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so I just made a profile and already met a winner (not)... - 8/3/2009 7:00:26 AM   
dundreggen


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Status: offline 		So I just put up a profile .  Which states I am NOT looking for anything more than friends, just here for the forums (total forum whore here) So i get cmail right away.  I get one guy who is very pushy.. finds me on yahoo and starts messaging me.  I ignore him but then he gets snarky so I decide to play (yes I am submissive.. but not to idiots-hmm i think idiots are a hard limit with me)

He wants to me to put my cam on.  I say no, I don't have one on this puter anyway, he askes me if I am ugly...  I dunno did you look at my pic?  He gets uber pushy and gets very demanding, cam now.. cam now.. umm no.. ummm no.  And then leaves in a huff when I won't play his way.  His leaving remark is "good luck in your search then" as he flounces off.. 

It says right on my profile I am not looking.....
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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:02:39 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry, but if you know it's not what you want, you have to put up your subbie backbone and tell him no and mean it.  If he persists, block him.

I know that he was an idiot for not honoring your profile, but you need to stick to your guns.


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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:04:37 AM   
sirsholly


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Congratulations..you have just been christened!!! Welcome to the insanity and make the Block/Ignore functions your friends


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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:06:55 AM   
dundreggen


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Status: offline 		oh I don't mean 'play' that way.  I don't respond well to idiots, I just wanted to see if he really was as bad as I have heard it can be on here.  Yup lol.  I have had some very nice cmail already from interesting people, just the idiot was my first exp.  I am glad I lurked for a while to know this isn't uncommon.

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:09:59 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		You know, some of my fellow men almost make me ashamed to have testosterone....

And I have so much of it.....

< Message edited by DarkSteven -- 8/3/2009 7:10:26 AM >

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:10:20 AM   
LillyoftheVally


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Status: offline 		How did he find you on yahoo?

Yeah I sometimes 'play' mostly though people who identify as no limits slaves they are a lot of fun, generally I ignore and dont add people to my messaging services.

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:10:25 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		new profile.  Give it a week or so.  the influx will diminish.
Ignore the fuckards.


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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:12:02 AM   
sirsholly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

You know, some of my fellow men almost make me ashamed to have testosterone....

And I have so much of it.....
KoffChoke 

< Message edited by sirsholly -- 8/3/2009 7:16:01 AM >

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MEMBER OF THE SUBBIE MAFIA
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VAA/S FAN

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:14:56 AM   
dundreggen


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Status: offline 		DarkSteven.. no no.. I like testosterone, I just like the man to have 2 functioning heads

Lilly..my yahoo name is the same as my username... bad planning I guess.

Greedy.. glad to hear it gets better!

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:15:12 AM   
tazzygirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

You know, some of my fellow men almost make me ashamed to have testosterone....

And I have so much of it.....


have pity on me... its much too early to bait me yet!!

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:16:45 AM   
tazzygirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dundreggen

DarkSteven.. no no.. I like testosterone, I just like the man to have 2 functioning heads

Lilly..my yahoo name is the same as my username... bad planning I guess.

Greedy.. glad to hear it gets better!



oh honey, god played a cruel, cruel joke on men... two heads... only enough blood flow for one at any given moment!

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Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:21:17 AM   
fadedshadow


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dundreggen

So I just put up a profile .  Which states I am NOT looking for anything more than friends, just here for the forums (total forum whore here) So i get cmail right away.  I get one guy who is very pushy.. finds me on yahoo and starts messaging me.  I ignore him but then he gets snarky so I decide to play (yes I am submissive.. but not to idiots-hmm i think idiots are a hard limit with me)

He wants to me to put my cam on.  I say no, I don't have one on this puter anyway, he askes me if I am ugly...  I dunno did you look at my pic?  He gets uber pushy and gets very demanding, cam now.. cam now.. umm no.. ummm no.  And then leaves in a huff when I won't play his way.  His leaving remark is "good luck in your search then" as he flounces off.. 

It says right on my profile I am not looking.....



gotta love...or hate, those kind of people


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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 7:30:27 AM   
AvidRunner


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Status: offline 		Be prepared, if you're online here and a woman, ALL sorts will come crawling out of the woodwork hoping that you'll be the "one", whatever that is to them.    Maybe 1 in 20 will read your profile, digest the information there, and make an intelligent decision based on that information.   Some will be polite, some will be idiots, some will be in between.

Take what you want out of the experience of being here, and trash the rest.

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 9:15:22 AM   
Missokyst


Posts: 6041
Joined: 9/9/2006
Status: offline 		Lesson one:  Never choose a nick that is the same as the messenger nick you use most often.
Lesson two:  New users get hit by horndogs as soon as the put up a profile, whether they are looking or not.

I do have a missokyst on messenger for times I think someone might be worth getting to know more.  It is not my primary name and was created solely for people I don't know enough to trust them with my day to day name.  I think I have used it once every 6 months just to keep it active.

There are guys out there who *gasp* check out all new users and drop them emails.  They are looking for fresh meat, an easy target, or a clueless newbie that is going to believe their bunk.

I don't trust anyone who messages me the first month or so that I create an account somewhere.  I don't care if they are nice or not.  It is the behavior of a predator.  Some of them just have better skills.

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 10:06:20 AM   
NihilusZero


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I don't trust anyone who messages me the first month or so that I create an account somewhere.  I don't care if they are nice or not.  It is the behavior of a predator.

That makes no sense. The first month of a new profile is when it is likely to garner more exposure than any other time (sites tend to have some means of featuring new accounts prominently). So...assuming there's even a minor inclination for you to be open to seeking a partner, you are refusing to acknowledge such greetings at a time when you have the greatest likelihood of running into someone worthwhile based on this odd interpretation of messaging in a certain timeframe.

And while the term "predatory" sounds conveniently derisive, the fact is that the entirety of the human courtship process is predatory.


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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 10:12:14 AM   
dundreggen


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Status: offline 		hmm yes on some levels the idea of predatory is yummy.. whether it is creepy or yummy is all to do with the man who is hunting, not the fact that he is hunting.

my dundreggen account is not my personal regular one I use so it shouldn't be too much of a hassle.

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 10:30:43 AM   
maia09


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dundreggen

So I just put up a profile .  Which states I am NOT looking for anything more than friends, just here for the forums (total forum whore here) So i get cmail right away.  I get one guy who is very pushy.. finds me on yahoo and starts messaging me.  I ignore him but then he gets snarky so I decide to play (yes I am submissive.. but not to idiots-hmm i think idiots are a hard limit with me)

He wants to me to put my cam on.  I say no, I don't have one on this puter anyway, he askes me if I am ugly...  I dunno did you look at my pic?  He gets uber pushy and gets very demanding, cam now.. cam now.. umm no.. ummm no.  And then leaves in a huff when I won't play his way.  His leaving remark is "good luck in your search then" as he flounces off.. 

It says right on my profile I am not looking.....



The world contains all types of people and this site is no exception. i've been pretty fortunate i'd say as i have very very few wise ass contacts. When i do, i simply delete. If they persist, i block them - done deal. i don't expect others to respect me or my limits. That would assume they think as i do, which not everyone does.


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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 10:48:04 AM   
leadership527


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
You know, some of my fellow men almost make me ashamed to have testosterone....

*laughs* God only knows how many times I've felt embarassed by my own gender. The only consolation prize is that the female pesuasion has their own set of idiocies they do. At least the grass isn't greener.

But to the OP, I have to say that it takes two to tango and you deciding to dance along with this guy pretty much looks like peas in a pod to me. I don't have a lot of interest in playing games... morally justified or not.


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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 11:00:50 AM   
slaveToKnight


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Status: offline 		LMAO..two functioning heads! I know what you mean about the idiots 

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RE: so I just made a profile and already met a winner (... - 8/3/2009 11:01:07 AM   
Missokyst


Posts: 6041
Joined: 9/9/2006
Status: offline 		This is an easy one to answer.  I am not looking. 
I also have 2 accounts here, I got the same emails from the same guys in both my accounts within the first month of my joining.

quote:

ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I don't trust anyone who messages me the first month or so that I create an account somewhere.  I don't care if they are nice or not.  It is the behavior of a predator.

That makes no sense. The first month of a new profile is when it is likely to garner more exposure than any other time (sites tend to have some means of featuring new accounts prominently). So...assuming there's even a minor inclination for you to be open to seeking a partner, you are refusing to acknowledge such greetings at a time when you have the greatest likelihood of running into someone worthwhile based on this odd interpretation of messaging in a certain timeframe.

And while the term "predatory" sounds conveniently derisive, the fact is that the entirety of the human courtship process is predatory.



< Message edited by Missokyst -- 8/3/2009 11:02:33 AM >

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