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ORIGINAL: Demetrius1029384

What I still don't understand is how it works.. I mean why would any man.. or woman.. PAY someone to use and abuse them.. or whatever... If someone wanted me to do things for them.. I'd be like you pay me.. not me pay you to boss me around.. I don't see how men and women can honestly PAY to be a slave to someone.. its just not sane really.. Are people really that desperate or just that dumb and ignant..

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ORIGINAL: NoreenSwan

A slave paying tribute to his Owner is consistent with the concept of one person's ownership, possession and control of a another.  If there's no ownership tho and instead it's just play, the man can hope to find a woman willing to play with him for free. But he has to be attracted to her on some level. Same for the woman, she has to find him interesting and attractive before she will play with him. That's the hard part for both. So some men prefer just to use money to find a woman who will thinking of that as a good enough reason to play with him because it's quicker than finding a willing woman sometimes.

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ORIGINAL: queencaliph

For the same reason people pay for a prostitute or an escort service.  They get the service they want or need with no strings attached. Some want play partners but cannot find one (especially true for male subs).  others have no desire to have a real relationship but still want D/s play.
A guy once told me "you don't pay a prostitute for sex, you pay her to go away afterwards without any expectations." 

And that's how it works.
 
The last 2 line of your post, are right on point.
 You are not paying a Professional Dominant only for her services, you are paying her to leave you alone and go away after you get your kinky desires taken care of.
No strings attached Domination!

< Message edited by VeryMercurial -- 8/23/2009 7:22:38 PM >

(in reply to queencaliph)

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

I don't find the idea of a pro-domme offensive, though I do find it mildly so to find them advertising on CM for free and then complaining about the replies they get. I realize that a good business will take free publicity wherever they can find it, but if you are going to come onto what is in effect a free dating site and advertise your business then you have to expect a little negative feedback. You get what you pay for girls, and you take the good with the bad. Your whining about it is both pointless and unseemly. If you don't like the sort of response you advertisement is getting from CM, well then pull your ad and demand your money back. Or better yet create a website and pay CM to put up an ad with a link to your site.....oh wait,that would actually cost you money wouldn't it.

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ORIGINAL: Arillis


I believe you have in that short paragraph said more then has been said in everything written on this topic.
I know of no man who has not felt a sense of responsibility in upgrading and maintaining a financial worry free tranquil happy environment for the woman he is emotionally bound to. In fact, the sense of protectiveness is instinctive in the male and the passion to insure her well being rages within him. But that has absolutely nothing at all to do with D/s or the demands for dollars. I like you found no challenge or conflict with lavishing the woman in my life with her slightest whim and found great pleasure in doing so. In fact, I was even selfish about it and often bought her jewelry and apparel without telling her. I just put them in her jewelry box or hung them in her closet or put them in her underwear drawer because I wanted her to have them but if she would have demanded on dime from me...my buying her things would have come to a screeching halt and frankly before the words of demand were out of her mouth I would have been gone regardless of my emotional attachment. A woman can take the man out of manhood but no woman can take the manhood out of the man.

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

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ORIGINAL: Arillis


I believe you have in that short paragraph said more then has been said in everything written on this topic.
I know of no man who has not felt a sense of responsibility in upgrading and maintaining a financial worry free tranquil happy environment for the woman he is emotionally bound to. In fact, the sense of protectiveness is instinctive in the male and the passion to insure her well being rages within him. But that has absolutely nothing at all to do with D/s or the demands for dollars. I like you found no challenge or conflict with lavishing the woman in my life with her slightest whim and found great pleasure in doing so. In fact, I was even selfish about it and often bought her jewelry and apparel without telling her. I just put them in her jewelry box or hung them in her closet or put them in her underwear drawer because I wanted her to have them but if she would have demanded on dime from me...my buying her things would have come to a screeching halt and frankly before the words of demand were out of her mouth I would have been gone regardless of my emotional attachment. A woman can take the man out of manhood but no woman can take the manhood out of the man.

It's incredibly interesting to me that what this paragraph boils down to it..."I'll do what I want and if you communicate clear expectations and desires to me in regards to financial stuff, I'm gone." Call me whatever you want out of it, but that's a pretty shitty attitude to me. Then again, what do I know, I'm in a D/s relationship with a FemDomme.

boi

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ORIGINAL: Arillis


I believe you have in that short paragraph said more then has been said in everything written on this topic.
I know of no man who has not felt a sense of responsibility in upgrading and maintaining a financial worry free tranquil happy environment for the woman he is emotionally bound to. In fact, the sense of protectiveness is instinctive in the male and the passion to insure her well being rages within him. But that has absolutely nothing at all to do with D/s or the demands for dollars. I like you found no challenge or conflict with lavishing the woman in my life with her slightest whim and found great pleasure in doing so. In fact, I was even selfish about it and often bought her jewelry and apparel without telling her. I just put them in her jewelry box or hung them in her closet or put them in her underwear drawer because I wanted her to have them but if she would have demanded on dime from me...my buying her things would have come to a screeching halt and frankly before the words of demand were out of her mouth I would have been gone regardless of my emotional attachment. A woman can take the man out of manhood but no woman can take the manhood out of the man.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
Right with you, boijen!  Isn't doing what you want on your terms... dominance?  Just checking. 

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

Lady Pact,

I do too, but for the sake of argument, I figured we could run with the notion that he may be voicing a truth.

boi

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

LadyH, Peon, and whoever else is reading,

The thing that tweeks my butt about that particular response is the guy says he's already doing x, y, and z. What's the problem with opening the lines of communication, the FemDomme stating what She desires and formalizing his actions and intention in a conscious, feed the relationship, D/s structured kinda way? Putting language around that, to me the natural word to come up is "tribute".

Just sayin...

In Leather,

boi