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LadyPact -> RE: Do you Copy and Paste messages? (8/25/2009 10:35:39 AM)
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ORIGINAL: TPEOwner
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I'm not a female submissive, but I think this is something that is more applicable to gender rather than role.
The females on this site can spot a form letter very quickly. We see a lot of them and it's not that hard to tell the difference between a generic message and a personal one. That's why you're not getting a response. If I respond to form letters at all, it's to point out the fact that I knew it was a form letter in the first place. Then, I'm finished with that particular person.
You are putting the cart before the horse. I didn't start out writing form letters. I wrote literally hundreds of thoughful, personal messages to women who had profiles I found intruiging and who stated they were seeking something at least close to what I was offering. That was also before they inspired my journal entries. I got practically no responses, except from cam girls and African scammers. The few responses from "real" women I did get led to conversations which were clearly meant to keep me engaged on line as long as possible, with women who were not who they claimed to be and therefore had no intentions of actually meeting anyone.
I'm sorry to say, you just don't get it. You don't write to these female profiles, so how could you possibly understand? There is a whole culture of professional liars on this site, apart from the cam girls and African scammers. These women have no lives but the fictions they create on the internet. Many of them are highly intelligent and creative, and they have this whole fake profile thing down pat. It can take weeks or months to finally figure it out, which is their only objective, to keep someone engaged for weeks or months, before deleting the profile and starting a new one. Yes, I understand the men are just as bad, but just as you don't deal with women, I don't deal with men.
The only rational approach is to write form letters. That way, when they are deleted unread, or read and ignored, there has been no major investment on my part. I might add, that I say in the message that it's a form letter. I tell them why I do it, apologize for the necessity, and invite them to read my profile and respond. On the reare occasion when I come across a really exceptional profile, I will still write a personal letter...and get no response. And for those who think my profile turns them off, almost none of them even bother to look at it.
You are not entirely correct. While I may not be looking for a female submissive in the capacity that you are, I have corresponded with a very good number of submissive females here. There are seven of them (switch gals, I'm counting your submissive sides in that total) on this thread alone and I've even met one of them in person. I hope to meet more of them as time and opportunity allows. Do understand that I probably couldn't remember in some cases who initiated the first mail because in some cases, they are people I've traded notes back and forth over months or years.
That could be because I am a woman or it could be because it wasn't because I wasn't looking for them through the other side. Unless I'm mistaken, it's been initial contact because either I wrote or they wrote something interesting on the boards and the conversations started from there. In other words, it wasn't just a profile thing. It was a person thing.
You never know. That idea for an approach might benefit you in some way.
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