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RE: Strap-on play - 8/1/2009 5:07:13 PM   
PeonForHer


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Status: offline 		So, do you enjoy rear entry, then, Mal?

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/1/2009 7:50:51 PM   
malloves69


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Status: offline 		hello Ms Starlett  thank you for the hugs and missing me  and yes i love being fucked and fisted by my lady my mistress ...but you already knew that by now p ....take care and be well Ms S ...hugs back at ya  mal

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/1/2009 9:20:56 PM   
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So, do you enjoy rear entry, then, Mal?


Roflmao, it's never a 'real' strap-on thread until Mal blesses it!  :> 
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RE: Strap-on play - 8/1/2009 9:29:15 PM   
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One eensy medical problem does spring to mind.  I've heard that long-term botty-rogering can lead to piles.  Or, at least, it did in the cases of a couple of friends of mine.  Presumably the answer is not to skimp on the old axle-grease?


Are piles hemmorhoids, Peon?  Or fissures? 
I suspect that has bunches to do with genetics and overall elasticity.  I was with a guy who has issues with fissures but the amount of sex that boy had had was, well, amazing and he wasn't particularly, er, elastic.  Though highly flexible...but, I digress. 
Lube *shrug*, depends on the person.  I will say that, imo, while silicone lube is preferrable for penetrative matters vaginally (If lube is being used), it would soooooo not be my lube of choice being a receptive party anally.  Sufficed to say that one instance with the covert application of silicone lube had this stoic giving a death glare and saying, "What the fuck did you just do, never do that again."  Ouch (and not in a good way). 
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RE: Strap-on play - 8/1/2009 9:51:35 PM   
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Strap-on play is one of the only things I won't do.  Its not due to some insecurity about my sexuality, or because of the pain (in fact, I'm quite a masochist).  Its because I am a medical professional, and I believe it is not healthy.  I a just wondering if this is a problem for a majority of Dommes.  I have been turned away before because of this.


If you have a hangup about it, ok, but you can't play the health card. Ask your doctor about it and get the facts[and by doctor, I mean a real MD], since it sounds as if you've read a bit and got scared hearing about STD's and other diseases in gay or bi- men. Presuming you're healthy and have no STD's to pass on, it's a very healthy way for a Domme to orgasm, and so is the prostatic massage men get from it [cuts down on prostate cancer, ya know, so in a way, it's unhealthy NOT to ;-)].

It's one of few negotiables with My subs, but all have been exTREMEly interested in it, and became even more enthused as they were being trained. We start with a fingerpulp just over his anus as he orgasms, then one finger inside, then a small plug, then a medium-headed but slender vibrating dildo, then the same used as a strapon. And don't listen to size queens who flame about always needing to increase the size of the dildo: not true. Condoms and lube with whatever goes inside, no toy-sharing, plus subs keep the strapons and harness scrupulously clean, so there have never been any problems, let alone complaints. Quite the opposite:


The first anal orgasm can be a real mindblower; hope you get to enjoy.

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/2/2009 6:05:53 AM   
malloves69


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Status: offline 		hello Ms Daven  see what a few innocent female fingers can do to a guy once she starts playing with his ass ?  my lady has been fisting me now for over 4 plus years and no medical side affects as of yet ..thank gawd  cant believe how much i crave that now on a weekly basis ..i swear her fingers are magical indeed  have fun and good day ..mal

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/2/2009 6:51:27 AM   
MsMillgrove


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Status: offline 		You do as other posters mentioned, need to drop the concept of "unhealthy" medically. It's not and if you are a medical professional then you should do your own research to discover as others have--that it's a safe experience for those who eat properly (lots of fiber), prepare properly, anally condition and use plentifuly amount of correct lube.

It's been said by sex educators that a vanilla player's idea of lube is a little dab. You cannot overdo lube in ass play.

What might be more helpful to you is to look inside to find the core idea from childhood that makes you shy away from strap ons. You already know that most dommes won't reject someone as a sub or a play partner over the hard limit on strap ons. And none have rejected you. So we're all wondering--what's your real question here?
BTW nearly all the subs I know who rejected ass play or strapons happened to have medical backgrounds! I think it's possible they've seen the negative side of unsafe sex or accidents which is a minority of overall experience. It might be influencing their perceptions of safety.

You might want to find a domme who will ease you through some anal conditioning to see where the real fear is coming from--it's not based on "unhealthy".

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/2/2009 6:58:16 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Hey Mal... as the board expert on the subject, I need to ask you a question.  Does your Domme do your ass 'bare handed'?  Or does she wear rubber gloves?  I used to do my boy bare handed.  (I actually like to feel things.)  But he complained that my fingernails cut and hurt in a bad way.  Suggestions?

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/2/2009 8:05:45 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		It's actually the nails, rather than the strap-on, that's the greater risk.  Even meticulously kept nails can cause tears quite easily.  I won't speak for mal, but that is the very reason why I use gloves and will continue to use them.  If nothing else, it's something of a reassurance to Me.  If I'm not ripping the glove, I'm not ripping the boy.  It's not a perfect theory, but it's working for Me so far.

One other side note here.  There are some types of play that are more likely to squick folks who are in the medical field.  There's nothing wrong with that if you have someone willing to put in the extra time and patience to achieve the goal.  It may take a long time for it to happen or it never will.  For most, those kinds of limits aren't a deal breaker.  Maybe the OP is more focused on those who find that it will.


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RE: Strap-on play - 8/2/2009 8:19:32 AM   
Tantriqu


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Status: offline 		While you're awaiting a reply, here's my preference:
If he's not allergic, I like relatively tight-fitting disposable latex gloves; too loose and you lose sensation, too tight and your hand can cramp. A bit of cotton ball under your nails or in the tips of the gloves helps cut down on glove breakage if your nails or cuticles snag, and no gel tips or other fake nails unless for S/m.
Gloves also make cleanup a breeze, and just like 'ER' you can roll them off your wrist so they're inside out. If latex a water-based lube is required; everyone has their favourite, but I still like Astroglide.
Roughrider or other ridged condoms can be fun, but may come off.
If he's allergic to latex, I find the polyurethane gloves reduce sensation and don't fit well; the 'one size fits most' seem to be made for male hands. Like condoms, a bit of water-based lubricant inside the glove fingers as well as outside can feel more like 'bareback'.
Fingercots [like roll-down condoms for fingers] are another option, but I find them uncomfortable after just a few minutes.
And after just a few times, watch for the Pavlov reaction as a blindfolded sub hears you 'snap' the glove on! Delicious!

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/2/2009 9:16:42 AM   
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One eensy medical problem does spring to mind.  I've heard that long-term botty-rogering can lead to piles.  Or, at least, it did in the cases of a couple of friends of mine.  Presumably the answer is not to skimp on the old axle-grease?


Are piles hemmorhoids, Peon?  Or fissures? 
I suspect that has bunches to do with genetics and overall elasticity.  I was with a guy who has issues with fissures but the amount of sex that boy had had was, well, amazing and he wasn't particularly, er, elastic.  Though highly flexible...but, I digress. 
Lube *shrug*, depends on the person.  I will say that, imo, while silicone lube is preferrable for penetrative matters vaginally (If lube is being used), it would soooooo not be my lube of choice being a receptive party anally.  Sufficed to say that one instance with the covert application of silicone lube had this stoic giving a death glare and saying, "What the fuck did you just do, never do that again."  Ouch (and not in a good way). 
Davan


Piles are haemorrhoids, Davan.  It was a female friend who'd complained that she'd got them after lots of rear-entry, and a male who'd got concerned that he'd given them to his GF for the same reason.

I've no idea about my own 'genetic elasticity' in that department.  Maybe there's a special home-measurement kit and I can arrive at a recognised figure (as in IQ tests, for instance) and put that figure on my profile.  I might be able to take only a matchstick - or somebody might be able to drive a coach and four into me.  Who knows?  I like to see life as an adventure.

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/2/2009 9:59:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		my mistress first started to using gloves for fisting me ..then she started going in bare back and she loves that feeling more  so now its bare back ...she keeps her finger nails trimmed so i have never had a problem there  when she gets me to cum she loves feeling the spasms in my ass as i shoot out the cum ..she says she knows right before im about to cum because my ass clinches tighter around her hand and 2 seconds later im cumming like crazy  sometimes i think i cum harder from her fisting me then vanilla sex ...yes we do that to together .....other times she likes to milk out the cum from me slowly as she watches it drip from my cock ..totally different sensation it is to be milked by your lady and it kinda keeps the guy hanging ..yes i cum but not nearly as forcefull ..either way shes going to get cum from  me and she loves the control she has over me when she fists me ...kinda funny whatever mood she is in in how she is going to go after my prostate  she does know it well i must say  as for the nails ..yes cotton balls over them first then the gloves help ..i love the feeling of being fisted by her more bare back once she slides in ..gawd that feels amazing indeed  any more questions feel free ..mal

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/2/2009 10:07:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		we now use the lube from mr-s-leather in california ..gawd thats great stuff ...first we used crisco ..she said when it was time to fist me it was time to bake cookies --lol ..love her humor  then we went to ky but that stuff wasnt that good ..now the mr-s-leather stuff from california ..we figure the gay guys use it so it must be good  it really is amazing being fisted by her ..i have always wondered if someone else did it to me would it feel any better ...or worse ...i really trust her so im very happy with her doing the honors .. being fisted by a woman is awesome indeed ..mal

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/2/2009 10:09:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		I knew you would be a wealth of information.  *smooches*

I like keeping my nails at an 'active length'.  Long enough to scratch a back, but sort enough not to flip backward.  My nails are very thin, therefore SHARP.

Haven't gotten to ass play with the new one.  Not even sure he likes it.  We're still experimenting. 

Wall-e is coming on Wednesday.  We've been discussing strap on or fucking machine play, but we have not done that together before.

I don't want to ruin the experience the first time out with either of them.  They might not want to try it again.


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RE: Strap-on play - 8/2/2009 12:38:55 PM   
malloves69


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Status: offline 		train him well Ms Starlett ..im sure you will  great way submitting to a woman i must say once she starts playing with your ass  thank you for the smooches  have fun mal

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/3/2009 3:42:58 PM   
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Hey Mal... as the board expert on the subject, I need to ask you a question.  Does your Domme do your ass 'bare handed'?  Or does she wear rubber gloves? 


Are the rubber gloves to stop the guy getting pregnant Ma`am ?

Innocent minds need to know !
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RE: Strap-on play - 8/3/2009 4:21:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		I will admit I turn into a little bitch when taking it (and like it).

What is that... pillow princess?
My prostate was never stimulated thoroughly. I came very close to having my mind exploded once. Damn that was frustrating.

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RE: Strap-on play - 8/3/2009 4:41:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		All guys turn into little bitchs when taking a strapon...


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RE: Strap-on play - 8/3/2009 4:43:12 PM   
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RE: Strap-on play - 8/3/2009 4:44:48 PM   
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