internet has allowed many people to encourage one another in these pursuits, and opened doors that previously were not there.

Hence, the tarnishing of ageplay with the concept of child predators. I feel they are not the same thing, but many don't see a difference. There are also issues of childhood abuse that make people extremely nervous around this type of play.

The other day someone close to me revealed that she's in a Daddy-little girl relationship. When I asked about it, it seemed like this is a very good dynamic for the two involved. For female subs who have had frightening, unhappy d/s relationships with inexperienced or abusive male doms, the kindness, the unconditional love, the cherish and pamper feature of daddy-girl is soothing to those who've been hurt in the past. This girl said she felt safe now, protected and happy.

Personally i love age play, but I rarely have the opportunity to engage in it, as it's not very popular among those I know in the scene.

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/2/2009 8:09:36 AM

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The deeper O/our Daddy/babygirl unfolds the more I become in touch with my little girl. This is not something I ever practice outside of my current relationship. When I'm feeling down or during aftercare I will will start to suck my thumb. Again, this is something that I never done.. The closer I become the more my inner child comes out to play. W/we don't really do age play except for the names W/we use.. But I have asked my Daddy to take me to the zoo without His children because I want and need to be the child of the day. It is recapturing the closeness I once had with my Dad *AND* in no way is this sexual. My Daddy is able to for-fill my need in this but I also for-fill His need of wanting His little slut whore woman.. during playtime. O/our age does not come to play either. He is only 2 years older then me. It's just the whole dynamic..
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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/3/2009 8:22:20 AM

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@Daddyssidney - "I want and need to be the child of the day". You are so right, it is important and something that is and can be looked over. As in any relationship, couples should have ie date night, personal time. In DD / lg relationship, there has to be the little one day... Excellent post.

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/3/2009 10:13:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: TazDevil

why it so propeller

it my guess that woman like to be seen as younger "I am a lil girl", all so they like older wiser men, and men don’t care about how old they seem. but being a Daddy means having more respobety so it makes you more of a Top, maybe that way you don’t see much Mommy Dom and baby boys (think about it)

Oh come on!!
This is not about an instant botox shot. Its far, far deeper than wanting to be seen as younger 'little girl'... its exploration of the inner childhood that many people have to a small or large degree. Its the place where we were safe, didn't have those responsibilities that are expected of us in the adult world. Its a place where if we had a fabulous happy go lucky childhood, we may want to re-explore or its a place where if we had an awful childhood with poor parenting, we may have a need to taste.
Being a daddy carries no more responsibility than a Dominant who is not into ageplay and it certainly doesn't make you more of a Top. What it does make you (in my opinion) is someone who wants to love, protect and nurture but then many Dominants who are not into ageplay want to love, protect and nurture!!
I think just as many men would like to explore that childhood within them. That doesn't mean they need to be dressed up in a diaper with an Easter bonnet on but perhaps just a feeling of being nurtured sometimes.

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/3/2009 11:54:15 AM

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well Queen you one of 3 Mommey Dom's I ever meet, and nice to meet you :)

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/3/2009 11:57:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: allthatjaz

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ORIGINAL: TazDevil

why it so propeller

it my guess that woman like to be seen as younger "I am a lil girl", all so they like older wiser men, and men don’t care about how old they seem. but being a Daddy means having more respobety so it makes you more of a Top, maybe that way you don’t see much Mommy Dom and baby boys (think about it)

Oh come on!!
This is not about an instant botox shot. Its far, far deeper than wanting to be seen as younger 'little girl'... its exploration of the inner childhood that many people have to a small or large degree. Its the place where we were safe, didn't have those responsibilities that are expected of us in the adult world. Its a place where if we had a fabulous happy go lucky childhood, we may want to re-explore or its a place where if we had an awful childhood with poor parenting, we may have a need to taste.
Being a daddy carries no more responsibility than a Dominant who is not into ageplay and it certainly doesn't make you more of a Top. What it does make you (in my opinion) is someone who wants to love, protect and nurture but then many Dominants who are not into ageplay want to love, protect and nurture!!
I think just as many men would like to explore that childhood within them. That doesn't mean they need to be dressed up in a diaper with an Easter bonnet on but perhaps just a feeling of being nurtured sometimes.

I all ways foget how much ones like to fight here lol!, hey it is just my opion hun thows or like A holes you know we all have one dont meen you wont to see mine :)

well I have 2 who say I am worng any to back me up even a bit :)

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/3/2009 12:15:42 PM

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MissCake hit it on the head perfectly for me when she said"it's about wanting to grab onto a joyful time of our youths and create magic with it. "

Only also I am kind of emotionally stunted and I was abused a lot in my childhood, so there's parts of me who have not grown up yet, are still need nurturing and caring for. So like you said it's being the age you feel inside. Also with Daddy I can be my authentic self, sweet and some what innocent, maybe even naive, and I don't have to worry about him taking advantage of me or using my smallest sides to hurt me.

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@ Topping - You are correct about one being a little girl and not being submissive. I see this more and more in my little one. For her it is not about age play, it is all about the age she feels inside.

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/3/2009 1:11:04 PM

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Thanks for your comment SirAntonio,
Every relationship needs one on one time to grow and flourish.. My Daddy and I have been very lucky to have such time since I'm in between classes.
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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/3/2009 1:18:41 PM

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@ Topping - "I can be my authentic self, sweet and some what innocent, maybe even naive, and I don't have to worry about him taking advantage of me or using my smallest sides to hurt me." Well put, I have been told the same thing here at home, just different words.

@Daddyssidney - I understand, I took a session off in my grad program. It is good to take sometime with each other, life moves to fast.

I am enjoying the exchange!!! As I read, I get a chance to learn, we must never stop learning....

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/6/2009 11:52:57 AM

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Question - Does anyone feel a conflict when her little girl wants to come out but you have adult responsibilities? Share with me, the dilemma ???

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/6/2009 12:45:33 PM

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I kinda have that dilemma but it's the other way around. LOL My Daddy has stated that He wants to take care of me and that I would not have to work or finish school. All my life I kinda wanted this type of relationship but for one reason or another the relationship did not workout and I was left to vend for myself. *NOT* that that is a bad thing.... It's just I kinda put my career goals on hold and had faith I would be taken care of. Now when I hear my Daddy telling me He wants to care for me in that way... My little girl is crying out for JOY... But the woman in me is..... yeah I heard that one before....you better get your butt in gear and make sure you can take care of yourself...
I wish I still had that childhood faith but life has taught me to be a realist..

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/6/2009 12:59:51 PM

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Question - Does anyone feel a conflict when her little girl wants to come out but you have adult responsibilities? Share with me, the dilemma ???

Ugggh, yes. Even now, I feel the need to curl up with my stuffed toy and be cuddled but instead, I have to be a responsible adult and take care of Daddy's little guy. So because I'm the step-mom, I can't be the little girl right now. I have to put it on hold for those times when i can let it out and it causes some anxiety issues for me. I'm also discovering that the more I explore that side of me, the more it needs to come out and yet I don't always have that safe space for her to come out. So she has to stay inside, and it makes me very sad, sometimes angry. If I'm honest, I'd have to say that I get downright jealous on occasion of the fact that the munchkin can be a kid all the time and I can't.

*sighs* But responsibilities come first - that's how I was raised from a very young age. Which might be why my little girl is so often peeking out now....

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RE: Daddy Dom & little girl relationship - 8/6/2009 1:38:32 PM

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In a parent child relationship, unconditional love is primarily in one direction. That is the nature of the immature ego. As a person matures, they become able to reciprocate unconditional love. This growth does not preclude one from continuing to experience their partner's unconditional love, thus continuing to feel open and safe -- plus the capacity to share their own unconditional love.

Part of growing up and learning responsibility is also learning that love arises in the only place you ever feel it, your very own heart. It never really came from a parent in the first place. It was merely inspired when a parent shared their own love, which is not given or taken in a bargain.

The problem exists when an adult holds onto, and perpetuates, an immature ego. Often this can be a coping mechanism for deep childhood pain, abandonment, or an ignorant parent who simply lacked the ability to share unconditional love. While the dynamic can be a useful tool in growing through that pain or void, it is incumbent upon the skilled master to insure that their charge becomes aware of their own independent source of ever present unconditional love within their own heart. Otherwise, the person is forever condemned to search in their own darkness for an external source of love.

As noted psychologist Alice Miller wrote:
"The basic mechanism of sexual distortion is always the same: the danger of perversion arises when primal needs are abused or neglected, causing pain and anxiety that the child cannot integrate. The victim has no alternative but to circumvent these inner threats. Either they will avoid sexuality altogether, or they will live out their sexuality in a perverted manner. In the process, they are incapable of realizing that the perversion, i.e. degenerated need, is a defense reaction to avoid pain and deception. And the more the perversion finds legitimation as a natural need, the more our natural needs will be submerged. ...Love is life. It means being alive and caring for life. Life creates needs. To fulfill them is to fulfill love. Love sustains life. All a child wants is to be loved."

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