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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

During a recent convo this subject came up for discussion and the different responses / applications that may come up with a relationship whether it is real time, on line or a mixture of both depending on the relationship. Thus I present this perplexing problem to the vast knowledged that is displayed here on a daily basis........... errrrrrr pretty smart anyway.

From either the D or the "s" perspective how faithfull are instructions, suggestions, or orders followed when on line with no actual ability to determine if they have been performed?

CP

If I haven't spent real physical time with a person, I don't trust them to submit........period. Which is why I won't get involved in any sort of online M/s dynamic.

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If I haven't spent real physical time with a person, I don't trust them to submit........period. Which is why I won't get involved in any sort of online M/s dynamic.

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince


From either the D or the "s" perspective how faithfull are instructions, suggestions, or orders followed when on line with no actual ability to determine if they have been performed?

CP

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

In My case with clip, I'd say the chances are pretty good.  On more than one occasion, I've had people in other locations send Me unsolicited comments on how he's behaved at different lifestyle functions in other areas.  Even without My intending it, they've told Me that he's followed his instructions on various things.  I appreciate these types of notes quite a bit.

LP,

Grins, power is a wonderful thing when used properly.

CP

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

During a recent convo this subject came up for discussion and the different responses / applications that may come up with a relationship whether it is real time, on line or a mixture of both depending on the relationship. Thus I present this perplexing problem to the vast knowledged that is displayed here on a daily basis........... errrrrrr pretty smart anyway.

From either the D or the "s" perspective how faithfull are instructions, suggestions, or orders followed when on line with no actual ability to determine if they have been performed?

CP

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

..Southern accent may require a heart montier.

BadOne

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

...Southern accent may require a heart montier.

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ORIGINAL: stella41b

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

...Southern accent may require a heart montier.

... or a good dictionary...

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ORIGINAL: janiebelle

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ORIGINAL: stella41b

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

...Southern accent may require a heart montier.

... or a good dictionary...

Ah declare, Miss Stella, y'all got not a lick a reason to go gettin' ugly to us belles.  <batting eyelashes>
yankee translation:  Hi Stella, please be nice to the redneck girls. 
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ORIGINAL: antipode

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how faithfull are instructions, suggestions, or orders followed when on line with no actual ability to determine if they have been performed?

You're asking a question to which you then say there is no ability to determine. If you can't determine something, you can't know.

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You're asking a question to which you then say there is no ability to determine. If you can't determine something, you can't know.

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ORIGINAL: lizi

I'll be perfectly honest, I haven't always followed orders given to me online. Looking back at this it has a lot to do with the state of the relationship I was in at the time. If I was questioning the Dom's place in my life I didn't feel compelled to do as he asked, especially if I viewed his current request/order to be silly or trivial. I know it's not my decision to make - if an order is given it should be followed - but I just thought I've give a truthful answer.

Also, if the Dom who has given me the order does not bother to check and see if it's been done I tend to disregard further orders. If he can't be bothered, neither can I.

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I'll be perfectly honest, I haven't always followed orders given to me online. Looking back at this it has a lot to do with the state of the relationship I was in at the time. If I was questioning the Dom's place in my life I didn't feel compelled to do as he asked, especially if I viewed his current request/order to be silly or trivial. I know it's not my decision to make - if an order is given it should be followed - but I just thought I've give a truthful answer.

Also, if the Dom who has given me the order does not bother to check and see if it's been done I tend to disregard further orders. If he can't be bothered, neither can I.

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ORIGINAL: lizi

I'll be perfectly honest, I haven't always followed orders given to me online. Looking back at this it has a lot to do with the state of the relationship I was in at the time. If I was questioning the Dom's place in my life I didn't feel compelled to do as he asked, especially if I viewed his current request/order to be silly or trivial. I know it's not my decision to make - if an order is given it should be followed - but I just thought I've give a truthful answer.

Also, if the Dom who has given me the order does not bother to check and see if it's been done I tend to disregard further orders. If he can't be bothered, neither can I.

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I'll be perfectly honest, I haven't always followed orders given to me online. Looking back at this it has a lot to do with the state of the relationship I was in at the time. If I was questioning the Dom's place in my life I didn't feel compelled to do as he asked, especially if I viewed his current request/order to be silly or trivial. I know it's not my decision to make - if an order is given it should be followed - but I just thought I've give a truthful answer.

Also, if the Dom who has given me the order does not bother to check and see if it's been done I tend to disregard further orders. If he can't be bothered, neither can I.

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ORIGINAL: Cloudz

The part of the question that struck me was the actual ability to know they have been performed. I don't engage in online instructions to a sub - personal preference. Until we have met, there is little point. I do not own one I have not engaged with in person, so why would I expect him to perform tasks prior to meeting.

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The part of the question that struck me was the actual ability to know they have been performed. I don't engage in online instructions to a sub - personal preference. Until we have met, there is little point. I do not own one I have not engaged with in person, so why would I expect him to perform tasks prior to meeting.

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ORIGINAL: ranja

It so depends on the suggestion or order and the people involved...

How important is it for the Dom that the suggestion/order is followed? if it is very important the Dom should make sure He can check... by certain answers to questions or photographic evidence or the Dom should feel secure enough to simply trust the sub... i notice this seems to be an issue for many Doms... If the Dom gets off by just giving the order with no real interest in whether it is followed or not then obviously the sub needn't bother really... and yes these Doms are out there... they have not much of a plan, just a desire to shock by email... it takes all sorts...

Cyber to me is a quite sexy game which both players get off on so i would be inclined to assume 'orders' are given with the pleasure of the sub in mind... and so if the interest of the sub is being peeked by some sexy suggestion by a dirty minded Dominant she would be quite inclined to follow the order... and be keen to tell him all about it...

Then of course one might just have an idea and it is enough to let the mind run wild and write some wank fodder or is it a realtime task followed by a detailed report? which would be more desirable or give better results?

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It so depends on the suggestion or order and the people involved...

How important is it for the Dom that the suggestion/order is followed? if it is very important the Dom should make sure He can check... by certain answers to questions or photographic evidence or the Dom should feel secure enough to simply trust the sub... i notice this seems to be an issue for many Doms... If the Dom gets off by just giving the order with no real interest in whether it is followed or not then obviously the sub needn't bother really... and yes these Doms are out there... they have not much of a plan, just a desire to shock by email... it takes all sorts...

Cyber to me is a quite sexy game which both players get off on so i would be inclined to assume 'orders' are given with the pleasure of the sub in mind... and so if the interest of the sub is being peeked by some sexy suggestion by a dirty minded Dominant she would be quite inclined to follow the order... and be keen to tell him all about it...

Then of course one might just have an idea and it is enough to let the mind run wild and write some wank fodder or is it a realtime task followed by a detailed report? which would be more desirable or give better results?

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ORIGINAL: Mistressbinature
Depends on the character of the one being asked