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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:15:08 AM

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I will call someone Sir if they display this characteer. Especially as I learned to use these terms with elders growing up. iIwill not call a stranger Master and i dont like when they expect it. I use it when they have earned it. I dont feel someone earns Master unless they are widely known as this is the community and they earned it. I will call my Master, master if he chooses. I much prefer Sir or Daddy myself. But if my Master gave me instructions as what to call certain Dominants if he was truly my Master i would do it, even if I didnt like it. That is if he has earned my respect and obedience. i would then oblige him.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:17:01 AM

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Tammy,
I was always taught to only call MY Dom by those titles & like my Angel (Angelika) only when I earn it. But then again it depends on what you are told to do by your Dom. When we play w/other Dom's I usually just call 'em "Sir" unless told otherwise.

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And there are doms who prefer to be addressed as Sir and not Master.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:18:35 AM

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Generally, subs/slaves who contact me, either because they are interested or just in response to something I wrote, do so with some sort of respectful address, mindful of their position. That is, I think, appropriate. I'm not fussy about what, nor do I insist (I think that would be silly anyway). Sir, Lord, Master, Master Tim--doesn't matter. I appreciate the polite approach.

Gorean slaves, incidentally, expect to call all men (at least the Gorean ones) Master, and the ones here generally use Master Tim, while girls serving me directly (or wishing too) call me Master--but it's not any fast rule. Anything respectful is fine. BDSM girls commonly call me Sir. I just accept it as it's intended.

I also think people worry about things like this far too much. If I don't know you, just be reasonably polite and respectful. If you're a girl submitting herself, just kneel your naked self at my feet and do as you're told. When you aren't sure how to respond, say "Yes, Master!"

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:18:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: SweetNika

My question was far from a delrailment and wasn't meant as anything but a curious question brought on by Holly's post. I asked b/c I wasn't sure if I read her post wrong or simply was reading to much into it so rather than assume I asked and politily in my opinion.

Edited to add: no where in MY post / question to Holly did I even mention anyone sucking cock so perhaps its you Rain who is delaing this thread with those kind of comments or reading far to much into my simple question.

No, it was included because a snippy answer that included the phrase "whatever floats your boat, tammy, however calling my Daddy "Sir" and then kneeling to suck His cock is not going to garner you the respect and love that i receive from Him. in all honesty, He wouldn't give a second glance to a submissives like you. " the bolded part was completely unnecessary, as it's hurtful and uncalled for. It was in reference to other posts in the thread and not aimed at you, though I think it would be considerate to the OP to keep on topic if possible.

And Kali, you silly, wonderful woman...... you know I didn't mean your comment!!!!

(Do you really have to go to work, we could play here and have fun.....just sayin.......)

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:28:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

Hubby and i are strictly monogamous..so calling another by a title reserved for him is out of the question. If we played with others, it might be a different story. On the flip side..once at a munch a Dom kept referring me as "Subby". He was told my name and strongly advised to use it.

I cant call the Jimbo Master and suck his cock?????

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:28:58 AM

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***Sigh*** So much hate on the boards today (other threads too). Is there going to be a full moon tonight?

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And there are doms who prefer to be addressed as Sir and not Master.

I agree w/you, Bear-Bear. I call everyone in my vanilla life "Sir" most of the time in jest (If they're youngin's) but if they're older adults then unless they prove otherwise, they've earned that title. Unlike another poster, I WAS raised to respect my elders and not call them by their first names unless invited to do so and even then I'll slap on a "Mr. or Miss" in front for the respect factor. That's a pet peeve of mine on the ambulance with the young folks calling nursing home residents by their first name and I'll always address that both onscene/off.

Uh, Tammy sorry to derail your thread but it's KINDA on topic, no?

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:34:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: Rainfire

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ORIGINAL: SweetNika

So in your eyes Holly calling someone by a title such as Sir,Ma'am ect means you're not monogomous?

No, Nika, she was just explaining that in her situation, which is a monogamous one. No where did holly insinuate that calling someone Sir or Ma'am meant you weren't monogamous.Unlike some people on the forums, and I'm not thinking of anyone in particular though I'm sure we can all think of one..... Holly is strictly speaking about herself and not making a grand, wide assumption.

Please don't read more into it that what is meant..... Tammy asked a question which she would appreciate answers/opinions. Not snippy comments about her sucking another man's cock or derailments.

Thank you Rain...well said.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:35:55 AM

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this is what i do. i call every Dom/me by their first name initially. however, if over time they show me they are worth the title of Sir or Madam i will start using that for them. i feel it is simply a sign of respect to someone who is definitely worth it. i don't just throw those titles around loosely and if they happen to disprove to me that they are worth the title then i will stop using it for them. right now i have a man in my life who i refer to as "my Sir" but we are not yet in a committed, serious relationship. if at some point we would be, then his title is changed to Master. imho, my Owner is not a Sir, he is my Master. Any man can be called a "sir" naturally just through manners or how you were brought up. and it can be a very nice title for someone coming from a submissive, but my OWNER requires a stronger, more powerful name from me. Make sense? The only exception to this would be if my Master would state otherwise.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:37:00 AM

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this is what i do. i call every Dom/me by their first name initially. however, if over time they show me they are worth the title of Sir or Madam i will start using that for them. i feel it is simply a sign of respect to someone who is definitely worth it. i don't just throw those titles around loosely and if they happen to disprove to me that they are worth the title then i will stop using it for them.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:40:44 AM

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Rain I missed that post you were refering to and thank you for the explanation. lol

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 6:41:15 AM

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 5:12:45 AM
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My D would be offended if I called anyone else a term that I called Him.
He earned the respect in my eyes to be called that and I earned the right to use it.

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ORIGINAL: SweetNika

My question was far from a delrailment and wasn't meant as anything but a curious question brought on by Holly's post. I asked b/c I wasn't sure if I read her post wrong or simply was reading to much into it so rather than assume I asked and politily in my opinion.

Edited to add: no where in MY post / question to Holly did I even mention anyone sucking cock so perhaps its you Rain who is delaing this thread with those kind of comments or reading far to much into my simple question.

Nika...Rains comment was secondary to past posts and was totally appropriate.

As to my comment...Hubs and i are married, exclusive to each other, etc. I have certain ways of addressing him that are his and his alone.

I would not refer to another Master/Dom and Hubby. Why? He is not my husband. I will not refer to another Dom as Master or Sir for the same reason.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 7:27:07 AM

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I can think of an exception:

There is at least one (probably more than one) author who uses Master __ as their nome de plume.
I have used "Master__" when I have addressed them in an email.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 7:34:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

whatever floats your boat, tammy, however calling my Daddy "Sir" and then kneeling to suck His cock is not going to garner you the respect and love that i receive from Him. in all honesty, He wouldn't give a second glance to a submissives like you.

i wasn't raised to address adults as Sir or Ma'am ...i was allowed to call them by their first names even as a child.

i don't call dominants "sir" / "master" / "lord" or whatever title they pull out of the sky ...only Daddy gets that special treatment.

Good thing that "Daddy" gets that treatment because I understand that you've just lost another fiance. I'm SURE that he was "just another asshole" but the funny thing is, you and your "daddy" always go into consultation on whether or not these mates that you deal with on a "real-time" basis are suitable for you.

And yet you feel that you can state...in an insulting manner... whether or not someone like tammy would be of value to your "Daddy"? She probably wouldn't be of value to your "Daddy" because unlike you, she'd probably have the guts to demand to see him once in awhile. Unlike you, I seriously doubt that she'd let some unseen "daddy" control her life to the extent that you let your unseen "daddy" control yours, even as it comes to your love life. Do you have that same say in his or is that a silly question because everyone knows the answer...no.

There now...did that cut to the chase enough for you?

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 7:47:45 AM

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Yanno, in all seriousness tammy, I think that it is best to discuss with "your" Sir how he wants you to address other dominants. For myself, I've been addressed by my submissives by everything from my real name all the way up to "Master". A lot depended on the dynamic but in everyday interaction, a lot depended on what was going on at the time. When I am being serious...such as in discussing a topic surrounding D/s or a breach on her part, I expect to be addressed by the title that I know...for her...shows respect. If she knows another dominant and respects them, I see no problem with having her address other dominants as "Sir" or "Ma'am", especially if it helps to differentiate between those she knows and respects and those she does not respect.

If he wants you to call other dominants "Sir" or "Ma'am" and you are having trouble with that, for whatever reason, then explain that to him but remember...if he has set up the dynamic...and you have agreed...such that his word is final, then you are going to have to try and get over your difficulty. Perhaps you could help yourself along by referring to him as "my Sir" vs. calling other dominants "Sir" or "Ma'am". That has been helpful to one of my submissives in the past.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 8:07:59 AM

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 8:16:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: SweetNika

Rain I missed that post you were refering to and thank you for the explanation. lol

S'kay, Nika.... kinda thought you might have!

Did you get your cmail?

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 8:18:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

CD...i ADORE you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Shhhhhhhhhh, you'll give him a fat head.......

We wouldn't want it any fatter than it already is - might not fit on the Putt-Putt Mobile.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 8:19:13 AM

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my practice is to discuss with the Dominant i am with what He wants me to call others.
Most often i am instructed to ask the other dominant how He wants to be addressed - in a lifestyle setting and in vanilla.
In other cases i use the form of address that the Dominant i am with perfers/instructs/commands.
Since i am usually the oldest one in the group i don't "sir" or "ma'am" a lot automatically.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 8:21:30 AM

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Fox is southern, so Sir and Maam are fine. He will never call another his love, nor his wife, and thats the only 2 titles I care about.

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RE: To all subs; Calling another Dominant by Sir, Maste... - 8/19/2009 8:35:11 AM

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*warm fuzzies re: DV and Fox*

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