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Viridana -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 12:42:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subann51

I'm having a hell of a time finding TRUE Dom males. 


And what constitutes as "true"?



DarkSteven -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 12:46:30 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Viridana

quote:

ORIGINAL: subann51

I'm having a hell of a time finding TRUE Dom males. 


And what constitutes as "true"?



/points to self/
/thumps chest/



lovingpet -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 12:50:08 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: Viridana

quote:

ORIGINAL: subann51

I'm having a hell of a time finding TRUE Dom males. 


And what constitutes as "true"?



/points to self/
/thumps chest/



DS is definitely true alright......

True Neanderthal!

<<runs

lovingpet



LillyoftheVally -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 12:50:35 PM)

True is something real, so I am a True Dominant because I just said so and that was real [:)]

(gotta love philosophy)



LaTigresse -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 12:55:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subann51

I'm having a hell of a time finding TRUE Dom males.  How hard can that be on CM?   The place is loaded, but no one is sincere.  Hey, I'm a woman, big yes, but still a vessel!  If your a man how can deal with an intelligent, witty, loving and caring subby, please contact me!   Sorry to have been aggressive, but we can deal with that issue later![&:]

ann



The weal and twue dominants are all off hanging out with all of the weal and twue slaves. Apparently you are not one of them....



KCalli -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 12:56:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: cornflakegirl

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it's obvious that she had a great time chasing Doms.

That kind of attitude makes people SO much more fun to talk with.


That's a great perspective. One I may have to attempt to adopt. I mostly find dating in general to be difficult and confusing. I should be more playful about it. Ty. :)


<----- nods in agreement here. Don't mind kissing a few frogs to find my prince (I always put a twist in there), but am really tired of the trolls. (sigh) but I know I won't have my Dom fall in my front door, so I must look, and carefully consider. Or I could take up knitting, and just say to hell with it. Nah, knitting would make me nuts after a few weeks. (grinning) too many want the young hard bodies....well, even they grow wrinkles and stuff too.



lovingpet -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 12:57:12 PM)

~FR~

It is just as hard as finding any partner that is truly right for you. It takes time. Also, just because someone isn't a good fit for you doesn't mean he's not a dream for someone else. Patience darlin!

lovingpet



cornflakegirl -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 1:07:30 PM)


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ORIGINAL: KCalli

<----- nods in agreement here. Don't mind kissing a few frogs to find my prince (I always put a twist in there), but am really tired of the trolls. (sigh) but I know I won't have my Dom fall in my front door, so I must look, and carefully consider. Or I could take up knitting, and just say to hell with it. Nah, knitting would make me nuts after a few weeks. (grinning) too many want the young hard bodies....well, even they grow wrinkles and stuff too.



Knitting could be fun, if I could figure out why I follow all the instructions and wind up with tangled string. ;)

I quilt, and play video games. I figure, eventually, I will meet a fellow that really appreciates my warm blankets or really enjoys a challenge at Super Mario Kart.



LillyoftheVally -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 1:09:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

~FR~

It is just as hard as finding any partner that is truly right for you. It takes time. Also, just because someone isn't a good fit for you doesn't mean he's not a dream for someone else. Patience darlin!

lovingpet


*nodding away*

Seriously I was looking at my past relationships the other day, at the time of split I mostly blamed myself or them, and now I realise 90& of them broke up for one reason and one reason alone, we didnt ever or we stopped fitting



SoulPiercer -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 1:24:34 PM)

The issue of your relatively short length of time of the site has already been addressed. Instead, I'll talk about something else.

I don't know if you would consider me a "true dom" or not. However, if I came across your profile, I'd click off after the first few sentences. It has nothing to do with your age, nor your weight. Your profile is too focused on the negative.

"I've met one too many toads as of late"

Okay. How many millions of men live in the state of New York? With those kinds of odds, you've had no luck. Why in the world would anyone think they had a chance?

It may be true that you attract more flies with honey than you do with vinegar, however, you're attracting just enough flies with that sour attitude to guarantee you'll always be surrounded by toads.



MagiksSlave -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 1:34:20 PM)

((Sings))
Where have all the good Doms gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the good Doms gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the good Doms gone?
Gone to slave girls every one
When will they ever learn? When will they ever learn?
((end song))

Okay, sorry, really am, couldnt help it, but really?? True Doms?? I see that and my brain shuts down... its a factery defect in my brain, Im sure, but it happens each and every time the words 'real' or 'true' are mentioned.

MS



sweetsub1957 -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 1:37:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subann51

I'm having a hell of a time finding TRUE Dom males.  How hard can that be on CM?   The place is loaded, but no one is sincere.  Hey, I'm a woman, big yes, but still a vessel!  If your a man how can deal with an intelligent, witty, loving and caring subby, please contact me!   Sorry to have been aggressive, but we can deal with that issue later![&:]

ann


Well, I checked out your profile & I have to admit I think shows a bit of an attitude.  You've just barely signed up on this site and you're already uptight that you haven't instantly found a Dom.  There are plenty of good Dom males out there, it's just that evidently none of them so far feel they will click with you.  We are both older, plus-sized women and, so I can tell you it will take a little longer to find the right Dominant.  It's just the way it is.  But it's a lot easier to do with the right kind of attitude and a friendly profile.  It took awhile, but I met Sir so I know it can happen.  Maybe instead of referring to Doms as "one too many toads" say what you can do for Him and what kind of relationship you are looking for.  If you tell Them what you can do for Them, it also won't sound so "do-me."  Good luck.  [;)]



Level -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 1:43:15 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ
It took me a year and a half.
In the span between joining and meeting Him I met some great people who I feel fortunate to be friends with and had another positive but brief relationship as well.

I have met many people here who are sincere.



This is a bit of a thread hijack, but... I was about to ask angelika if she enjoyed her searching or thought of it as a grim but necessary task.  Then I reread her post and it's obvious that she had a great time chasing Doms.

That kind of attitude makes people SO much more fun to talk with.



I don't know angelika is with, but I hope he realizes how lucky he is. Truly, she is a sweetie, and has earned my respect.



kiwisub12 -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 2:03:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: cornflakegirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: KCalli

<----- nods in agreement here. Don't mind kissing a few frogs to find my prince (I always put a twist in there), but am really tired of the trolls. (sigh) but I know I won't have my Dom fall in my front door, so I must look, and carefully consider. Or I could take up knitting, and just say to hell with it. Nah, knitting would make me nuts after a few weeks. (grinning) too many want the young hard bodies....well, even they grow wrinkles and stuff too.



Knitting could be fun, if I could figure out why I follow all the instructions and wind up with tangled string. ;)

I quilt, and play video games. I figure, eventually, I will meet a fellow that really appreciates my warm blankets or really enjoys a challenge at Super Mario Kart.


Quilting - me too, and reading and chain mailling and wood carving and nurturing  6 parrots  - all with a dom in the house.  I even  made him a quilt - now, that has to be love!
OP - it sounds as if you are in sub frenzy - the desire to have a dom completely overriding your common sense. Calm down a tad and give your search a bit of time.

In the meantime, enjoy your life journey.



WyldHrt -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 2:10:37 PM)

Wow, there a whole lot of "I" and "me" and "my" in that profile. As has been said, it comes across as a "do me" submissive, which may well be a  turnoff for the type of Dom you are trying to attract. To quote DemonKia, "this is not a grocery store of lust", meaning that you may have to actually put in a bit of effort to find someone who is a good fit. That is likely to take a lot more than 3 weeks, as most here can (and have) told you.



subann51 -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 2:22:54 PM)

Thank you all for your constructive ideas.  I appreciate it.  I guess a little back story might have been helpful in my original thought, but think that's not what is needed. 
You're right, too, that it does take time. 
Ann





DarkSteven -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 2:28:48 PM)

And ann, it needs to be said...

[sm=welcomewave.gif]



Musicmystery -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 3:02:40 PM)

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Where have all the good Doms gone?


Well, today I was working in the garden much of the day.

Haven't talked to the others today.



Malkinius -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 3:12:34 PM)

Greetings ann...

I am going to make this fairly short and regretfully, not exactly nice. I too looked at your profile and it isn't a sub's profile at all. It is a bottom's profile. The more conditions, demands and restrictions you place on yourself the more you are in control of what is going on. Someone who wants someone who is actually submissive will take one look and keep going. If someone (like me) who is not looking for a sub but a slave saw that...and I have seen many like that...it is automatically rejected as unsuitable.

The point of being a sub is to submit yourself to someone else. The more you control what is happening the less you are submitting. Restrictions on what you can do due to things like health, physical conditions, children, marriage, jobs, etc. are one thing. Those we can and do work with. Even your size, while a turn off for many, is a plus for some.

My point is this. If you want to be a sub, act and speak like one. If you don't, you won' be unless it is to someone who is so desperate for a sub they will take anyone who is desperate enough to have them.

Also, as you may have noticed, any time you add the word true to terms like Master, Dom, sub, slave you will get laughed at.

Be well....

Malkinius



subann51 -> RE: Where have all the good Dom's gone?! (8/16/2009 3:34:56 PM)

Ouch!



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