Eivarden
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Going to OPs question.
All I can answer is "Yes".
The rest of this will be a long wall of text, so Ignore it from here if you want lol. (Also do to length, I'm going to be lazy, and not spell check it to death.)
One of the key things to notice (I'm sure most have) is that most guys are told it's not ok to cry.
Most guys turn this towards anger, and yelling. (But it's no different than just crying, but because of its nature, those who are targeted by the anger, treat it differently, than if they were crying.)
Now most know this, but what most don't really notice, is just how natural it becomes when you integrate it into your life every single day, for all of your life.
Yes a guy can actually cry. But there is always different levels of sadness.
The trickiest part about this all, is being able to tell the difference between anger and sadness.
And I don't mean just the woman, but the man as well. Half the time he remembers something that made him mad, rather than made him sad.
And this can effect how he treats someone later.
Now getting back on track.
I get an emotional attraction to someone almost right away.
For me, it's not that hard, for the average vanilla guy, I'm sure its quite longer.
I have only broken up with one girl. The rest all left me, and the ones that left me, we were still on good terms and friends who still hung out and talk.
The one I broke up with, took me months to do, and I still didn't have the guts to say it, because I knew she still loved me. Eventually she sorta knew something was up, and then asked if that's what I wanted to do.
But even after my relationships, I think about them, try to pick apart where things went wrong, and see if I can learn from it. (As most people, I assume, would do.)
Almost right after the breakups, I would want them back, yes.
But years later, I can safely see it was for the better, for both of us.
But then again most of my relationships I wouldn't really call that deep. I've always been in vanilla relationships, and the level of emotion seemed to pale in comparison for how I felt for a woman who I was never going to be with.
I just consider myself generally emotional, in both good and bad. I get in a lovey-dovey mood rather easily.
I figured it was how True love was, but it was just me being more emotional than what I would assume average vanilla guys are.
The girls that dated me, also said it was a bit too weird for them, because I wasn't anything close to their normal BFs. (This wasn't a good thing, as this is what caused the break ups.)
Now as for the woman I mentioned before, who I wanted to be with, and still do, she is the person who got me to realize I was better suited for a D/s relationship.
But every single day I come here, and look at profiles, I always compare them to her.
I think about how I would love to be with her often. Maybe no longer every day, since it's been forever since I last spoke to her. And because now I'm trying to imagine an unnamed figure, who will take her place.
I get just as pathetic and whiney as anyone can. I just try to keep it to myself.
I have moments where I have fits of anger,
moments of pure glee and I just held onto my partners arm, moments where I feel too sad and try not to talk to anyone,
moments where being alone hurt and I just lay in my bed clenching a pillow,
moments of self hatred and wish things worked out better in previous relationships.
I'm not sure what could make someone assume people don't have emotions. But I can understand wanting to know if someone actually cares about others.
< Message edited by Eivarden -- 8/22/2009 8:06:17 PM >
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