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SteelofUtah -> RE: Proof of Life ~~ Know your contacts (8/10/2009 7:48:18 PM)
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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal
And how, exactly, do you meet people with all the rigid rules involved?
Give me a time and a place and I'll be there locally EVERYTIME.
If there is Distance involved this is where the problem starts. There is nothing to invest in meeting someone locally, if they aren't there or aren't what they said they were or just aren't very interesting then I am out nothing but some of my time. If however you are a state or two away, then time must be invested from loss of time at work or just a lost weekend to the fuel, lodging, and feeding that will cost while there. Due to this I request some form of investment. If I am invested in you I am willing to spend that, I am willing to take that time, but in order for me to want to be invested in you I have requirements before I am willing to do so.
I am NOT just some screen name, I will meet anyone, I will have you in my home, I will even put you up if you need a place to stay, friends can always find a very uncomfortable Hide-a-bed and a hard to sleep on Davenport at your disposal and they are open to anyone I call friend. If it is going to be something that is going to the direction of a romantic relationship there are TWO comfort levels that need to be met. Just as important as THEIR Comfort Level is MY comfort level and If I am being told that my comfort level is going to have to take a side step to theirs well I have the option of deciding if I am willing to accpet that and as a usual case the answer is No I am not willing to put my comfort aside for yours.
You could be the best submissive in the world, and be the one who will serve me for the rest of my days, if you are not willing to give the truely LITTLE that I request in order meet my comfort level then my decision will always be to walk away. Sure it makes my search longer but it makes me comfortable and to me that is important.
Steel
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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal
I can answer that another way. I think I understand your impatience, but I also think you are doing what I see so many people on the collarme personals doing: cutting themselves off from potentially wonderful contacts with rules and restrictions and "they must do that's" and "they must do this's." You'll tend to attract a certain type of personality with your rules, and if that is the personality you like, more power to you. But others, who might be very good submissives but just reserved, loathe their bodies, had bad experiences with giving out too much information to men too soon, or all of the above will never be a part of your sphere. A lot of women online have genuine fear of male contact and need to reassure themselves that you are safe before they give up the goods, even little goods like a phone number.
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