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Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 8:03:12 AM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		I have a group over on Fetlife that is oriented to the femdom girlie boy relationship and dynamic.  I just put this up over there, and thought I would share it here too as it has application for anyone in relationship to a dominant Lady.  You don't have to be girlie to do this for her!

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My Lady and I often do "spa nights" at her house where we do manicures and pedicures, pluck and shave, take baths, and be girly together. It is much fun and I can highly recommend it!

So as the subs/slaves in the relationship, we can do a lot to make it a special night for her. Here are some tips and ideas: :)

Clean up! - spa night should be done in a clean room, with a clean bathroom. Take some time and clean up the place where you will be sharing this experience.

Atmosphere! - spa night is always better with soft music playing in the background, candles lit, and nice scents in the air.

Wine! - or whatever you and your Lady enjoy drinking - have it on hand in nice glasses. Maybe some nibblies too? Some cheeses or olives...or chocolate... :P

Organize! - get your tools together ahead of time, so you don't spend 'spa time' trying to find and organize stuff. This means nail tools, tweezers, razors & cream, clothes, makeup, etc.

Bath Boy/Girl/Girlie Boy! - take a bath together and be your Lady's bath attendant. Shave her legs...and other areas...per her desires...wash and condition her hair...exfoliate together. She can do the same for you if she so desires. If your tub has room for the both of you, you can get in with her. Get out first and be on hand with a clean warm towel to dry her off.  Rub each other with a good smelling lotion and maybe some scented powder.

Pluck! - check out some websites on plucking eyebrows - Here. and get in there and help your Lady keep a nice shape to her eyebrows. Discuss what she wants first...check often during the process...and avoid giving her the perpetually surprised arch if you can.

Nails! - My Lady and I each do each other's nails. I do her hands and feet, and she does my feet. This means learning to give a manicure and pedicure. There is a tutorial on the pedicure in our forum here and the manicure is very much the same procedure just on the hands.

Hair! - check out some fun easy to do hairstyles like braiding, french braiding, rolls, curls, etc. and try them out on spa night! Brush her hair and do some fun things with clips, bands, scrunchies, etc. How else are you going to get practice doing your Lady's hair?

Makeup! - wouldn't it be fun to be able to do your Lady's makeup if she asked? This is the night for practice. Get out on the web and familiarize yourself with the basics (and have her show you) if you are not already knowledgeable.

Power Exchange! - Ladies...this might also be a good night to engage in some power exchange with your girl/boy/girlie boy. Making him wear a butt plug, restrictive clothing or bindings, or having a paddle onhand...just in case...you know. :)

Fun! - this is a play night for both of you and is primarily meant to be fun. So have some together and celebrate your/her girlie side with Her, and give Her some pampering in the process - and hopefully get some yourself.

Enjoy! 


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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 8:10:59 AM   
SomethingCatchy


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Status: offline 		Oh Otter, have I ever told you how madly in love with you I am? Such a wonderful post! Now I'm off to fantasize..

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 8:16:25 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Otter, you are a delight.

I am so happy for both you, and SthrnCom4t. It makes me smile to see how the two of you compliment and care for one another.

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 8:38:20 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		You're just enchanting, Otter!

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 8:47:13 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Wonderful post, Otters!

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 9:29:26 AM   
darchChylde


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Status: offline 		That sounds so fun, almost makes me wish i was a girlie boy; but not quite.

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 10:14:55 AM   
ShaktiSama


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Status: offline 		Ah, Otter.  A man who gives feminization such an excellent name!   

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 10:26:27 AM   
daintydimples


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Status: offline 		Wonderful post, otter. You are a rare gem indeed !!

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 10:36:13 AM   
LdyyR


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Status: offline 		As always, you are one in a million. Another shining example of a most desirable partner.

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 10:40:15 AM   
seababy


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Status: offline 		You are such a sweetie. It sounds like bliss.

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 10:45:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		OttersSwim,

+1

(Net speak for "most excellent post... thank you for sharing".  :-)

Elan.

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 11:55:22 AM   
daintydimples


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Status: offline 		Another post for all the whiny male subs who can't find a domme. Instead of bitching and whining, they should be learning how to improve their skills.

I know of a very young sissy maid in FL who who appears to be wonderfully accomplished (I have not met him real/time) and entirely self taught. Now, he's a teacher, so he's good at learning. But he's spent his time honing his skills instead of bitching and moaning. 

If the male subs I encounter were even half as accomplished as otter, they would be rising to the top in any dommes search parameters.




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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 4:30:00 PM   
gentlemanprince


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Status: offline 		I have no desire to be feminized and neither does my Lady. Yet I would delight in doing all those things for her. Otter, you have given me some wonderful ideas. I just searched in my area and found a place that gives a three hour massage class; it's inexpensive. And one more thing. I'm going to use one of those extra large bath sheet towels and find a way to keep it all toasty warm for her.

Any other ideas?

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/26/2009 10:41:56 PM   
StoneFox


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Status: offline 		Brilliant post! That idea was just...blissful :sigh:

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/27/2009 2:03:19 PM   
Eivarden


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Status: offline 		I knew I liked your idea otter, but wow... I'm actually surprised how many positive replies you got back from this.

Well not so much how many replies, but more so, How much they liked it.

Ok, here is the deal Otter, since I'm terrible at coming up with ideas, you share with this young padawan the ways of the forc- I mean, Tell me all your secrets, and I'll give you a cookie.


Please?



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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/27/2009 2:08:21 PM   
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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/27/2009 2:58:18 PM   
pyroaquatic


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Status: offline 		Learning is such a wonderful thing. ^_^

Yay Care!


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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/27/2009 3:08:30 PM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		While I appreciate the praise this topic has brought up, I feel as if I am not worthy of it.  This is all pretty simple stuff and has been done/thought of by many sub boys before me.   I am just the latest to put it down into words, and I am indeed glad that folks are enjoying it and possibly planning it into their busy schedules.

Now you all want to praise someone, praise Slavekal.  He built his Lady a frickin' chariot for God's sake - that's praise worthy!  I demand pics!

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/27/2009 4:11:27 PM   
seababy


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I for one have been so so tired of the consistently whingeing threads. New ones starting all the time on the same old tired subjects of tributes, lack of mail response, women being too fat,and fake this fake that. The Dommes  bashing is tedious.

Then along comes your post. Its uplifting, positive and feels like a breath of fresh air.
Roll on even more of types of posts. I'm a fan and it looks like a few more around here are too.

(Except now I'm jealous of Dommes with good subs. Can I just switch for a night so I can have a spa too?)

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RE: Spa Night with your Lady - 8/27/2009 4:31:14 PM   
Reigna


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Status: offline 		I very much appreciate the OP and the spirit in which it was offered, but I have to say that I'm not one to indulge. I really can do without all the coiffing and nail buffing and whatnot.

To begin with, I am sufficiently vain that I won't let anyone near my hair who isn't a professional with significant expertise. I pay through the nose for the best cut and color I can find; but to my stylist's despair, once out of his chair all I do is wash and condition. I'm just not interested in all that fussing. I use makeup and I love perfume, but I go for quick and simple. Similarly with manicures. I use my hands, sometimes quite vigorously, and my fingernails often are in a frightful state. (Rubber gloves are my sub's friends.) A hand massage with some lovely shea butter cream? By all means. But don't bother me with that other crap; it won't last, and I don't enjoy it.

My sub would love for me to have spa nights with him. Unfortunately for him, I indulge him very seldom, and only when I really feel like it. I lace him into his corsets and occasionally I'll paint his toe nails or apply his makeup, but that's the extent of it. Much more than that, and I start to wonder who's serving whom.

To emphasize what a curmudgeon I am about this, I confess that the term "girly" used in this context really sets my teeth on edge. In my view, there's very little that is fundamentally feminine--or masculine, for that matter. The vast majority of the foofaraw about masculinity and femininity is about nothing more than what we're taught to associate with "women" and "men." The wish to be pampered and fussed over is simply human.

And the intensity of the wish varies from human to human. For example, my sub will attest that if you come to me brandishing brushes and powders and mewling about a girly spa night, I will stuff a ball gag in your mouth and then cane the snot out of you. That's the way I roll.


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