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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/1/2009 3:10:08 PM

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Say What?!

I don't want my stugats to be plump ravioli. I want them to be stugats.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/1/2009 4:20:26 PM

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You wants, i could maybe introduce 'em to a couple'o my buddies?

Well, yeah, I kinda do. He seems a nice enough guy, just frustrated and down on himself. If he's not a flaming asshole in real life, could you invite him to the Woodshed or something?

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/1/2009 5:29:00 PM

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Am I going to be destroyed by some sort of Femme Mafia now? That would be sad and hot at the same time. Okay... I think my profile is not sick anymore. This thread can die now. Goodbye.... goodbye... goodbye.... goodbye!

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/1/2009 6:30:03 PM

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pyro...your profile says you're over 800 miles away, are you in Florida, Illinois??? What's the sitch?

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/1/2009 6:58:08 PM

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No... I actually am in Florida. I do not know what the situation is. Investigating!

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/1/2009 7:17:28 PM

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Pyro... maybe you put your zip in wrong? It states that you are less then 200 miles from me and I know Florida isn't that close... or did I miss something?

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/1/2009 7:19:25 PM

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Ah.... *laughs* well lookie thar.

It is fixed. This is hilarious.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 12:53:18 AM

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Pyro...just perved your profile again. MUCH better, and very well done, IMO.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 3:17:15 AM

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Am I going to be destroyed by some sort of Femme Mafia now? That would be sad and hot at the same time. Okay... I think my profile is not sick anymore. This thread can die now. Goodbye.... goodbye... goodbye.... goodbye!

Not a chance. You'll get lucky soon, meet someone, and get told to announce that you're now taken. As soon as that happens, I'll bounce this thread to the top to embarrass you. *Cackle*

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 4:58:21 AM

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Just read it. So when are YOU moving to Tennessee???

*giggle* yeah. It's my favorite pick up line.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 8:35:23 AM

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Bwah!

*blushes*

So nice and mean at the same time. What duality.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 11:42:09 AM

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LOL! Would you like me to introduce you to my new boy? He's having a bit of trouble dealing with my duality. I don't see why? Just because I beat him into calling a safe word (which he HATES doing) one day and climbed into his lap to kiss him the next.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 12:05:50 PM

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He's having a bit of trouble dealing with my duality.

Eh? I always thought you had a fine pair but I didn't know you were a fine pair.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 1:36:20 PM

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Well, it sounds like part of what was wrong was the location, so hopefully that will help. It looks fine to me now. However, you indicated that several people *did* talk to you initially, but dropped out of contact after a few e-mails. To me, that means that no matter how good your *profile* is, you're having trouble sustaining interest via e-mail. Back when I was looking, usually I lost interest quickly if the conversation kind of petered out to a few sentences especially after the first e-mail. I enjoy writing, and would try to ask questions and engage the other person, but sometimes it was like pulling teeth to get more than a few words out of them, so I gave up after one or two attempts. Another reason was getting too sexual or pushy about serving too quickly - I usually dropped them a quick note to let them know we weren't compatible after all, but if it was bad enough, I just didn't respond or even blocked them. If the person was too far away or otherwise had a dealbreaker I found out about, that also got them put in the "to don't" bin pretty quickly. So, go back through the e-mails (the ones you sent, and their replies) and see if you can find a common thread on what went wrong, at what point.

Once we'd exchanged 3 or 4 e-mails and that went well, I usually moved pretty quickly to the phone, then meeting in person. I actively dislike IM/chat as a tool when meeting people through a personals site - I made a couple of exceptions, but a lot of people try to turn it into cybersex/online BDSM or just a small-talk time sink.

BTW, I'd trim the checklist down to things you actually participate in on a fairly regular basis - it's pretty long, and can make it come across like you just checked everything that sounded vaguely interesting. I think the blurb you put in about being interested in different forms of spirituality and religion might be better than listing every single one there as "curious about."

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 1:48:58 PM

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Fast reply:

Your profile text is good except that you do come across with an attitude. I'd put all that stuff about your vanilla interests and what you're like in person first, and then the part about your D/s needs and requirements. Switch the order.

And I would rewrite the part about your D/s needs and requirements so that it doesn't come off as demanding and bitter. You really don't see that it reads like that? Take another look. Its a real turnoff.

You've got to seduce your domme, just the same way you'd like to be seduced by her. Would you respond if her profile sounded bitter and demanding? I hope not. You both deserve someone sweet, open and loving, right?

Soften your up your approach. Seduce your domme. Entice her. Entrance her.

Give her that yummy, sweet feeling that she can only get more of by engaging you. You've got to be irresistably yummy, to her. She's got to be compelled to respond.

I hope this helps, OP. From seeing your profile and your pix, I am rooting for you. You sound like a great guy.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 3:13:50 PM

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I think dreamerdreaming is right, Pyro. You've got to be 'yummy' and 'adorable'. You can often achieve this by being "cheeky" and expressing something that is "intoxicating". Annoying, I know, but I think we just have to learn to put up with women using words like that. Worth bearing in mind that a lot of femdoms are sadists and just like to think of us wincing. "Meh."

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 5:00:55 PM

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Oh... I am quite sure I can put up with words like that.
I am not sure how I can make my self seem yummy.... adorable yes.
I have been taking everyone's criticisms seriously.

About the e-mailing..... I have to pull teeth and this is frustrating. I can understand. When you get mail like
"yea and good luck being fake..you dont deserve to be a slave..FAKE FAKE FAKE FAKE FAKE FUCKING CHEATER ON BDSM>>GO AWAY!"
it is sort of disparaging. It got me down but you got to get back up.

Thanks Everyone.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 6:49:36 PM

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Oh... I am quite sure I can put up with words like that.

Really? I can't. "Yummy" and "adorable" drive me up the fecken wall. I see no valid excuse for their usage whatsoever. A woman could be thrashing my back into a disgusting messy pulp, and I'd be fine. But if she once said "adorable", I'd be straight out with my safe word. Well done for having the forbearance.

About the e-mailing..... I have to pull teeth and this is frustrating. I can understand. When you get mail like
"yea and good luck being fake..you dont deserve to be a slave..FAKE FAKE FAKE FAKE FAKE FUCKING CHEATER ON BDSM>>GO AWAY!"

Seriously, if you get mail like that, I'd recommend you totally ignore it. This is the Internet. It's a magnet for loonies and twats of all kinds. Believe me, from what I've heard, the women here regularly get things a hundred times nastier. I've had messages from men to women forwarded to me by those women - women who are friends, and for whom I have a lot of affection - and they've made me want to beat the crap out of the senders. There are just a lot of animals out there, that's all.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 6:53:25 PM

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When you get mail like
"yea and good luck being fake..you dont deserve to be a slave..FAKE FAKE FAKE FAKE FAKE FUCKING CHEATER ON BDSM>>GO AWAY!"
it is sort of disparaging. It got me down but you got to get back up.

You should see the mail that we ladies get. Trust me - it's worse than that. We get called fucking bitches and whores and cunts when we won't instantly meet a guy for sex. "Fake" is probably one of the politer things we get called by random assholes, actually.

I used to have a social profile here for the purpose of making friends and maybe finding the occasional play partner who actually wanted to start out as a friend. The more angry, disgusting, rude, explicit, and sometimes downright hateful email I got - which was a LOT - the more angry and unwelcoming and negative my profile got. I finally decided that I didn't much like the person I was when I was here, and I removed that profile.

I'm back in a professional-only incarnation. My social profile now resides on a site where there is no ASL-based search capacity, and therefore much less ability for mentally incontinent assholes to mass spam every female profile they see with sexually explicit demands. I don't think I could have solved this dilemma any other way, to be honest. It is discouraging and disheartening to be bombarded with horrible, rude, inconsiderate and selfish emails, and it's extremely difficult not to respond by becoming bitter and negative. If you can stay positive, and ignore the assholes, it will definitely help in your search. I do understand that this truly isn't an easy task, as it's one I eventually failed at myself. For me, the positive results (making the occasional friendly connection) just weren't worth the unrelenting stream of ugliness in my inbox and how it made me feel. For you, you'll have to make your own decision.

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RE: WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? - 8/2/2009 7:25:44 PM

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But Peon, you're so adorably yummy!

Don't panic Pyro. Keeping up an email relationship is rather difficult. If there was someone that you wrote to and enjoyed, but haven't heard from lately. Drop her a line. Let her know that you have not forgotten how much you enjoyed your prior conversations. I have lots of guys who talk for a while... then wander off because they got busy... then come back. It's fairly common.

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